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Did it also start out with needing to go all the time and not being able to pee in the toilet and then it happens eventually? Did you have to strain your muscles to go to be sure your bladder was empty?BabyHailey1977 said:Ok, so I have time to sit and write now. First, let me explain the dynamic regarding my incontinence. I have been experiencing incontinence issues for about 5-6 years with it gradually getting worse. When it started I didn’t tell my wife about it because I was embarrassed and didn’t think it was that big of a deal. It started with dribbles here and there. Then in April 2020 I told my wife I wanted to wear diapers all the time. But I didn’t tell her about the IC issues. Then after about a year I told her and she believed they were due to me wearing diapers even though it started before them.
So fast forward to the last six months, I have had urodynamics done and I’ve been diagnose with OAB and Urge IC. She still believes that wearing diapers has caused this. I explained that the urologist said this isn’t the case and even let her read my paperwork.
So that’s the IC issue.
Last night I talked to her once our daughter was in bed. I asked her why she did that in front of our daughter and she said that she honestly didn’t think about it. I brought up the last trip to see our son. That I had to stop every hour of the drive to pee and while sitting in the truck with my daughter in the back, asked me why I wasn’t wearing my pampers. My daughter laughed and said “dad doesn’t wear Pampers, he’s not a baby.”
She said that she forgets that our daughter is getting older and can figure things out. That she’s just trying to have fun with it and needs to pay more attention.
I asked her if she wants our daughter to know and she said no way, that she would be very embarrassed if she told others about it. I said it wasn’t a matter of if, but how many people. She agreed to not make the comments anymore and that if my daughter finds out that we will tell her it’s because of health reasons.
This topic is extremely hard for me to discuss with my wife because I’m afraid she will just tell me to stop wearing them. I explained that I am beyond that point and can’t go very long without a diaper. I reminded her that the other day she commented about how many times I use the bathroom and I explained that I go every 45 minutes to make sure I don’t have an accident when not wearing a diaper.
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