My wife caught me wearing

[LittleScotty]

Firstly my wife knows now knows that I occasionally wear nappies at home after she found a parcel I ordered from Nappies R Us several months ago. Before that she had no idea, I've always hidden it from her (and everyone). We've been together for 14 years and she never had any idea prior to her discovery. Put it simply she wasn't too accepting at first, not understanding and tried to get me to seek help for it in order to stop. After long conversations and letting her read (albeit a slightly edited version) of my origin story which I've shared on here she has somewhat accepted that part of me. However she does not want me to wear when she's at home, or around her, or even see any of my nappies around the house. She knows that when she's not there what I now get up to but we don't speak about it.
I've posted most of this previously Here

Anyway, back to the subject of this post...
I've been working nights this week as I work shifts and I've done as I always have. After getting home, I'll get into bed and after about an hour or so my wife will get up and go to work. When she does I'll get up, go to my hidden stash of nappies, put one on and go to bed sleeping for several hours. If I wake and need to pee then I'll obviously wet the nappy and go back to sleep (I've never been able to wake up wet). When I get up I'll either change into a fresh nappy or continue wearing the existing one for several more hours around the house. I will always however change back into normal underwear before my wife gets home.
Yesterday morning I finished work late not getting home until 8.45am. My wife had already left for work so I went straight to my stash and put on a Tykables Galactic and climbed into bed. I set my alarm on my phone for 2.30pm and plugged it in to charge, setting it down on the bedside table. I went to sleep but woke about 1130am needing to pee, so I went, looked at the clock then rolled over and went back to sleep.
The next thing I remember was hearing the key in the front door, and then the door open. I looked at the clock... 4.35pm! My phone was dead as although I'd plugged it in to charge I hadn't switched the socket on! My wife then came up the stairs and peered into the bedroom to see if I was awake. Seeing that I was she came in and sat on the end of the bed and asked how my night was. We had a chat about what I'd been up to at work followed by a chat about her day and then she asked if I was getting up. As she was getting changed I just lay there, knowing that all I was wearing was a T-shirt and a wet Tykables. After she changed she asked again if I was getting up and probably seeing the look on my face she said "Are you wearing a nappy under there?" I nodded, she then asked "Have you used it?" Again I nodded. Now the ideal situation here (and certainly in my fantasies) would be she offered to change me however I knew this would never be the case. After a pause, and an "Ok" said she said she'd go and make us a coffee and let me sort myself out, before leaving the room quickly clearly not wanting to see me wearing it.
I got up and showered, got dressed and went downstairs putting the wet nappy in the outside bin.
We sat in silence for a bit neither of us wanting to mention what just happened until I then apologised. I have no idea why I did or even what for really, she said it was OK and it was just a surprise as it was the first time I was actually wearing one whist she was at home. She didn't kick up a fuss or anything she just again reiterated she didn't want to see me wearing and she still finds it odd that I enjoy it and can't see how it helps with stress, and anxiety etc.
She's working through the second lockdown this time as am I so I'm going to continue as I've always done wearing when she's not there, just being more careful about timings.

It seems that in all the years I've been hiding this part of me I feel more exposed, and anxious than ever. A friend calling over two weeks ago whilst I was wearing one was the most nervous and anxious I have ever felt, and although I managed to hide it the entire time I'm worried about what he would say if he found out (I've posted about this before too).

I wish I could me be more open around my wife but at the moment I'm just happy that she let's me carry on as I've always done.

 

[PCS]

Since she didn’t hit the roof I do wonder whether she might warm to the idea as time goes on.

Ultimately, it’s an item of clothing. It’s not as if you’re seeing another woman or anything like that.

 

[LittleScotty]

Since she didn’t hit the roof I do wonder whether she might warm to the idea as time goes on.

