Lots of good advise and suggestions here already, all I'd really add is to be a little careful with Amazon I know some people who have bought nappies from them which arrived with practically no packaging or at least not in a very discreet way showing exactly what was inside. If you look on the amazon listing as you go to make a purchase there is often an option (checkbox) for discreet packaging and if this is not present or checked then you do run a small risk of it not being discreet, though I personally have never encountered this.
FatalGeometry said:
Hi again. I think I have somewhat of a short list for diapers I might consider purchasing. Are any of these good, or are there some I should take off my potential list if they're not very good or not good first diapers?
Little For Big ABDry White - Amazon.
Thrust Vector Better Dry - ABUniverse.
Tena Slip Active Fit Maxi - ABUniverse.
Tena Slip Active Fit Ultima - ABUniverse.
Thanks again for all your help everyone.
Personally I find the Tena Slips to be a great nappy, their pullups that Boots and other chemists often sell are terrible (as with all adult pull ups) but the slips are actually very good especially the ultima, they also have modern style "cloth" backed and plastic backed as options which is nice depending on which you prefer. The Tena slips are also among some of the cheapest high performing nappies and therefore a good option for general everyday wear however...
I do agree in part with what
@LittleMonsterUK said about not starting with the medical style (plain white) like the Tena, if you are only getting a short and rare chance to wear them then you want to go with something that is going to be a great experience you can get the most out of and therefore the ABDL options are best, Crinklz, ABU, maybe even Cuddlz are great choices and have places like NRU where you can buy smaller "sample" packs with very discreet delivery though billing labels may be searchable.
You mentioned that you don't want printed or fancy for less risk disposing but I'd say it's the same risk either way so if a printed nappy takes your fancy go for it and don't worry. some sites like NRU and Incontinence Choice sell larger sized thick black nappy sacks (kind like the small ones for babies that hold on soiled nappy but big enough for an adult one) these look very much like the dog mess disposal bags you can get so with a little care if anyone sees they may just think you are getting rid of dog mess.
Another option you may have that would require perhaps a little courage and faith is depending on where you live there may be other ABDL folk fairly nearby who could either let you have a couple of nappies to trial or order them for you. I myself in the past have given out samples for someone to try and ordered nappies for people who due to circumstances couldn't themselves.
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FatalGeometry said:
I did also want to ask though, I've heard (read) some stories on sites like Wattpad (probably not factual) saying that if you get used to just wetting your diapers whenever you feel the urge that you can lose some bladder control and become slightly incontinent??? I assume it's all BS but I wanted to check first. Is there really any risk of that?
You don't have to worry this won't happen after just a couple of times, there are people (many even on this site) who have been wearing and using nappies 24/7 with the goal of becoming incontinent for years who are still fully in control. I'm not saying it can't happen there are many here who have experienced this but it takes a long time and some effort to make it happen.
The last thing I'd like to say is that if you are 18 you can have and easily set up your own bank account and your parents have no right to pry into it. in the UK from age 18 you have complete control over your finances. Parents have no legal right to know what their children earn, the investments that they make, the products or services that they pay for, or the savings decisions that they choose. An 18-year-old may choose to make a family member a joint account holder, a beneficiary or an emergency contact for all things related to finances, but there’s no UK law which can force an 18-year-old to share finances and financial information with his or her parents.
So if you have your own account there is no reason you can't buy what you want from where you want on the debit card and then simply don't let them see it, use online banking and choose a paperless option then the only way they could know what you bought or where from is if you specifically choose to log in and show them, they cannot legally force you to do so.
Now I understand that every family is different and your family may have had previous incidents with your cousin which led to your parents not trusting you fully but it doesn't remove your right to financial privacy.
