Oops, I peed my pants

[MarcusP]

I was airing out last night due to itching. I was doing very good at first, doing timed voidings. But then I started playing chess online, and had a drink or two. I ended up doing quite well, but then felt some wetness as if my diaper had leaked. I figured I would finish my game first as leaks arent usually too bad. When I stood up, I realized I was not wearing a diaper, and my pants were soaked! There was a puddle under my deck chair! I think the reason I didnt feel it was because I was wearing thermal underwear that wicked it to my pants. I didn't even remember peeing, or needing to pee, and guess I was just too engrossed in chess. This has happened once before when I was airing out, so it is pretty rare. I a medically incontinent, I had my sphincter cut out, but if I pay attention,usually I have warning right before I pee. In this case, apparently I had no warning of knowing that I peed.

I mostly laughed it off with my partner, and thankfully it happened outside, but I guess when I air out next time, I better put a pad underneath! It seems that I am becoming less and less aware of voiding. I have been in diapers since 2009, my last surgery, so I am quite used to it, and am not complaining. It was my stupid fault. I forgot I was airing out. What surprised me was I didnt even notice I peed my pants until after the game.

 

[MarcusP]

I actually realized that I have been leaking a LOT the last few months, and going through pants way too fast. I use Confidry, and they are great, but I think I am not paying enough attention lately. I suppose I should start wearing my terry lined plastic pants again for now.

 

[Mathew]

Walked out to the front of my motel room to smoke. While I was out there I got the urge to pee really bad and decided to let loose. The only problem was I forget I didn't have a diaper on and I put a really large wet spot in my pants. I had to walk back in and the front entrance was packed with people waiting for a bus. I saw alot of the folks looking and trying not to laugh so I stopped, looked down at my pants and said oops. I walked away laughing at my stupid self and I'm sure alot of them got a good laugh.

 

[Lyric]

Its nice to just pee in my pants once in awhile, instead of in my diapers. My wife has me air myself out once in awhile if she thinks I on the edge of a diaper rash. That means no diapers for a day, and when we go out I've been known to wet my pants at times. I keep a waterproof pad in our car in case I get the urge to pee my pants while driving home. Sometimes I release a little in my pants and wonder if anyone notices a wet spot..

 

[Pantyman]

I was mowing my yard one day un diapered. So why mowing I had a real strong urge to go pee and being I'm so used to having a diaper on just starting to let it go. Immediately I could feel it running down my leg and down to my shoes. You know how hard it is to stop peeing once you start! So once I started I had to let it finish. It absolutely amazes me how much pee actually ran into my shoe. At first I was upset but then had to laugh because it was actually kind of funny. Usually I don't intentionally pee my pants but I do diaper up and use them regularly so leaks are part of the game. But not on that level!

 

[Loveomorashi]

Walked out to the front of my motel room to smoke. While I was out there I got the urge to pee really bad and decided to let loose. The only problem was I forget I didn't have a diaper on and I put a really large wet spot in my pants. I had to walk back in and the front entrance was packed with people waiting for a bus. I saw alot of the folks looking and trying not to laugh so I stopped, looked down at my pants and said oops. I walked away laughing at my stupid self and I'm sure alot of them got a good laugh.

I know this feeling! It’s happened to me a couple of times when I’ve forgotten I’ve not got a nappy on. To my knowledge nobody else knew when I’d done it and thankfully it’s not that often - normally just after I’ve been wearing nappies for a few days.

 

[Diaperloverj]

I soaked the bed one night thinking I had a diaper on when I didn't.

 

[iam32bit]

May I ask a stupid question, would all of you consider these situations a form of incontinence? Some of these sound like voluentary voids just forgetting to have a diaper on, some are forgetting to put a diaper on and they only realise it after an involuntary void.

I often try to convince myself I don’t need diapers because most of my struggle is OAB, very rarely would it result in an actual accident. Just that I have to run to the rest room so often and at the most inopportune times. Even if trying to plan ahead and using the bathroom before commuting to or from work, I often have strong urges to pee midway to or from home. The Urges themselves are borderline painful, with me crying the more I try to hold it. And waking up in the middle of each night to pee too.

