CoryCoyote
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Yeah, you should definitely tell her yourself before she finds out on her own. No matter how careful and discreet you are, you're only human, and you're going to screw up at some point. She's going to find out if she doesn't know already -- it really is just a matter of time. Best to know whether or not she accepts it so that you can figure out your next steps from there. When I started seriously dating my husband, it was one of the things that I brought up when we were discussing our kinks and other sorts of boundaries. For me, it was/is a make-or-break thing -- I've tried to quit, but it never worked out and I always ended up going back. If I ever ended up getting serious with someone else, I'd do the same thing.
Fortunately, it worked out really well. He's neutral about the whole thing, but he loves watching me enjoy it and I get a lot more engagement from him with DL stuff than I'd ever thought possible. Short of him being ABDL himself, it's better than I could have hoped for. But if he had turned out to be absolutely disgusted by it, I don't think I would have continued the relationship. There's just too much stress involved.
Fortunately, it worked out really well. He's neutral about the whole thing, but he loves watching me enjoy it and I get a lot more engagement from him with DL stuff than I'd ever thought possible. Short of him being ABDL himself, it's better than I could have hoped for. But if he had turned out to be absolutely disgusted by it, I don't think I would have continued the relationship. There's just too much stress involved.