It was a little different. My partner asked me first. Still, telling her will lessen anxiety and stress. I hope everything works out. Keep us posted.
Your choice. Remember that not everyone is understanding. For what ever reason, some follow that stigma. Again, it's their choice. I'm glad that most don't follow that idea. Some might decide to not have a relationship with an IC person. But there may be others who do so. In fact I have a girlfriend who loves me despite being IC myself. I'm glad I'm not single. Being solo isn't fatal. But let me just say that being connected with another person, it feels good to know I'm not alone. Having friends is fine. But there is something about having a SO. Try it. It's not bad.