Ultimately, it’s an item of clothing. It’s not as if you’re seeing another woman or anything like that

It's probably been 7 or 8 months since she found out. I only stopped wearing during the first lockdown as she as working from home, but as soon as she went back to work I was wearing regularly again.
I was hoping as time went on she'd be more relaxed about it but it seems not. I guess this is the first time she's actually encountered me wearing so maybe it'll be a realisation for her and as more time goes on things may change

 

[PCS]

It's probably been 7 or 8 months since she found out. I only stopped wearing during the first lockdown as she as working from home, but as soon as she went back to work I was wearing regularly again.
I was hoping as time went on she'd be more relaxed about it but it seems not. I guess this is the first time she's actually encountered me wearing so maybe it'll be a realisation for her and as more time goes on things may change

Let’s hope so.

People do all sorts of harmful things for stress relief. Smoking, alcohol, drugs, over-eating, extreme sports, pornography... the list goes on.

Looking at it rationally, this is one of the least harmful pursuits out there that can help reduce stress.

 

[PCS]

Incidentally, I imagine in your situation you can’t keep a large stash.

If you would like a few samples of different types of nappy and have an address I can send them to (preferably a PO Box or some other safe address) let me know and I’ll happily bung you a few in an unmarked parcel.

I’ve sent samples to a few other Brits on here who can hopefully verify I’m not a weirdo looking for meet ups, hook ups, pics or anything in return.

I realise I’m in a bit of a privileged position with a partner who is content with me wearing and as such I can keep a large stash as I don’t have to hide it.

As such, happy to share a bit of that with other Brits who might not be able to keep many nappies around the home.

PM me if interested.

 

[Bellybag58]

I wish you could wear more often and not have to keep it hidden. I'm finding here that most female spouses that find out are not very understanding or accepting.

 

[checkingoutall]

When I became incontinent, my wife at first thought I was faking it so I could wear diapers. When she went with me to urologist appointments she understood I had no control. So she knew I was wearing diapers but she didn't want to see them either. After a while I finally got to have a talk with her and asked her if I wore "normal" underwear would she allow me to walk around the house in just my underwear and she said yes. From that I explained that my diapers are my underwear and being allowed to go around the house "normally" would actually be easier for me because I can change easier be more relaxed. Even when you have no choice in wearing, it takes time for them to accept the small things but in time it gets accepted because it becomes normal. The best part of what happened to you was she didn't blow up or get mad about it. Showing her the respect you did shows her that you understand and respect her boundaries and that is the biggest first steps of this process.

 

[LittleScotty]

I wish you could wear more often and not have to keep it hidden. I'm finding here that most female spouses that find out are not very understanding or accepting.

Me too! Although I've hidden it for so long that I don't really know any different. I don't think it would have been any different if I told her sooner, she has a very traditional view of relationships. As a man I should be the emotionally strong provider who takes care of her. I think she finds it hard to see that I have a soft vulnerable side too especially given the job I do as well

 

[willnotwill]

I'm always surprised when my wife doesn't realize I'm wearing.

 

[LittleScotty]

When I became incontinent, my wife at first thought I was faking it so I could wear diapers. When she went with me to urologist appointments she understood I had no control. So she knew I was wearing diapers but she didn't want to see them either. After a while I finally got to have a talk with her and asked her if I wore "normal" underwear would she allow me to walk around the house in just my underwear and she said yes. From that I explained that my diapers are my underwear and being allowed to go around the house "normally" would actually be easier for me because I can change easier be more relaxed. Even when you have no choice in wearing, it takes time for them to accept the small things but in time it gets accepted because it becomes normal. The best part of what happened to you was she didn't blow up or get mad about it. Showing her the respect you did shows her that you understand and respect her boundaries and that is the biggest first steps of this process.

I'm certainly respecting what she's said in the past. I don't want to force her into accepting more than she's comfortable with and I certainly don't to to subject her to see me openly wearing around the house. It's a difficult one for me as now she knows I feel I shouldn't have to go to such extreme measures to hide it as much.

 

[LittleScotty]

I'm always surprised when my wife doesn't realize I'm wearing.

My wife can spot when a coaster is a centimeter out of place so she'd definitely spot I was wearing a nappy!

 

[RedPandaDL]

I am in a similar situation. My wife doesn’t understand it, thinks it’s weird and would prefer I stop. She doesn’t talk about it. When I originally told her about 16 months ago, she asked if I could wear padded underwear instead. Eventually I started doing that and she would wash them ( I have never wet them). We finally had a discussion recently and found out she still doesn’t like it. She wanted me to stop wearing, but kind of gave up on that happening. I have started wearing them less, which I think shows that I am compromising. I hope she is okay with it, but she doesn’t talk about it. The point is that I thought she was coming around to the ide, but that was not the case. She said she tried. I guess we will see how things go from here.

