I don't understand. If dressed properly, no one would ever know you were diapered unless you told them. I have to wear and I initially believed that *SOMEHOW* everyone within a mile of me would know I was wearing a diaper but that's the furthest thing from what I have experienced in the past 20 years.
I'd recommend either investing in some "onesies" and then wearing clothing that hides what's underneath or wearing shirts that are significantly longer than you need though the onesies are versatile pieces of clothing. I actually don't even wear them too often as I only wear them when going somewhere where I will be in close contact with a lot of people and I'll possibly be kneeling down (due to my back I can not bend much) and today I mainly just wear a snug pair of underwear over the top of my diaper and either blue jeans or khaki pants with long tail shirts.
In 20 years I have had exactly one person notice and say something to me and she was very polite, telling me I "might want to pull my pants up" as the back of my shorts were working their way downwards, exposing the top of my diaper. This was while pumping gas and she simply tapped me on the shoulder, told me, waved, got in her car and pulled away. No harm no foul. Since then I no longer wear worn out shorts LOL but I do wear shorts all of the time when it is warm to hot outside and no one can tell what's underneath.
CptKirk