QuestioningLittle said:
Hello everyone,
I'm very new to the forum, and I'm really not sure what to do.
I don't really know how I identify myself... I like sucking on pacifiers, and I have recently worn incontinence briefs as diapers since I bought some online. I like wetting them, but I never wet them or wet in my sleep.
These feelings are definitely for comfort and for the sexual side of it.
Anyways, that's not the problem.
The only person I've confided in about this is my girlfriend. Unfortunately, she was rather repulsed by some of this. (When I told her it was really just the pacifiers, I hadn't tried the diaper stuff yet.) We talked about it (over text, not face to face) and her reaction was so negative that we really haven't talked about it since. I have told her that if she wanted to talk about any of this or had any questions that I would answer them, but she won't talk about it.
What should I do?
It's not neccesarily hurting the relationship, but I don't want to always be hiding this and being secretive towards her.
Is there another way I can approach the situation to help her see that it's not that crazy?
Hello and welcome to the forum!
ADISC is a group of people with a few similar interests in regression, age play, diapers or a combination of any of these things. The best part is, although that's our tying bind, there is a MASSIVE variety of personalities and other interests as well that keep this forum alive and moving forward. Please don't feel like you HAVE to do anything here. Just do what feels natural, chime in where you like to, and show us a part of you that you feel comfortable being. It's not our place to pass judgment on anyone, and if you ever feel too uncomfortable, you can always delete your account and not stress over it ever again. So please don't feel like you have obligations now that you've joined us. Just enjoy the company :smile1:
I can imagine there's a lot of things going on in your head right now. It's hard enough having to accept the fact that you are interested in this part of you (Whatever that may be). The first step to acceptance is figuring out what exactly you're interested in, because that will determine how to best approach finding self-acceptance. As for acceptance from others (such as your GF) unfortunately you can't make someone understand and accept you as much as you'd like to. I'm sorry if that wasn't the answer you were looking for
You know your girlfriend better than any of us do, so ultimately you will know how to best apply any advice we give you. You can use as much or as little advice as you'd like and give it your own personal approach so that it will work out for you.
A couple of clarification questions to move this thread along a bit: (Please answer as much as you can, but if you're uncomfortable or not sure, don't feel pressured! We're here to help, but these questions are mostly for your own benefit so they can be rhetorical if you like)
- How long have you and your girlfriend been together?
- How long have you known you had an interest in diapers?
- Do you only like pacifiers or are there other babyish things that you've found yourself attracted to? Have you tried exploring these interests or are you just confused?
- Do you ever try to act like a kid or baby again intentionally? If it sort of happens unintentionally, how does it make you feel?
- Do you know why she was repulsed by the pacifier? (Of all the regression things, that's probably one of the most mundane in my opinion...)
- If you feel like you can't be yourself in a relationship, how long do you think you can keep the relationship up?
- Even though she doesn't bring this up, does she act differently around you now that you mentioned your interests to her?
- What's her personality like? Is she usually not very open to strange things or is this just something particular that she's not comfortable with?
- Would you feel comfortable bringing it up to her face-to-face?
- If you maintain a don't ask don't tell thing, is it still you being secretive? Could there be a middle ground where you're just not being overt about that part of you?
These are simply starter questions for us to figure out what your situation is so we can best advise you on how to approach this. There's a lot of variables to the circumstance and I wouldn't want to tell you something that could potentially ruin your situation. If you're super uncomfortable putting this on the forums, you can always send me a Private Message and I'd be happy to listen to your issue and help out as best as I can. Let me know what I can do to help.