I guess I have a hard time with the current definitions of incontinence and what constitutes a medical need for diapers or not. Because the way it has been explained to me, Diapers are only needed if accidents happen. Is it logical to use diapers instead of being chained to the restroom all day? Knocking 15+ trips down to 3 or 4 changes per day? My apologies if any of this comes off insensitive, just trying to understand other’s way of thinking and rationalizing.

 

[slimjiminy]

That is not a stupid question.

The first thing I came to realize is that the medical profession often interchangeably refers to OAB and urgent bladder incontinence. Mine is believed to be due to nerve damage due to years of diabetes (urge IC). Whatever you want to call it, if you get a strong urges to pee, then you'd be wise to plan for peeing when it happens. The urge, when denied, for me, always returns in a few minutes and usually stronger than before (and sometimes more painful). These days, when I do my errands/shopping on Saturday mornings, I wear an absorbent pull-up that I plan to use 1-3 times before I get home. I have sometimes used a brief (diaper) in similar situations. The pull-up is convenient if you need to use the toilet for a BM.

I often try to convince myself I don’t need diapers because most of my struggle is OAB, very rarely would it result in an actual accident.

The thing is that you can't always control the situation. It is better to secretly pee a diaper than it is to publicly pee yourself! I wear a pull-up every day and though infrequent, accidents do happen. Like being stuck in a drive thru (or traffic) because of some holdup. Or being kept on the phone too long when you suddenly urge. Or a family member comes by while you're outside gardening and is talking your arm off (you don't want to be rude and say "I gotta run", so you end up urging into your protection). Our house only has one bathroom, so that can be an issue too. So it is best to accept protection you can live with each day and not count the cost of unsullied pull-ups at the end of the day. It's the ones you do end up using that justify the need.

Is it logical to use diapers instead of being chained to the restroom all day?

That's a tougher call that only you can make. Myself, I've decided to use the toilet when possible since it saves me a lot of money on disposables. But if the frequency gets too much, many folks have made the switch to using diapers. There's also the aspect of where you will change (at work for example), that often weighs into the decision.

The other aspect of this IC is knowing how much can be planned. I've told my wife that I don't need pull-ups every single day but I cannot be sure I won't run into situations that will cause me embarrassment. I end up making unexpected trips to stores etc. Rather than be embarrassed, I'd rather be protected.

It sounds to me that your needs are legitimate and you shouldn't feel bad about it.

 

[Pino]

May I ask a stupid question, would all of you consider these situations a form of incontinence? Some of these sound like voluentary voids just forgetting to have a diaper on, some are forgetting to put a diaper on and they only realise it after an involuntary void.

I often try to convince myself I don’t need diapers because most of my struggle is OAB, very rarely would it result in an actual accident. Just that I have to run to the rest room so often and at the most inopportune times. Even if trying to plan ahead and using the bathroom before commuting to or from work, I often have strong urges to pee midway to or from home. The Urges themselves are borderline painful, with me crying the more I try to hold it. And waking up in the middle of each night to pee too.

I guess I have a hard time with the current definitions of incontinence and what constitutes a medical need for diapers or not. Because the way it has been explained to me, Diapers are only needed if accidents happen. Is it logical to use diapers instead of being chained to the restroom all day? Knocking 15+ trips down to 3 or 4 changes per day? My apologies if any of this comes off insensitive, just trying to understand other’s way of thinking and rationalizing.

I can support all Slimjiminy said, i do wear now every day, because even if i have (some) control, you can not always run for a toilet.

The diaper is subscribed from doctors and paid from the insurance (not all) in Germany for "being able to participate in a publicly life", you cant do that when fearing all the time you will wet your pants, and you cant "enjoy" life when the first thought is "where is the next toilet" when arriving on location and what happens when a toilet is not available in time?

So before i need to look out for a toilet, that i possible may not able to reach in time anyway, i plan on using the diaper. It takes away a lot of stress, what is worsening my other symptoms, by the way. Same for longer telephone calls, i used to say "i will call you back" up to three times in one telephone conversation with friends and family, until i choose not to do so and use a diaper. I think that is also a good reason, because the other way is not usual, you should be able to talk for one hour and not needing to interrupt three times.

