I'm in my mid late 40s but easily look 22. And act like a 4 1/2 year old emotionally and socially because of my Autism. I have a habit of calling all my old college instructors Mrs. and Mr.
One of my old math teachers from community college, now that I am in my mid 40s tells me it's okay to call him by his first name (Steve), but I keep insisting on calling him Mr. _______. He's in his early 70s now. I've known him 28 1/2 years, and I was in my late teens when I took his class. When I call him and ask for "Mr. _______", he comments to his wife somewhat half laughingly, "I told him it was okay to call me Steve, but he just keeps insisting on calling me Mr. _______". Anyway I don't feel like I'm in my mid 40s at all. I still live with my parents because of my Classic Autism and ADHD. I haven't done a lot of things normal 20-, 30-, or 40 years old have done. I have no girlfriend, no wife, never had any kids, hell I don't even drive a car because of my attention span is so bad I can't even concentrate 20 minutes barely. I feel sometimes like I'm less than a normal nonautistic 4 or 5 year old. There are preschoolers who have better social skills and better understanding of nonverbal facial cues than I do. Most of my friends are either elderly people now (ranging from old college instructors from the past to surrogate grandparent like figures, to old librarians) or they tend to be (at least until COVID 19 happened) toddlers / preschoolers and younger children. I have been bullied by high school and college age kids too long and even by people my own age. Actually from many research papers, it also isn't unusual for Autistic "adults" to have mostly friends who are either children or elderly. Then again, my brother is normal and has 2 boys (my nephews, who are 6 and 10). My brother is a few years younger than me. He loved to play basketball in junior high and high school and he sometimes plays basketball with kids in their mid to late teens in his neighborhood at the basketball courts.
Also if someone perceives you as a child, they might treat you like one, even if you are the same age as them. I substitute taught high school for a short time 20+ years ago. I was a complete and total failure because I failed to control the kids. The thing is, the high school kids and even the junior high school kids knew I didn't have any authority. In the first place, I am emotionally and socially like a child. But aside from that, at age 25 and 26, I looked easily like a 14 or 15 year old. In some high schools, not only the students mistook me for being another student, but the STAFF and ADMINISTRATION as well! My mom and I were told by a parking staff member at one high school that "Once you park, you can't leave until 7:30 AM!!". I was like "What??!! I'm a substitute teacher". The guy said "Oh....never mind then". LOL.
I saw the parking guy later in the day (he looked to me to be 50). He told me he was sorry for mistaking me as a high school kid. We both had a good laugh over that one. LOL. In another high school, I was at the school library walking behind the librarian into one of the staff areas. She turns around and scolds me saying "You know you're not supposed to be back here!!". I said "I'm not a student for crying out loud, I'm a substitute teacher!". She laughed and said "Never mind. This is the SECOND time I made this mistake today."
Sigh. It's so hard to have any authority with school kids if you look like you are that age. But high school is difficult to teach especially if you are a substitute. I've known parents of preschoolers who told me there's no way on Earth that they would substitute high school. My old math teacher (Steve) taught high school for one year about 45-50 years ago. One year there was already enough to drive him insane to the point where he decided to teach community college instead.
I'm not sure how much authority I would have even with preschoolers or kindergartners. I think they would perceive me to be their age. There have been many, many, many times where I have wondered if it would have better off for me - and everyone else - if I had just not grown up at all, not just developmentally or emotionally / socially, but if I had been a proportionate pituitary dwarf that looked like a 3 or 4 year old. I think people would also be a lot more understanding of me. I'd also would have enjoyed still being able to ride Power Wheels cars, amusement park rides for children, and some of the more adorable children's clothing like long-alls and T strap shoes. I also doubt I'd get bullied. I had all sorts of problems with my attention span and even remembering to do my homework all through school from kindergarten to past high school. I'm probably a poster child of someone who should have kept in preschool like forever. I was actually an assistant volunteer co-host at Preschooler Storytime for 3-5 year olds at my library alongside my children's librarian friend (who is now in her mid 60s) for over 16 years until COVID 19 happened. COVID 19 was the absolutely the worst and most terrible experience of my life - I hardly got to go out at all, it was quarantining like heck. I didn't see some of my friends and even relatives for almost 3 years!
- longallsboy