My wife knows I'm IC. She also knew when we met that I was a DL and thought I'd outgrow it, I didn't. Then 5 years ago I became IC, she understood and supports, most nights asking me if I have my protection on. I always answer her. Even so, I feel embarrassed when wearing diapers and plastic pants. For home time evenings I wear night shirts, like they wore during the pioneer days, they were hard to find online. Nightshirts mask or obscure any outline of a bulging diaper, for me it's the perfect solution since the diaper now no longer is shown in any way. Mens lines of night shirts are boresville, for fun bright prints and colors, women's lines provide them. I have looney tunes, zebra, pinicolada, leopard, all kinds of fun bright nightshirts I wear nightly. I don't worry about sweat pants with diaper bulges now, the nightshirts work for me. What works for you?