Boys vs. girls. Question?

[LittleLeahx]

Cis girl here
For me, diapers (and little space) really help with dealing with stress and anxiety. Also, it’s not very sexual on my end. I’m 19 and I’ve been on different kink/abdl site since I was 18, so about a year and a half and I have had a lot of bad/very weird interactions. Before Adisc, I used Fetlife but I stopped because instead of having conversations with other ABDLs, I would end up with creepy men in my inbox who knew nothing about ABDL and pretty much only imagined how their idea of ABDL and their idea of an 18yo girl could fit in their fantasy. I would tell some men upfront that it wasn’t related to my sexuality that much, they would be ok with it and then not that much time later, they would start to make everything sexual and making feel like an object.
Adisc has been waaaay better

 

[Eclectic]

Cis girl here
For me, diapers (and little space) really help with dealing with stress and anxiety. Also, it’s not very sexual on my end. I’m 19 and I’ve been on different kink/abdl site since I was 18, so about a year and a half and I have had a lot of bad/very weird interactions. Before Adisc, I used Fetlife but I stopped because instead of having conversations with other ABDLs, I would end up with creepy men in my inbox who knew nothing about ABDL and pretty much only imagined how their idea of ABDL and their idea of an 18yo girl could fit in their fantasy. I would tell some men upfront that it wasn’t related to my sexuality that much, they would be ok with it and then not that much time later, they would start to make everything sexual and making feel like an object.
Adisc has been waaaay better

Just a reminder for the girls and guys on here: this is a support group. I’ve been a member here for 15 years. This site is for AB’s, DL’s and people who are genuinely IC to feel comfortable about talking about how they are doing and how they are coping. And just chatting about common interests besides diapers.

It’s not a dating site. It’s not a porn site. It’s not even a social media platform for getting attention. No one on here should be making you feel uncomfortable. If they are, block them and report them.

 

[AlwaysInDiapers]

Just a reminder for the girls and guys on here: this is a support group. I’ve been a member here for 15 years. This site is for AB’s, DL’s and people who are genuinely IC to feel comfortable about talking about how they are doing and how they are coping. And just chatting about common interests besides diapers.

It’s not a dating site. It’s not a porn site. It’s not even a social media platform for getting attention. No one on here should be making you feel uncomfortable. If they are, block them and report them.

Agreed.

 

[AlwaysInDiapers]

Cis girl here
For me, diapers (and little space) really help with dealing with stress and anxiety. Also, it’s not very sexual on my end. I’m 19 and I’ve been on different kink/abdl site since I was 18, so about a year and a half and I have had a lot of bad/very weird interactions. Before Adisc, I used Fetlife but I stopped because instead of having conversations with other ABDLs, I would end up with creepy men in my inbox who knew nothing about ABDL and pretty much only imagined how their idea of ABDL and their idea of an 18yo girl could fit in their fantasy. I would tell some men upfront that it wasn’t related to my sexuality that much, they would be ok with it and then not that much time later, they would start to make everything sexual and making feel like an object.
Adisc has been waaaay better

I guess it helps me with stress in some ways. When I am on a conference call and not able to break away I don't have to worry. Like you, it is not sexual at all. It is so sad that many think of us as a toy or play thing and not a real person. We are so much more then that and it is nice to chat with others here that get it.

 

[AlwaysInDiapers]

this tbh... most other women i know regardless of what they started as are super cautious about revealing their gender online. It hasn't happened to me here, but I've run into my fair share of creeps playing online games/MMOs. A lot women i've met through gaming either avoid using voice chats when they can, or even lie about being guys just to avoid creeps

I used to not talk about being female but have missed out on some great friendships. I just don't reply to the ones that is think seem off and just move on. Life is too short to let other rob you of your pleasures in life.

 

[AlwaysInDiapers]

One complication in this situation is that we talk about things that are not discussed face-to-face in public or even in private. Yet we know that the other people here have some connection to diapers, incontinence, infantilism, or other intimate topic. The question is, when and how should one bring up an intimate subject that may trigger a rush of emotion in the other person or may provide an opening for that person to talk about something that they haven’t been able to talk about elsewhere. I’m interested in what other people, especially females, think about this question.

It takes time to develop a friendship that you feel secure in. It is not something I just go out and look for but in time I have many friends that know, not always understand, and if they are not into diapers then we just don't discuss it. Sure I have lost friends that think it is weird but I always ask myself where they a real friend. I am pretty good at knowing who will accept me as I am not hose you won't.

 

[AlwaysInDiapers]

I’m a girl

Nice to meet you!

 

[Peepeegirl]

Nice to meet you too

 

[gobphus]

It takes time to develop a friendship that you feel secure in. It is not something I just go out and look for but in time I have many friends that know, not always understand, and if they are not into diapers then we just don't discuss it. Sure I have lost friends that think it is weird but I always ask myself where they a real friend. I am pretty good at knowing who will accept me as I am not hose you won't.

I admire you for having the courage to admit your true nature to people in your life. I just don't talk about my diaper life with anyone in person but my therapist. My wife knows about my fetish but doesn't want to discuss it. Fortunately, my use of diapers hasn't directly harmed our relationship. My participation in online communities and forming friendships around my fetish are more of a threat, since they take time and focus. I learned early on the consequences of not putting her first.

 

[AlwaysInDiapers]

I admire you for having the courage to admit your true nature to people in your life. I just don't talk about my diaper life with anyone in person but my therapist. My wife knows about my fetish but doesn't want to discuss it. Fortunately, my use of diapers hasn't directly harmed our relationship. My participation in online communities and forming friendships around my fetish is more of a threat, since they take time and focus. I learned early on the consequences of not putting her first.

I have learned over the years that I don't want to miss out on awesome friendships so I think it is worth the risk. My best friend in the world that I have known now for over 20 years still doesn't understand but is fully accepting. When we are out she always has to go and so we go together and I touch up my makeup and wait on her. She says at times she is jealous and thinks she wants to try one but so far she hasn't. Still she and I are besties and are always there for each other.

 

[MikeDJ]

I never like to bother ABDL women because I always assume they're completely inundated by messages all day every day, mostly from creeps, and I don't want to be part of that annoyance for them.

I feel the same way. I often wouldnt want to be added to that annoyance group of those desperate people who find a female DL and then tons are all responding to innundate her with responses . Its not an easy task meeting opposite gender DL people. Its often become a stereotype where most men responders are seen as desperate or creepy and its isnt always the case .

 

[foxkits]

I believe in the golden rule.
Treat one another like you would like to be treated . I look at any one as a person With respect. When we were young kid we did this.