pugglesmuggles
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I am curious what people's experiences have been who have decided to tell a close friend about their IC issues, and as an extension on that.... that you wear a diaper. I'll share two of my experiences, but for starters, I am nearly totally UIC and wear diapers 24/7, and have been this way for about 3 years after slowly losing bladder control. I'm getting used to it myself, and in the past few months, even though I still go out and see friends and hang after work and such, I've just been so isolated with this condition because I always have a "secret" I'm trying to keep. Another part of the reason why I decided to tell a couple friends who I see a lot is because I've recently switched diapers of choice; I used to wear the Abena M4's, which were super-discreet and effective, but their recent redesign and rebranding into the "Slip" or whatever made them, in my opinion, not nearly as good. So after trying a few others, I settled on Northshore's MegaMax diapers. They're a bit overkill for my needs, but the plastic backing is so much easier to wear and I feel entirely protected by them. The only downside is the plastic-backed crinkle noise. So I wanted to get out ahead of it with one friend-
The first friend I told was my best friend from growing up- we're lucky we still live in the same city. I had been mulling it over for weeks and finally just texted him saying Hey let's meet for breakfast, I want to chat about something important. I didn't even let myself pause before sending- that way I couldn't back out. He was all concerned though, and when we met up 2 days later, I said something to the effect of: "I've been dealing with a medical issue for a little while now that's been affecting my life and I want you to know." He freaked out and thought I had cancer, so I continued and just said I've slowly been losing bladder control, and the doc doesn't don't really know why yet, so you may notice at some point that I'm wearing a diaper because of it, and I just wanted you to be aware so it wasn't a surprise in case you noticed. He had a couple questions like what work was like with diapers, if anyone had ever seen, if I still worked out, etc. But then actually he got a little pissed at me (sorta playfully) for making him worry for 2 days that it was something more serious. He was like "so you're not dying, you're not moving, and you're not even really actually sick... shit dude I don't give a crap what kind of underwear you have on!" So that was a very positive reaction.
The other situation was far less planned. I have a friend from college that was in town for business- we see each other a couple times a year for vacations and when one of us is in the other's city. It was summer, so it was hot, and I usually only wear a t-shirt and shorts, and of course my diaper. We met up at a brewery (he's super into that scene) and he was late, so before he even got there I felt myself wet my diaper once, so you know, the bulge factor was in play. After a couple drinks he got up to use the restroom, and when he came back, he just said "You uh, might want to pull down the back of your shirt- I don't think you want the whole bar seeing that." I went white and (Idk why) just went "What're you talking about?" as I (of course) yanked my shirt down. He said that because he has 2 young kids he knows what a diaper's waistband look like, and wanted to know why I was wearing one. So I just blurted out the basic explanation. He actually had no idea they made adult diapers like that (I was wearing a MegaMax) but suggested I be more careful about letting it show- he's the "unsolicited advice" friend- we've all got one of those I'm sure.
So those were two of my experiences- both more or less positive. Anyone else out there have experiences to share?
The first friend I told was my best friend from growing up- we're lucky we still live in the same city. I had been mulling it over for weeks and finally just texted him saying Hey let's meet for breakfast, I want to chat about something important. I didn't even let myself pause before sending- that way I couldn't back out. He was all concerned though, and when we met up 2 days later, I said something to the effect of: "I've been dealing with a medical issue for a little while now that's been affecting my life and I want you to know." He freaked out and thought I had cancer, so I continued and just said I've slowly been losing bladder control, and the doc doesn't don't really know why yet, so you may notice at some point that I'm wearing a diaper because of it, and I just wanted you to be aware so it wasn't a surprise in case you noticed. He had a couple questions like what work was like with diapers, if anyone had ever seen, if I still worked out, etc. But then actually he got a little pissed at me (sorta playfully) for making him worry for 2 days that it was something more serious. He was like "so you're not dying, you're not moving, and you're not even really actually sick... shit dude I don't give a crap what kind of underwear you have on!" So that was a very positive reaction.
The other situation was far less planned. I have a friend from college that was in town for business- we see each other a couple times a year for vacations and when one of us is in the other's city. It was summer, so it was hot, and I usually only wear a t-shirt and shorts, and of course my diaper. We met up at a brewery (he's super into that scene) and he was late, so before he even got there I felt myself wet my diaper once, so you know, the bulge factor was in play. After a couple drinks he got up to use the restroom, and when he came back, he just said "You uh, might want to pull down the back of your shirt- I don't think you want the whole bar seeing that." I went white and (Idk why) just went "What're you talking about?" as I (of course) yanked my shirt down. He said that because he has 2 young kids he knows what a diaper's waistband look like, and wanted to know why I was wearing one. So I just blurted out the basic explanation. He actually had no idea they made adult diapers like that (I was wearing a MegaMax) but suggested I be more careful about letting it show- he's the "unsolicited advice" friend- we've all got one of those I'm sure.
So those were two of my experiences- both more or less positive. Anyone else out there have experiences to share?