Calico said:My son asked me why do I wear them and I told him 'I just do, some adults still wear them' and he said "and kids don't" and I said "No kids don't wear them, only babies." Then he moved on and said nothing else about it.
It felt like lying but how do you explain to a four year old about people choosing to wear diapers and people just choosing to wear them and listing all the reasons, this might be too complicated for him to understand and I don't want him thinking he should start wearing them again and bam I have to deal with wet and messy pants again. I don't want him to go backwards. How would you explain the double standard to a small child? Medical reason is the only excuse or being vague about it and saying some people still wear them and just saying big kids don't wear them. I am not comfortable discussing AB/DL or my lifestyle with him. I would rather list medical reasons why people wear them.
In general, if my diapers are discovered, my need to wear them is the excuse and having a bit of a problem. But no one has asked me about it so I haven't had to explain anything. Only my parents know the real reason.
Clarity said:I'm a bit curious here but how in the world does your 4 year old son know that you wear diapers?
Calico said:My son asked me why do I wear them and I told him 'I just do, some adults still wear them' and he said "and kids don't" and I said "No kids don't wear them, only babies." Then he moved on and said nothing else about it.
It felt like lying but how do you explain to a four year old about people choosing to wear diapers and people just choosing to wear them and listing all the reasons, this might be too complicated for him to understand and I don't want him thinking he should start wearing them again and bam I have to deal with wet and messy pants again. I don't want him to go backwards. How would you explain the double standard to a small child? Medical reason is the only excuse or being vague about it and saying some people still wear them and just saying big kids don't wear them. I am not comfortable discussing AB/DL or my lifestyle with him. I would rather list medical reasons why people wear them.
In general, if my diapers are discovered, my need to wear them is the excuse and having a bit of a problem. But no one has asked me about it so I haven't had to explain anything. Only my parents know the real reason.
Calico said:I never kept it hidden from him. I think it's impossible to hie it from your kids if you're a 24/7 wearer.
Jamieboy said:Obviously it depends, person to person, but I think the best reason, not excuse, is Irritable Bowel Syndrome, or bladder infection, since both can leave you with somewhat limited control, and diapers could certainly be part of a suggested mitigation of these urinary/bowel issues. It can always be said that's it's far better to be safe, than sorry, and leave it at that. As for the babyish designs, you could just claim they were the only ones you could find, when you went looking. Trouble is, once you lie, you're going to have to live with the consequences of someone "knowing" something that really should be private. This is where we Americans can use the ADA act, or Americans with Disabilities Act, to protect from further intrusion, as in the workplace, with police, medical people, etc. NO, you don't have to have a doctor's order/prescription (it's not Nazi Germany here!), just a personal reason to be wearing something you thought you were keeping private. Obviously, if you choose to go to the local playground in your Disney print plastic pants, and play on the gymnasium equipment, trying to relive your early life, you're going to get arrested as a pedo, and rightfully would deserve it.
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Mistake #1 is not hiding it from him.
Mistake #2 is thinking you can't hide it from them...
I got through three kids, and nearly three decades of kids of all types running in the house, and no one (except the all-knowing wife) ever had a clue, though I wasn't 24/7 at that time. Point is, there's always a way to keep stealthy enough to cover your tracks, but it takes effort and commitment (to keep waste baskets emptied, garbage cans taken out, proper clothing choices, etc). It can, and should be done. Once the cat's out of the bag, no telling which direction the ball is going to roll.
Calico said:What's going to happen if you need to change and you have your kids with you? You sure can't leave them outside the stall alone while you get changed when they are little. Let's just hope that will never happen. And you weren't 24/7 so that was different. Also hope your kids won't be nosy and find them in your house or in the garbage if they look in the trash.