EdwardTheDL1998
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Greetings!
I've been taking a month or so break from ADISC, but I am now back, and I thought I would kick my return off with some stories and tips regarding telling friends that you wear diapers.
I have as of this time, voluntarily, told 6 friends about me wearing diapers. Well... 5 friends, only one of them didn't stick around, so I guess he wasn't a friend after all.
Anyhow, I am going to be sharing some of my stories that regards telling others.
First off, let me just say, that all the times I've "told" a friend, I have written it, rather than saying it. Whilst saying it in person probably could help you in the future, and make you more confident in notifying others, I just haven't found ability to do that.
I will start with a few of my stories and then get to some overall tips.
Story 1:
This was the first time I told someone that I wear diapers. This is a long distance friendship, and we talk very often, also now, which means that it went pretty well. Regardless, I started by saying that I had this thing I wanted to say, and it basically wasn't anything I had ever told anyone, but I felt like I wanted it out of my mind, and that I would love to have a friend to be able to talk to, no matter what it was. The rest of the story is pretty generic. I recall me writing something like: "Okay, so... I wear diapers. This is not entirely because of a medical reason... More stuff." and to be honest, that message worked out pretty well. He was very understanding, and said: "If it helps you, and you feel like it is something you need, then who would I be to say otherwise?" (There was more to the response, and this was a summary.)
Regardless, after this, I thought that: Maybe it wasn't so hard anyway.
After this, I told a few other friends as stated, and most of them went pretty much with the same response. With a few exceptions.
The "Friend" that cut all contact with me, was a whole other approach.
Basically, I was needing advice, because I wanted to tell my girlfriend (Now ex... :/) "something". He then said he would help, and he promised not to judge me, whatever it was. Well, sometimes, people lie... Note that...
He ended up completely ridiculing me, luckily only in private messages though.
And another one that stuck out, was when I told a lady friend of mine.
She was really understanding, but that was also because she considered herself as part of the "little community" as some of you might know of.
At this time, while writing this, I told someone just yesterday. (It's not that different a story from the others, but I just wanted to mention it, since it was less than a day ago.)
Basically, I just went straight to the point and told him the truth, which for me is that I wear diapers, because of an overactive bladder, and because it gives me confidence. His response was literally: "Is it that you wanted to tell me? I thought you killed someone. Hehe. There is nothing wrong with that."(Just a note: I am fully continent, and haven't seen a doctor with my overactive bladder, mostly because it isn't that much of an issue since I wear.)
Anyhow, enough stories! Here are my tips for you:
1. Keep it simple.
Don't overexplain yourself. If you are not asked for details, be careful with giving them Try to keep the message itself short, regardless of if you are speaking, or texting.
2. Build it up nicely and casually.
When building up for the actual message in itself, make sure to make them know that it is hard for you to say, but also be careful to not make them think that it is something that's wrong. Perhaps try with something along the lines of: "I have something that I want to tell you. It is something that I don't really like to talk about, but just want to get off your mind.
3. Pick the right time.
Make sure that you don't have to rush it, that is not encouraging.
Take your time, try to squeeze in the right moment.
4. Determination/Drive to tell.
Make sure you actually have a want/need/drive to tell whoever you are planning on telling. It doesn't matter what your drive is, as long as you have a drive for it, otherwise, it can be a hell to take the last step.
-If you follow these simple guidelines and spice it up with some of your own personality, you should be more than good to go.
Make sure to ask if you have any questions, and I will then try to answer as thoroughly as possible.
Have a nice day.
Best regards.
-Edward.
I've been taking a month or so break from ADISC, but I am now back, and I thought I would kick my return off with some stories and tips regarding telling friends that you wear diapers.
I have as of this time, voluntarily, told 6 friends about me wearing diapers. Well... 5 friends, only one of them didn't stick around, so I guess he wasn't a friend after all.
Anyhow, I am going to be sharing some of my stories that regards telling others.
First off, let me just say, that all the times I've "told" a friend, I have written it, rather than saying it. Whilst saying it in person probably could help you in the future, and make you more confident in notifying others, I just haven't found ability to do that.
I will start with a few of my stories and then get to some overall tips.
Story 1:
This was the first time I told someone that I wear diapers. This is a long distance friendship, and we talk very often, also now, which means that it went pretty well. Regardless, I started by saying that I had this thing I wanted to say, and it basically wasn't anything I had ever told anyone, but I felt like I wanted it out of my mind, and that I would love to have a friend to be able to talk to, no matter what it was. The rest of the story is pretty generic. I recall me writing something like: "Okay, so... I wear diapers. This is not entirely because of a medical reason... More stuff." and to be honest, that message worked out pretty well. He was very understanding, and said: "If it helps you, and you feel like it is something you need, then who would I be to say otherwise?" (There was more to the response, and this was a summary.)
Regardless, after this, I thought that: Maybe it wasn't so hard anyway.
After this, I told a few other friends as stated, and most of them went pretty much with the same response. With a few exceptions.
The "Friend" that cut all contact with me, was a whole other approach.
Basically, I was needing advice, because I wanted to tell my girlfriend (Now ex... :/) "something". He then said he would help, and he promised not to judge me, whatever it was. Well, sometimes, people lie... Note that...
He ended up completely ridiculing me, luckily only in private messages though.
And another one that stuck out, was when I told a lady friend of mine.
She was really understanding, but that was also because she considered herself as part of the "little community" as some of you might know of.
At this time, while writing this, I told someone just yesterday. (It's not that different a story from the others, but I just wanted to mention it, since it was less than a day ago.)
Basically, I just went straight to the point and told him the truth, which for me is that I wear diapers, because of an overactive bladder, and because it gives me confidence. His response was literally: "Is it that you wanted to tell me? I thought you killed someone. Hehe. There is nothing wrong with that."(Just a note: I am fully continent, and haven't seen a doctor with my overactive bladder, mostly because it isn't that much of an issue since I wear.)
Anyhow, enough stories! Here are my tips for you:
1. Keep it simple.
Don't overexplain yourself. If you are not asked for details, be careful with giving them Try to keep the message itself short, regardless of if you are speaking, or texting.
2. Build it up nicely and casually.
When building up for the actual message in itself, make sure to make them know that it is hard for you to say, but also be careful to not make them think that it is something that's wrong. Perhaps try with something along the lines of: "I have something that I want to tell you. It is something that I don't really like to talk about, but just want to get off your mind.
3. Pick the right time.
Make sure that you don't have to rush it, that is not encouraging.
Take your time, try to squeeze in the right moment.
4. Determination/Drive to tell.
Make sure you actually have a want/need/drive to tell whoever you are planning on telling. It doesn't matter what your drive is, as long as you have a drive for it, otherwise, it can be a hell to take the last step.
-If you follow these simple guidelines and spice it up with some of your own personality, you should be more than good to go.
Make sure to ask if you have any questions, and I will then try to answer as thoroughly as possible.
Have a nice day.
Best regards.
-Edward.