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As you know i switch between momma and little..and i have had two ABs that i cared for in the past.. one was very close to me and one a dear friend..but recently my friend has said i should actually do it professionally..this has never really entered my head as i have just done it out of love and im not sure i could do it professionally as i am a caring person..if that makes sense....i dont like to charge for affection...what i want to know.....as i know my AB needs already and what they liked i wondered what you expect of a momma or mommy .....do you go for the image of sexy or do you go for the proper as a mom would look and dress..i am intrigued as ive noticed a few ladies that offer these services look more like porn stars with their babies and to me a mom doesnt dress like that when she is seeing to a baby....i know there is the kinky side to it but what do you prefer from a mom? xxx
 

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Well for me I would like the proper mom but every once in awhile I like to see the kinky side just for fun.
 

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Interesting..as it does make me wonder where the kink comes in with ABs when moms arent kinky around babies....or is it that there is the actual regression in certain babies and others do it for the kinky side and not so much full regression in the sense of going back to childhood for real rather than roleplaying it? if you understand what i mean..............hard to explain lol xx
 

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I think I get what you are talking about. For me it's actually about time, since I have both the kink and the regression side of it. Let me explain that a little more, if I only have an hour to three I only express the kink side of it, if I have a full day or more I regress. Cause the kink side can be easily and qwickly dealt with, as for the regression side that takes a bit of setting up dressing up etc and it takes me about an hour to regress.
 

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ahhh thankyou....see i love to regress but more just on a night when i feel the need for comfort..but i did love to dress in girly dresses pettis etc and roleplay alongside my ABs and that i loved so much but on the other hand i love to switch to momma..mommy....but i have never really known what some get out of the kinky side of it when being a baby as opposed to being sub and being dominated...yes i understand theres the punishment bit but then even a real mom wouldnt tie a baby to a bed or spank lol..so its got me wondering what its really all about if it is a state of regression or more roleplay with the ones that like the kink side xx
 

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Well I do remember being spanked at a very young age. But as for your question with me when going the kink route I do regress a little bit but also roleplay, it's kind of a two sides of the coin thing for me. Sometimes I even (when I have the time) go from the kink strait into regression, if that makes any sense.
 

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yes totally understand..its interesting hearing this from your side as from the mommy side i just see baby and treat like baby so there is obviously more than just regression to take into consideration..as i say im only used to my two so not really ventured into that side of things with them as they just wanted that baby side totally. ..hugs xxxx
 

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I prefer the proper mom idea, I don't really go for the whole kink and punishments stuff at all.

I would love to have that experience of being cared for by a loving, sweet and motherly person, just being a little toddler and having a mommy to take care of me and just be it like that, a mom. Even though the whole thing, even just regressing by myself, does turn me on in the beginning, I never fantasize or have the desire to engage in any type of sexual stuff. I do sometimes pleasure myself, but at that point I'm not very regressed.

So yeah, I prefer the proper mom and not the sexy one.

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I would want proper mommy who would love and care
 

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Awwww so wish i was near you all just to give you the chance of having a mommy for the day.....i prefer to stay as the proper mommy role to be honest ..I find the kinky stuff a bit odd when it comes to nursing somebody that is regressed but then on the other hand i also see the other side of it that to many the regressing also comes with sexual sides to it too so i dont see it as wrong in anyway at all ...I suppose the motherly roll could still incorporate some forms of punishment but without the need to dress in something a hooker would wear lol.....very interesting hearing your views on this as it has had me wondering what other ABs other than the ones i have cared for do actually like regards their caring...hugs xxxx
 

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I think I get what you are talking about. For me it's actually about time, since I have both the kink and the regression side of it. Let me explain that a little more, if I only have an hour to three I only express the kink side of it, if I have a full day or more I regress. Cause the kink side can be easily and qwickly dealt with, as for the regression side that takes a bit of setting up dressing up etc and it takes me about an hour to regress.

Well said ABDL. Time is definitely a factor.

babymomma, I think the loving and caring aspect of this is something that many of us want (need). I appreciate (and enjoy) the kink aspects, but a loving caring mommy would be a miracle for me. Regression is a new aspect for me, and I realize that it is the part of diapers that effects me in profound ways.

This weekend is a great example. My family was out of town. I had to work a lot, but when I got home, I was able to completely regress and enjoy being a baby. I had to do all of this alone, and wished I had someone to take care of me. There are people that need caring and nurturing mommies like you.
 
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Personally I think it's deplorable and destructive there are people that are more than happy to exploit and profiteer off of the emotional needs of others in this culture. I've seen "Mommies" charge up to $300+ an hour for their services... $300, an hour... That's the equivalent of what a high class prostitute would charge. That's not to say there is no place for it if you want a quick and easy fix or are new to the experience and can afford it, but the best Mommy/Daddy/Little relationships are the ones built from the ground up, not something you pay for. But what do I know, I'm just another idiot on the Internet with an opinion...

As for what a little wants, well, I myself prefer someone that has a nurturing quality about them, someone I can confide in and trust...
 
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^^ I agree with what note said.

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As for myself and what I would want, my opinion is kind of skewed. I'm already on edge about the morality of an ab mommy anyway. So I wouldn't want to go to a mommy involved in the kink side as it would just seem way to awkward.
 

