DreamerBenenedicte
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- 141
- Age
- 38
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- Incontinent
Hi,
I'm recently dating with a very nice and beautiful girl. We are having great times together despite a quite difficult beginning because of my incontinence issues.
She seems to be understanding of my issues. She tries to be supportive but it's clear that she doesn't want to be too much involved with my issues management. For example she bought a disposal bin with a lid for her apartment bathroom. Also she asked me for a protective mattress for her bed so we can sleep together. Also I can store spare protections but they must remain inside a drawer in the bedroom to avoid any guests to find them in the bathroom. And that's it. In term of planning our outside activities, she doesn't think of the practical constraints for me. Will I be able to manage, to change or would I be comfortable?
Also it seems that my protections are of limits. When we are getting intimate, she will grab my boobs or maximum pat my but. But if we want more, she always directs me to the bathroom. And join me in the bathroom only once my old protection is in the trash bin and me under the shower... But to be honest I understand when it's early in the morning when we just woke up. But when I'm wearing only a barely clean pad or pull up I'm feeling strange to go wash. Maybe she always ask that to her partners? I never dare to ask . Anyway, I sometimes would prefer an immediate intimate action. Even if it's only with her fingers (sorry if its tmi).
Also the worst is I have the feeling that she might be ashamed of me in front of her friends. But maybe I'm just too insecure...
Once we were watching a movie at one of her apartment friend after dinner. My protection was quite wet. But I didn't bring change since it was a pull up and we were only supposed to have a drink. Not drink, diner and movie... But my girlfriend seemed to enjoy the evening so much that I didn't ask to leave. So I did my best going often to the bathroom but I was starting to feel very wet and uncomfortable. Only asked to leave immediately after the movie.
Once at home, my girlfriend told me that she was upset because she could smell my protection toward the end of the movie. That it was awkward when we lift up the blanket before getting up and go home
That I should have changed if I was wet for a while. I had to explain to her the situation before she understood. But too late, I was offended... And that was not the only time that I noticed that she seems to be embarrassed or awkward when I'm around her friends. Once my pad leaked a bit. Once we were at a restaurant with friends, the bathroom were to gross to replace my pull up and the bulge under my jean was starting to show .
She even questioned my planning because I sometimes need to change shortly after leaving the house.
Does it happens to you with your partner? Should I confront her ?
It's so complicated to have a normal life with incontinence...
I'm recently dating with a very nice and beautiful girl. We are having great times together despite a quite difficult beginning because of my incontinence issues.
She seems to be understanding of my issues. She tries to be supportive but it's clear that she doesn't want to be too much involved with my issues management. For example she bought a disposal bin with a lid for her apartment bathroom. Also she asked me for a protective mattress for her bed so we can sleep together. Also I can store spare protections but they must remain inside a drawer in the bedroom to avoid any guests to find them in the bathroom. And that's it. In term of planning our outside activities, she doesn't think of the practical constraints for me. Will I be able to manage, to change or would I be comfortable?
Also it seems that my protections are of limits. When we are getting intimate, she will grab my boobs or maximum pat my but. But if we want more, she always directs me to the bathroom. And join me in the bathroom only once my old protection is in the trash bin and me under the shower... But to be honest I understand when it's early in the morning when we just woke up. But when I'm wearing only a barely clean pad or pull up I'm feeling strange to go wash. Maybe she always ask that to her partners? I never dare to ask . Anyway, I sometimes would prefer an immediate intimate action. Even if it's only with her fingers (sorry if its tmi).
Also the worst is I have the feeling that she might be ashamed of me in front of her friends. But maybe I'm just too insecure...
Once we were watching a movie at one of her apartment friend after dinner. My protection was quite wet. But I didn't bring change since it was a pull up and we were only supposed to have a drink. Not drink, diner and movie... But my girlfriend seemed to enjoy the evening so much that I didn't ask to leave. So I did my best going often to the bathroom but I was starting to feel very wet and uncomfortable. Only asked to leave immediately after the movie.
Once at home, my girlfriend told me that she was upset because she could smell my protection toward the end of the movie. That it was awkward when we lift up the blanket before getting up and go home
That I should have changed if I was wet for a while. I had to explain to her the situation before she understood. But too late, I was offended... And that was not the only time that I noticed that she seems to be embarrassed or awkward when I'm around her friends. Once my pad leaked a bit. Once we were at a restaurant with friends, the bathroom were to gross to replace my pull up and the bulge under my jean was starting to show .
She even questioned my planning because I sometimes need to change shortly after leaving the house.
Does it happens to you with your partner? Should I confront her ?
It's so complicated to have a normal life with incontinence...