MrGnome said:
My wife wants to be more involved with my diaper changes when were in public. She said she wants to change me in a private family restroom. But not sure if its even legal for us to go in the family restroom at the same time? Were a younger couple not elderly or anything.
My fear is they might think were having sex in the bathroom. Which we definitely don't plan on having sex in there! It's way too uncomfortable anyway lol. My other fear is since I'm not in a wheelchair is it gonna look weird my wife is going in there with me? Do you have to be in wheelchair to have someone assist you with a diaper change?
Your wife wants to change you. Great. She wants to change you in public, without you having medical need. Not my cup of tea. Is it legal for both of you to go in there at the same time? Sure.
People who want diaper changes to look sexy, can make them look that way, but typically, diaper changes don't look like sex. You're correct. Public bathrooms are dreadfully uncomfortable. Yes, it will look weird to vanillas, should any see you.
Often, handicap rails, and family restrooms, occupy the same area, but not always. Sometimes, there are adult changing tables in there. Do you have to be in a wheelchair to need help? No. Not all disabilities are visible.
As a wheelchair user, my nerve gets touched by the emotional equivalent to a reflex hammer, when someone seeks accommodation they don't need, because other people do. That's why it's not my bag.
Now, on the other end of that, I'm a Little. I get it. I do. Can the 2 of you do this safely? Yes, with proper precautions. Are either of you doing anything illegal? No. Will it look weird to the unaware? Yeah, but they'll probably just be killer embarrassed for you.
Would I do it for someone without medical need? No. That's me. That's my boundary. Am I everyone's moral compass? No! That's too much work.
Look.
There's a good chance, Don't start none; won't be none," applies here.
Most likely, if you don't go out of your way to make there be something for the vanilla public to see, they won't see anything, but, if your conscience is stinging, already, maybe the reason is, you know others require accommodation?
One thing to keep in mind, is that, the vanilla public doesn't know you from Adam's house cat, and it sure would be a shame if you had something invisible, and they felt like donkies,for judging you. I can tell you what I would and wouldn't do, and why. I can also tell you, that, sometimes, the public jumps to conclusions, and judges too harshly, and needs to get over itself. There a reason the handicap stalls aren't locked up, and reserved, here where I am. At the end of the day, it's a bathroom, and if no one with a disability is using it, making a normie wait is a dick move.