I wrestled with dating for a number of years because of my diaper needs, but honestly, in some ways it was a good thing. Why? Because it helped separate the wheat from the chaff.
From my experience from needing both diapers and a wheelchair, the most important things are attitude and authenticity. For my case I was upfront with my wheelchair needs, but kept my diaper needs hidden until things started getting intimate. I was unlucky with dating for a while, but I struck gold last year when I met my current girlfriend - and we’ve been in a great relationship ever since.
Having seen your other posts here, you’ve been diapered 24/7 your whole life, but you know how to manage it, you wear the protection you need, and you can change yourself without help. This makes you far more of a catch than say someone who is IC, but is in denial about it, who tries to go around with as little protection as possible, furiously refusing to wear diapers because they’re ashamed to do so. And the shame of being diapered is worse than having accidents. Or they may be disabled and not be able to change themselves at all.
My point is, you know how to manage your IC independently. And that will be a big plus point in your favour. The right kind of people will respect you for it, because you handle it so well.
What matters more than your diapers is the person wearing them - ie, you. No-one should just be defined by just their underwear - there is more to you than just your diapers. Yes it can be awkward at times, but you really shouldn’t be ashamed of this.
From what you’ve posted here, you seem to be a thoughtful, kind person who has a number of different interests, you appear to have a good moral compass, but you also seem to be accepting of other people. You’re a teacher, so you’re good with children - all these qualities are very promising to a prospective partner. And to the right person, those qualities will be far more important than your diaper needs.
I’d suggest you’d focus on these qualities rather than your underwear - your diapers are just part of the package deal, not the main event. And if people can’t see that, its their loss, not yours.
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