Please know i would never tear you down. I was worried about getting dumped on by others, not you.
Okay, Aby, sweets. My brain had about a thousand communication errors, yesterday. Let's try again, and my apologies. Firstly, humans are of interminable interest to me, I'm a science nerd, and I find information to be armor.
I talked about Siggy, not for right or wrong purposes, but because, if one understands it, and believes it to be right, congratulations to them. They can now understand why they're called something they don't think fits. If someone understands it, and believes Siggy to be the world's most incorrect human ever, they can at least understand it, enough to mount a defense against it.
I do this a lot. I have to, being disabled.
I get called less than savory things, and I know enough about them to turn whatever is said on it's ear.
Handicapped originally means," those with captive hands."
I respond with, "Only one hand is a pain in the butt. The other one only acts up when I put words to page."
Dumb originally just meant unable to speak.
"Oh come on. You know I can talk," works like a charm, because I can imply the person calling me dumb is actually so stupid as to not know dumb doesn't mean stupid. Well, maybe now, but not originally.
I've been here long enough, and grown enough, and studied, and science nerded out enough, that as long as no one calls me a pedo, or late for dinner, they can call me a fetishist or a kinkster if they want, because at least I get why. It can help to be sad for them, for being so far behind.
What happened with Todd, should not have happened. He had a social blunder, not knowing how people would take him saying stay and play. That's one of the things that makes being on the spectrum so hard, having to be constantly aware that NTs, and sometimes even the neurodiverse, will completely misconstrue what you say. We ADISCers, Spectrumites or not, know he didn't mean play as a euphemism for boink, but most people don't.
There was wrong on both sides of that. He should have been very careful what he said. Yes, I know that can be crazy difficult to do. He's still responsible for what he says. I will say, if you're big enough to be in the legal field, you're big enough to watch a video that might pleeb you out, if it helps you understand the case.
Pissed off spouses shouldn't be able to tell judges we aren't safe around children to get custody. Our lawyers need to be informed. That being said, I don't think protecting us as a class is a necessary thing. Yes, I know that's not what you're asking for.
Diapers on the beach has happened. The guy was IC. The cop defended him, and the guy who was pleebed out by seeing the diaper went off all mad. On your own property, I bet your fine, legally. If someone were going out of their way to peep at you, with binoculars or something, they'd get in trouble.
Here's the deal, sweet boy. People are afraid, legit phobic, even. It's not our job to give them exposure therapy they didn't ask for, because when you try, it doesn't work.
I think it's sad that the love language I use offputs people, but flooding fearful people with too much, isn't helping anyone.
I'm not going to deny myself the chance to feel comfortable in my own skin, either, though. It's a balancing act.
Sometimes I wish the world would take a healthy dose of get over it. I understand.
and products that are now out there? This used to be something that would have totally been unheard of, but you find all sorts of products out there that have "poo" as an image or even plushies (HEAVEN HELP US) that are of poo. **See, even for me who is ABDL I still have my own stigma thoughts of it being wrong to have a 
