(I am not incontinent, but my girlfriend is, and I’m really looking for some advice on how to touch a presumably sensitive subject with her as respectfully and carefully as possible)
My gf and I have been dating a little over six months now, and I knew from the start that she was incontinent, as she was very very open about it. I of course did not mind it, and love her regardless. I have always accepted and respected her attitude and her feelings about her condition, However, some things have come up in our relationship that have made me feel the need to talk to her about how her incontinence makes me feel (I know this sounds bad but please just read on)
From the start, my gf was ver open about her issues. She told me about her doctors appointments, I have shopped for her diapers multiple times, I have helped her clean up accidents, etc. she doesn’t really mind being ic, I guess she is just used to it by now, and usually just laughs it off. The first months of our relationship, I usually just helped her shop for diapers, a change here and there( mostly if she was sick) and clean up furniture after a sporadic accident. we talked about what I felt comfortable with and at that time I told her I was there for anything she needed.
A few months ago, she started getting careless. She uses her diaper multiple times, and thus leaks anll the time into her clothes and furniture which I end up having to clean up. She discusses every pee or bowel movement she has with me at all times, she walks around our apartment in just her diaper (even messy/very wet) which I didn’t mind before but together with the rest of things I guess it is worth mentioning. She also often leaves her wet diapers on the floor for hours before throwing them away, which leaves a smell and it is often me who has to pick them up. She has begun to ask me to check her diaper which i didn’t do before and I realize I don’t feel comfortable with. In short, she has become quite messy and unclean and i really don’t know how to feel about it. I come here for help because I really don’t want her to feel bad when i talk to Her about it, I really just want her to be a little more careful and private because there are many things I don’t feel comfortable with. However I also feel very guilty because it’s her condition and she can deal with it however she sees best and when she asked me months ago, I already told her I was confortable. I don’t want to offend her or disrespect her because I truly don’t mind her ic, I just wish she involved me a little less in it. Please if I’m in the wrong don’t hesitate to tell me, I just want to know what the most respectful way to touch this subject is!!
My gf and I have been dating a little over six months now, and I knew from the start that she was incontinent, as she was very very open about it. I of course did not mind it, and love her regardless. I have always accepted and respected her attitude and her feelings about her condition, However, some things have come up in our relationship that have made me feel the need to talk to her about how her incontinence makes me feel (I know this sounds bad but please just read on)
From the start, my gf was ver open about her issues. She told me about her doctors appointments, I have shopped for her diapers multiple times, I have helped her clean up accidents, etc. she doesn’t really mind being ic, I guess she is just used to it by now, and usually just laughs it off. The first months of our relationship, I usually just helped her shop for diapers, a change here and there( mostly if she was sick) and clean up furniture after a sporadic accident. we talked about what I felt comfortable with and at that time I told her I was there for anything she needed.
A few months ago, she started getting careless. She uses her diaper multiple times, and thus leaks anll the time into her clothes and furniture which I end up having to clean up. She discusses every pee or bowel movement she has with me at all times, she walks around our apartment in just her diaper (even messy/very wet) which I didn’t mind before but together with the rest of things I guess it is worth mentioning. She also often leaves her wet diapers on the floor for hours before throwing them away, which leaves a smell and it is often me who has to pick them up. She has begun to ask me to check her diaper which i didn’t do before and I realize I don’t feel comfortable with. In short, she has become quite messy and unclean and i really don’t know how to feel about it. I come here for help because I really don’t want her to feel bad when i talk to Her about it, I really just want her to be a little more careful and private because there are many things I don’t feel comfortable with. However I also feel very guilty because it’s her condition and she can deal with it however she sees best and when she asked me months ago, I already told her I was confortable. I don’t want to offend her or disrespect her because I truly don’t mind her ic, I just wish she involved me a little less in it. Please if I’m in the wrong don’t hesitate to tell me, I just want to know what the most respectful way to touch this subject is!!