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This is why Elimination Communication before about 18 months is pretty much a complete hoax. From 18 months on it might work up to a point. True toilet training only occurs by age two or three at best. Three-and-a-quarter to three-and-a-half seems to be pretty much the norm for daytime toilet training (by even the loosest definition). Nighttime toilet training realistically takes until at least three-and-a-half to four even under ideal circumstances.Lori said:Infants physically cannot 'hold on' to their bladder or bowels. Believe me, my mother is a midwife.
When infants appear to be in discomfort before taking a bowel or bladder movement, it's not because they're trying to let caregivers know they're ready for a dump or a piss, it's because the ... umm ... bits concerned with that particular bodily function are not yet developed properly ... therefore, they may appear to be in discomfort, and they may try to convey that discomfort ... but they have no control over those functions yet, it's scientifically impossible.
The bladder is similar. A baby aged from newborn to about 13 months has no control whatsoever of his/her bladder, and from then on only has extremely limited bladder control.
Sorry for all that graphic imagery, but trying to suggest infant incontinence and use of diapers is taught or learned behaviour is simply wrong.
Potty training isn't 'reversing' anything, because the child never had control of his/her bowels to begin with.
Some people of my parents’s generation have false memories of toilet training as early as age one. This is probably because their parents repeatedly told them stories about this.