AlyJenkins15 said:
Heit llo I'm new to this site and I'm here because my fiance who I love with all my heart is an ABDL and I'm trying to understand, and accept his Why and how. I guess Im here hoping to get help with this. I don't think I will ever understand the why, but I know he has told me it has to do with stress relief. I guess I'm stuck on the how's... how can he be into all this? How did it all start? How can I be more accepting and more of what he needs? Having been with him for a little over a year I have come to love him more than any other man even the fathers of my 2 sons. Thats one of the things that makes this so hard my sons they love my fiance but they do not know this life and I don't want them to as they are only 3 & 7 .
My fiance wants to be diapered 24/7 which I'm OK with, he wants me to change him which I'm trying I don't like the spells but if I could find ways to avoid that I think I will be find.
I don't want to lose my husband part of him I think that's what I fear most!!!!
As he is now talking about taking the AB part to the next level he wants to be treated like a baby and with 2 sons to raise I see this as a struggle
how can I give my man some of the life he fantasizes without exposure to my children??
welcome to a ADISC .
There's a book you need to read the title is there's a baby in my bed by Rosalie Bent.
It will tell a lot that can help you both fine balance.
An AB/DL needs to find balance we some of us can very easy want baby time all the time.
If we can balance our adult self with our little with an understanding wife we can havd a good life.
There needs to be boundary on both sides that way the wife or partner does not get overwhelmed.
because in a partnership that is a two way street given take and sharing is most important.
You need to be able to communicate your feelings as much as he communicates his that way you can come do a good compromise.
he sometimes has a AB/DL else can be a little selfish .
That's because from what we are little's and are like kids and kids can be very selfish but we have to realize is that you have wants and needs also and to be fair that your want's and needs are met too.
It's only through talking these type of things out that we can understand when we were going a little overboard.
Now let's talk about comfort and in being an ABDL.
I don't know his background or what caused him to be an ABDL cuz we all come into this differently.
It's like different shades of grey we all pretty much do somewhat the same thing but there different shades of grey.
now now in my case I had trouble keeping my pants dry when I was a kid so one day I was put back into pampers and that caused me to get hooked on this at 7.
Not all of us came into this that way but somehow we all come in do it differently or slight variations of how we come into it. my childhood was harsh and it was hard going through lot of things happed
the happiest time in my life was when I was I'll probably when I was a baby and a toddler or a very young child . You have to realize that the body I believe the body remembers even if we don't consciously remember.
So when I was put into diapers it triggered a feeling it felt so good like a lost memory.
From that time on I wanted to be a baby to be loved and held and it triggered that within me.
for some of that we never wanted to give up our diapers we have some of those here too.
they do feel good to a guy's
It only took that one time to hook me but when I feel down or unhappy I went to my happy place is being my little.so when I'm in my little mode I can't be hurt and nobody can hurt me you know and I can be the carefree me that I am . Because I'm very kind hearted and would never hurt anybody.
So I get comfort and it helps me cope with all the cruelty that I've had to go through.
So please get that book it will help you a lot with your questions.
All the best to you and husband