 

[abjohn]

Firstly my wife knows now knows that I occasionally wear nappies at home after she found a parcel I ordered from Nappies R Us several months ago. Before that she had no idea, I've always hidden it from her (and everyone). We've been together for 14 years and she never had any idea prior to her discovery. Put it simply she wasn't too accepting at first, not understanding and tried to get me to seek help for it in order to stop. After long conversations and letting her read (albeit a slightly edited version) of my origin story which I've shared on here she has somewhat accepted that part of me. However she does not want me to wear when she's at home, or around her, or even see any of my nappies around the house. She knows that when she's not there what I now get up to but we don't speak about it.
I've posted most of this previously Here

Anyway, back to the subject of this post...
I've been working nights this week as I work shifts and I've done as I always have. After getting home, I'll get into bed and after about an hour or so my wife will get up and go to work. When she does I'll get up, go to my hidden stash of nappies, put one on and go to bed sleeping for several hours. If I wake and need to pee then I'll obviously wet the nappy and go back to sleep (I've never been able to wake up wet). When I get up I'll either change into a fresh nappy or continue wearing the existing one for several more hours around the house. I will always however change back into normal underwear before my wife gets home.
Yesterday morning I finished work late not getting home until 8.45am. My wife had already left for work so I went straight to my stash and put on a Tykables Galactic and climbed into bed. I set my alarm on my phone for 2.30pm and plugged it in to charge, setting it down on the bedside table. I went to sleep but woke about 1130am needing to pee, so I went, looked at the clock then rolled over and went back to sleep.
The next thing I remember was hearing the key in the front door, and then the door open. I looked at the clock... 4.35pm! My phone was dead as although I'd plugged it in to charge I hadn't switched the socket on! My wife then came up the stairs and peered into the bedroom to see if I was awake. Seeing that I was she came in and sat on the end of the bed and asked how my night was. We had a chat about what I'd been up to at work followed by a chat about her day and then she asked if I was getting up. As she was getting changed I just lay there, knowing that all I was wearing was a T-shirt and a wet Tykables. After she changed she asked again if I was getting up and probably seeing the look on my face she said "Are you wearing a nappy under there?" I nodded, she then asked "Have you used it?" Again I nodded. Now the ideal situation here (and certainly in my fantasies) would be she offered to change me however I knew this would never be the case. After a pause, and an "Ok" said she said she'd go and make us a coffee and let me sort myself out, before leaving the room quickly clearly not wanting to see me wearing it.
I got up and showered, got dressed and went downstairs putting the wet nappy in the outside bin.
We sat in silence for a bit neither of us wanting to mention what just happened until I then apologised. I have no idea why I did or even what for really, she said it was OK and it was just a surprise as it was the first time I was actually wearing one whist she was at home. She didn't kick up a fuss or anything she just again reiterated she didn't want to see me wearing and she still finds it odd that I enjoy it and can't see how it helps with stress, and anxiety etc.
She's working through the second lockdown this time as am I so I'm going to continue as I've always done wearing when she's not there, just being more careful about timings.

It seems that in all the years I've been hiding this part of me I feel more exposed, and anxious than ever. A friend calling over two weeks ago whilst I was wearing one was the most nervous and anxious I have ever felt, and although I managed to hide it the entire time I'm worried about what he would say if he found out (I've posted about this before too).

I wish I could me be more open around my wife but at the moment I'm just happy that she let's me carry on as I've always done.

My heart goes out to you, it really does. We didn't ask to be adult babies or nappy lovers. We just are, it's part of who we are that's all. We have lots of other sides to us after all. Keep your chin up and your nappy on, our need never goes away, at least that is what I've found in my life which at 64 is getting shorter by the day so to heck with it life's for living then you die and I only hope there is a heaven for us all with free nappies forever and a huge nursery where we can all be together!