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Thankyou all so much for your opinions on this...and yes i have to agree with the exploitation side with these moms out there.....this is why i asked...Ive always done it just out of love and i do find it hard to accept that these ladies are charging so much for their services..and why they dress like they are in porn when that has nothing to do with babies..yes i see there is the kinky side some will adore but i wanted to know how many AB out there really do want this kind of get up if they are wanting to regress to being a real baby and have the proper nurtering care of a real mommy...I do understand that yes there will be certain costs you would have to put in place as you are using alot of your own items if it were to become something of a business....not a word i like...... such as creams ..bubblebaths..diapers etc....but the prices these ladies are charging is just madness. Yes cover your costs of what is used during that day by all means ...we arent all rich and can afford....but come on hundreds of pounds to be loving to somebody.......maybe its not something i could venture into as i personally dont like the money side its the giving affection and the adoration back that is payment enough for me.........if that makes sense ..hugs xxx
 

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Thankyou all so much for your opinions on this...and yes i have to agree with the exploitation side with these moms out there.....this is why i asked...Ive always done it just out of love and i do find it hard to accept that these ladies are charging so much for their services..and why they dress like they are in porn when that has nothing to do with babies..yes i see there is the kinky side some will adore but i wanted to know how many AB out there really do want this kind of get up if they are wanting to regress to being a real baby and have the proper nurtering care of a real mommy...I do understand that yes there will be certain costs you would have to put in place as you are using alot of your own items if it were to become something of a business....not a word i like...... such as creams ..bubblebaths..diapers etc....but the prices these ladies are charging is just madness. Yes cover your costs of what is used during that day by all means ...we arent all rich and can afford....but come on hundreds of pounds to be loving to somebody.......maybe its not something i could venture into as i personally dont like the money side its the giving affection and the adoration back that is payment enough for me.........if that makes sense ..hugs xxx

If those rates weren't supported, they'd be lower. I don't want to do caregiving as a business because I like having that connection first and foremost. For people who don't need that or need the money, there is clearly at least a small market for it and I think that's okay. It's not like anyone who does it for free for friends is going to lose out because someone out there charges.
 

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I've never viewed AB carers as exploitative, and I've had several on both sides of the pond. The market for their services is very limited (imagine the total number of ABs in a given market, and then subtract about 99% of those) and the cancellation rate is bound to be quite high. There's also the considerable cost of preparing a nursery. Finally, there's the actual time spent with the AB, which requires preparation and significant real-world experience.

I do think some of the professional mummies - especially in the UK and US - would do better to charge by the day rather than by the hour. Unfortunately, if I have to travel three or four hours to see someone, and then travel three or four hours back, that doesn't leave much of the day for caregiving.

I pay my current nanny a monthly rate, and it's not cheap. But I make use of her quite often, and nothing bothers her ... she changes dirty diapers and handles spit-up without seeming to mind. I certainly would not expect her to care for me for free, but I don't think she's taking advantage of me. At the end of the day, I need the care and she provides it. Since being 'babied' isn't a medical necessity for me, I set aside part of my income every month to get the babysitting I want and need.
 

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Interesting reading from somebody that does use one......i think i find it hard when i have given it for free to a close friend and a person i loved so to me charging woudl be very difficult as i see that i too am getting something out of it ..not just my baby if that makes sense......i think if you are in this for the love you like to give and the actual response you get back you see it as you are getting something too so why charge? yes as i put before you would have to charge for the outlay ...such as diapers talcs creams milk..whatever you actually use for that day of course....but the rest ..that still makes me feel bad if i charged as the rest doing that actual mommy role would be fun for me too...and im not charging my AB for that fun he is giving me am i??????? ....id probably never make a good business woman this way but then thats not what i see all this as about....which is why i find what people charge as extortionate.......yes its your day taken up .....time is money as they say but then if you are having fun too its like charging somebody for taking you out for a day to the seaside????!!!!!!! i dont quite get the grasp on it all.....i too do the nappy changes feeding bathing ..whatever it takes as long as not sexual but still feel its odd to charge if i enjoy it and thats not in a kinky way just the feeling of doing and recieving the affection back for doing it ..hugs xxx
 

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If I were ever to have a mummy I would like a mummy who wants to be a "traditional mummy." Someone who would be kind. loving and have my best interest in mind. A mummy dressed as a porn would not be setting a good example. Wither I be a baby or a little girl. Actually I am quite sure that I would enjoy being a mummy for a while. It does get confusing for me at times. My solution would be if my mummy would pretend to be a little girl like myself. Then we could play pretend. I would be her baby and latter she would pretend to be my baby. She would always be in control of the situation and I would always do as she says. After all, she is my mummy and mummies know what is best.
 

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If you're a woman who enjoys 'babying' an adult male, then you are a genuine rarity. I've met only two in my entire life.

That said, if you're babysitting a close friend, spouse or boyfriend, I don't see the need to charge. If you're caring for a relative stranger, on the other hand, your time is worth something. The fact that you love what you are doing isn't really relevant.

Let me offer a more real-world example: Many of us enjoy the work we do. I work full-time and I love my job. However, if my salary were suddenly taken away, I wouldn't be able to do the work for free. Much as I might enjoy what I do, I have bills to pay just like everyone else.

Adult babysitting may be 'side income' for you, but it should still be income. If you're uncomfortable charging, tell the AB (up front) that you're happy to accept whatever they feel their time with you was worth. But be sure you don't want to set a rate and stick to it ... if you receive only £20 per hour and think you deserved £100, that's a bitter pill to swallow.
 
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