I've only gotten that attitude from experience. When you look and try, you won't find. It makes you seem desperate. And desperate people attract the wrong people. I know this well. Maybe one is out there, but right now, it doesn't seem so.
And don't get me wrong. I'd love a cub mate, or just a daddy. That would be grand, and make things so much easier and better. But finding one who matches my personality is nigh impossible since so few exist. I can't always get what I want.