 

[trevor0160]

That's a rough situation. It's a real shame she won't even let you wear in her presence.

 

[LittleScotty]

That's a rough situation. It's a real shame she won't even let you wear in her presence.

It's a massive shame when I have to change out of a perfectly dry nappy before she gets home too

 

[Miodzjo]

My wife knows I like diapers. Sometimes he makes me wear them. But sometimes I put on a cover and I like it when she finds out I have a diaper. I like when he catches me wet a diaper, then he always tells me to quickly change to a new one.

 

[bambinod]

if you've agreed that she doesn't want to have to see it, and then sees just how much effort you're going through to make sure you're trying to keep her happy, that should really earn you some big points in her book.

 

[Subtlerustle]

Reading this seems like a small victory or in the case something more apt for your side of the Atlantic, a nil nil outcome of an EPL game.
She didn’t freak out and you were honest and compassionate to the effect it may have on her. File this one as an experience. She too will ponder this event. 14 years is a long time to realize that your spouse wasn’t who she thought he was. She just needs to realize, you are exactly who she thought you were, if you follow me. She sounds like she is a smart woman so hopefully one day she can change her views. There was an amazing thread on here with @DylanLewis posting some interesting theories about the source of abdl. Without knowing her, I’d formulate a research paper for her about what professionals theorize on the matter. Demystify and debunk any misconceptions. Just a thought for that inevitable future talk.
I know what you’re going through. Been there but came out the other end with my wife’s understanding and approval.

 

[Evahasgone2]

These are all memories of my first marriage. Although I am on the opposite side of the spectrum. I was married very young and had told my husband about my love of diapers. Lets just say he never came near me in a diaper, so I had to keep that part of my life to myself over twenty two years. There was nothing wrong with our marriage and we had loads of fun with the time we did share. Sexually he was a dynamo and I was alway the willing person. We did everything from anal to spankings and bondage, but diapers were never in the recipe for me. He was career military and was away for months at a time, so I had my diaper fun by myself and enjoyed every second, hour and day I had of diaper play.
My husband was killed in service and I was left alone for it seemed like eternity. I survived many years on my own with the occasional one night stands and still enjoyed my diapers immensly. I loved the night life and my weekends were full of dancing and wearing diapers. I was out one weekend and was dancing when I met this gorgeous sissy one night and asked her to dance. We danced for about an hour and I reaaly loved her style of dancing and couldn't hide the thought that when I touched her bottom that she was diapered. I grabbed her hand and lead her to the bathroom and once inside I locked the door and just looked into her eyes. I then lifted her skirt and seen she was wearing a pullup. I looked directly into her eyes and I just kissed her with as much passion that I could muster. She kissed me back and it was electric.
It has been three wonderful years now and I have a diaper loving sissy as my wife, and I will never ever doubt fate. I caught her wearing and I fell instantly in love. Guys you never know how the future will look and you never know when your wife, your SO, BF, GF will do a flip over diapers.. If they accept, just give them time to love. There is not a day that goes by now that I don't grab my wifes hand and kiss her and tell her that I love her. Kiss your wife everyday and say those magic words to her "I Love You".. It won't hurt you.. Promise...

 

[LittleScotty]

I love my wife dearly and I do sometimes wish that I told her sooner. The fact that she found out rather than me telling her is probably worse as I know she feels that if I've hidden it for so long what else am I hiding? I got quite close to a colleague at work a few years ago before we got married, we messaged each other a lot did quite a lot of flirting and I ended up kissing her on a night out. I instantly regretted it, told my wife and we worked through it. She brings it up every now and then but for the most part we're past it and are really strong now. I do however think with the nappy situation she really can't get her head around it. She knows about my childhood issues and that I wore nappies and pull ups for longer than most kids, it's something we talked about early in our relationship. I never told her then though that I would still wear secretly in my teens and in hindsight this would have been the perfect opportunity to discuss it and get it out there early.
I'm hoping as time goes on she slowly starts the accept it more and more. I dropped her off to work this morning as I'm not working today and I imagine she knows that as soon as I get home I'll be wearing a nappy all day. I don't wear all the time, but recently with added stresses at work and the lockdown I find I'm wearing a lot more than normal.