I the beginning i had bad feelings about this, but that is gone completely. This is my realty now, i do not think i need to be "brave" and endure all the pain coming from my bladder, the diaper is simply a way to spare me a lot of pain, like painkillers do.
What is the point in not taking them for being brave?

Incontinence is defined as any involuntary loss of urine, of course when i choose to void before that point, it is not incontinence per definition, but i know i will involuntary void 10 minutes later and i will have a lot of pain until my bladder decides now is a good moment to void, so when i do know, there is no way to reach a toilet in this 10 minutes, i will let go with control at a point, so it is still my decision and not my bladders.
Makes that any sense to you?

 

[daylight]

@iam32bit for your OAB, have you looked into a pelvic floor specialist? It may provide you options to help reduce the number of urges.

I wear diapers and pullons because of OAB with urge incontinence. Very sympathetic to your 10, 15, 20 times a day, bathroom roulette, and spasms. Shifting to always wearing really does lower the stress of finding bathrooms, and the constant worry/disruption hanging over ones head. It can be hard at times to wearing as it carries its own stress but, much less than not wearing.

Focus on life, not your underwear.

 

[sport1]

May I ask a stupid question, would all of you consider these situations a form of incontinence? Some of these sound like voluentary voids just forgetting to have a diaper on, some are forgetting to put a diaper on and they only realise it after an involuntary void.

I often try to convince myself I don’t need diapers because most of my struggle is OAB, very rarely would it result in an actual accident. Just that I have to run to the rest room so often and at the most inopportune times. Even if trying to plan ahead and using the bathroom before commuting to or from work, I often have strong urges to pee midway to or from home. The Urges themselves are borderline painful, with me crying the more I try to hold it. And waking up in the middle of each night to pee too.

I guess I have a hard time with the current definitions of incontinence and what constitutes a medical need for diapers or not. Because the way it has been explained to me, Diapers are only needed if accidents happen. Is it logical to use diapers instead of being chained to the restroom all day? Knocking 15+ trips down to 3 or 4 changes per day? My apologies if any of this comes off insensitive, just trying to understand other’s way of thinking and rationalizing.

The accidents before diapers is what lead my wife to have me return to diapers.

 

[Diaperloverj]

Not a stupid question at all. I don't consider my incident to be incontinence because I was aware I was about to pee and then volunteered to actually do it. I think being half asleep had a lot to do with forgetting I wasn't diapered.

 

[iam32bit]

@iam32bit for your OAB, have you looked into a pelvic floor specialist? It may provide you options to help reduce the number of urges.

I wear diapers and pullons because of OAB with urge incontinence. Very sympathetic to your 10, 15, 20 times a day, bathroom roulette, and spasms. Shifting to always wearing really does lower the stress of finding bathrooms, and the constant worry/disruption hanging over ones head. It can be hard at times to wearing as it carries its own stress but, much less than not wearing.

Focus on life, not your underwear.

Yes, we haven't found a direct cause but we suspect it may be worsened by my medications. I am on a few that are known to worsen OAB. Sadly these medications don't have suitable alternatives.

The days I wear, I feel ashamed. The days I dont, I wished I had. The unpredictability of Urges and being stranded away from a restroom has bitten me far too many times. It led to many conversations with my Primary Care Physitian and trial and errors with treatments.

 

[daylight]

The days I wear, I feel ashamed. The days I dont, I wished I had. The unpredictability of ….

Exactly. And each day is different, so, if you need to wear it for one day, a week, or an hour, do it. Nothing is wrong with needing help. Until you find what is causing your OAB, wear what you need, and don’t let it define you.

 

[iam32bit]

Exactly. And each day is different, so, if you need to wear it for one day, a week, or an hour, do it. Nothing is wrong with needing help. Until you find what is causing your OAB, wear what you need, and don’t let it define you.

I have given up looking for the cause at this point, we have been testing for years with no luck. I have Seizures so this may be Neurological for all we know. Just the flip flop of some days I can manage without diapers and some days I can is maddening. Just like this thread started off, when I am not diapered, I often wish I was. Fml…

After years of trying to accept diapers, I don’t think I will ever accept them. Something deeply rooted is haunting me and telling me wearing diapers is somehow wrong. Denial or what have you… blah…. I am off to bed…

 

[EcoIncon]

I have given up looking for the cause at this point, we have been testing for years with no luck. I have Seizures so this may be Neurological for all we know. Just the flip flop of some days I can manage without diapers and some days I can is maddening. Just like this thread started off, when I am not diapered, I often wish I was. Fml…

After years of trying to accept diapers, I don’t think I will ever accept them. Something deeply rooted is haunting me and telling me wearing diapers is somehow wrong. Denial or what have you… blah…. I am off to bed…

I am with you. years of wearing and I still can't fully accept them. I look ridiculous when I change clothes. I avoid letting people know at all costs... However, I had a very close friend remind me that I had to get over it. It was causing me to have social anxiety and enjoy life less. So every day in the morning, I look at my padded self in the mirror and say to myself that my incontinence won't keep me from enjoying life to the fullest. Good luck! There's for more to you than your bladder.

 

[slimjiminy]

After years of trying to accept diapers, I don’t think I will ever accept them. Something deeply rooted is haunting me and telling me wearing diapers is somehow wrong. Denial or what have you… blah…. I am off to bed…

I get that. I too start out each day thinking "Really? Do I really need to wear this?" But necessity answers along the line that "it's better than the embarrassment that happens without". So we carry on.

 

[daylight]

@iam32bit , @slimjiminy , and @EcoIncon - I don’t think the emotional stress goes away, it is a deeply personal issue that is entangled into your emotional, physical, and social identity and self worth. I try, and I am not always successful, work on how to accept myself and not let it completely control my life. Yes, there will be times it blasts through all the barriers you erect. It is embarrassing, fearful, demoralizing, isolating, and aboatloadofothershamefullabelsnotworthrepeating. It is only a very small part of who you are.

Gawd, just a few minutes ago I ran from the laundry room to the bedroom! I had tossed my pajamas in with the wash and was only wearing a diaper when I heard my wife walking into the kitchen. My flight response took over, no cognitive discourse, even in my own home. Obviously the cat didn’t care but, somehow I did. Roll my eyes at myself, type this post for cathartic relief, and move on.

 

[sissygirlpink]

I was airing out last night due to itching. I was doing very good at first, doing timed voidings. But then I started playing chess online, and had a drink or two. I ended up doing quite well, but then felt some wetness as if my diaper had leaked. I figured I would finish my game first as leaks arent usually too bad. When I stood up, I realized I was not wearing a diaper, and my pants were soaked! There was a puddle under my deck chair! I think the reason I didnt feel it was because I was wearing thermal underwear that wicked it to my pants. I didn't even remember peeing, or needing to pee, and guess I was just too engrossed in chess. This has happened once before when I was airing out, so it is pretty rare. I a medically incontinent, I had my sphincter cut out, but if I pay attention,usually I have warning right before I pee. In this case, apparently I had no warning of knowing that I peed.

I mostly laughed it off with my partner, and thankfully it happened outside, but I guess when I air out next time, I better put a pad underneath! It seems that I am becoming less and less aware of voiding. I have been in diapers since 2009, my last surgery, so I am quite used to it, and am not complaining. It was my stupid fault. I forgot I was airing out. What surprised me was I didnt even notice I peed my pants until after the game.

Hi all,

I had surgery a few years ago and had temporary incontinence as a result.

I remember the warnings before that this could cause incontinence 1 in 1000 etc. So was not too worried.

Then after the event and I got home I remember vividly stood in front of my wife. I had an immense warm feeling in my jeans and they just darkened and I totally wet myself.

I ordered nappies in the next moment and cried, I couldn’t live with myself for weeks. I didn’t want to go out and I didn’t until I had a strategy for my nappies.

It was awful but reawakened and invigorated my former nappy desire.

Did I let it happen so totally on purpose? I don’t know but I’ve never looked back and now I can wear when I want to.

It doesn’t however let me open up to my sissy side.

Well nothings perfect.

Stay safe.

Jenny xx