Soggy247
Est. Contributor
- Messages
- 279
- Role
- Diaper Lover
- Incontinent
My girlfriend and I have been together for 20 months and we are both incontinent. I have struggled with urine incontinence on and off for most of my life and my gf has been totally incontinent all her life. I am only incontinent of urine but my gf is double incontinent. We both dribble and spurt urine constantly with zero control, but i can make to the toilet for messes. My gf can make it to the toilet for messing around 70% of the time as she has a very dull indication but a very short time frame to get to there. If she can get to the toilet quick enough or if she is awake she will make it, if not she will mess herself. My gf will mess herself in her sleep fairly often but its only occasional she will mess herself during the day, but it does happen.
As a result, we both wear adult tape on nappies. Our go to for a daily are tena maxi and ultima active fit. I switch about depending on how tight the clothing I wear, v.s how much absorbancy I need.
I wear mine with a booster and plastic pants vertially all the time. I wear baggy shorts/jeans and long t shirts mostly so I dont worry about bulk or crinkle. My only worry is people will smell me when im wet and I worry about leaks so I tend to go for heavy protection during the day. When I'm sleeping i wear heavy protection but I dont wear plastic pants to allow my skin to breathe and in bed, its not so much of a worry if i smell or leak a little.
My gf is kinda the opposite. She wears hers without a booster and plastic pants during the day, but wears a booster and plastic pants at night. My gf says she does it this way to help keep any leaks at bay during the night when she messes, but she likes her skin to breath during the day. She dosent like wearing heavy protection or plastic pants during the day as she worries people will hear her crinkle or see the bulk and put 2 & 2 together and realise she is wearing a nappy under her nice girly clothes.
Whilst i totally get her mentality and being incontinent myself, i understand why she wants to remain undiscovered and wear her nice clothes. When you look at her up the pub or when were out and about, you would have no idea she is wearing a nappy under her jeans. She is super discrete, but that comes with a cost, A cost i know she does not account for. . . Its the smell. She smells allot and I'm not sure how to broach the subject with her.
We've been together for 20 months and we are looking to move in together before the year is out. We are very close and like a pair of love struck puppy dogs. I love the bones of her and i feel we are just ment to be together. We have no inhibitions with eachother and totally accept eachothers nappies and incontinence. She knows I'm also a dl and thinks its cute that i like seeing her in nappies so were totally in the open and comfortable with eachother, however. .
She is a sensitive soul and has had a pretty tough time in life with her incontinence and her nappies so she is very, very sensitive around the subject.
From what my gf tells me from when she was younger, she wore disposable nappies and I think her parent's and grandma did a good job of keeping her nappies hidden from the world as best they could. They always brought her clothes that hid her nappies and were always very sensitive about her privacy when they changed her and stuff, and i dont think allot of people knew she wore nappies, including the school she went to. Her grandma used to take her home for lunch and would often change her then and take her back to school afterwards. She absolutely loved her mum and granma but I dont think they had allot of money and I think there was allot of alcohol involved when she was growing up in the 80s.
Although she was very loved and cared for, there were times when she was left to go play for hours. She was a bit of a tomboy and would be down the park or out on the estate as us kids did to entertain ourselves in the 80s. She was brought up to be a good girl but I think sometimes things were quite laxadaisy at home and she was a little ferrel but in a nice way.
She tells me she had a good childhood but from what I gather, I dont think she had many friends. She seems to think this was partly because I dont think she was changed as often as she could have been and recalls spending allot of time in dirty, wet nappies, causing her to smell. She did say that she wasnt too forthcoming either in letting her parents know she needed a change and recals not being to botherd by the sensation of being in a full nappy. I gather that this was because its all she has ever known so it's nothing new for her and she knew no different.
Fast forward to when she was 11 and started growning up a little, she was able to gain some bowel control and was mainly messing in her sleep with the help of timed medication and would only be changed in the morning by her parents. The rest of the wet nappies she had, she would change herself throught the day. She was consious at this age of not being the smelly kid anymore but admits to being lazy and often leaking through her nappies and smelling still. The smell that followed her was the cause of allot of ridicule and bullying so I'm lead to believe and that has definitely had a large part to play in shaping her into the woman she has become today and why she is so sensitive about her incontinence and her odour.
Fast forward to present day and here's where my problems lay. She thinks she does enough to combat the smell of her incontinence and she clearly dosent. Whilst I have no problems with her having an odour when were at home and in bed, I'm a little embaressed about her odour when were out together and as daft as it sounds, I'm embaressed for her when she is at work and stuff. Sometimes she comes home from work and i can smell her wet nappy through her jeans and its quite strong.
She will often wear a tena ultima for 6 or 7 hours and where she hasnt drank allot, she isnt hugely wet, so she dosent see the need to change and waste nappies but her pee is very strong and smelly. I've seen the colour of her nappy when she changes and sometimes and its very yellow. Sometimes when she opens her nappy to change it, it makes the room smell of her pee. The nappies, as we all know will sometimes get damp around the leg cuffs and that dampness starts to smell. Where she wont wear plastic pants, that smell permeates her clothes and it is starting to permeate on my sofa but like i say, she is totally nose blind and in her eyes, she thinks she dosent smell and does enough to stay clean.
The other week we were out together in a town doing some touristy sight seeing and she had a messy accident, filling her nappy completely. From what i could gather it was very large and totally unexpected. She did start to smell pretty quickly but we didnt take too long to find a place for her to change. When she came out of the disabled toilet, i was sure i could still smell her but we were out in the open air. It wasnt until we sat down in a cafe that i was totally sure she was still smelly. I can only assume she didnt quite get properly clean but she was totally unaware of her odour. When we got in the car together i had to open the window a touch.
Another thing she dosent realise is that her vagina smells of stale pee all the time. Even after a bath and shower, i can still smell her pee on there. Its like the pee smell is engrained into her libia but again, she dosent seem to smell it.
I've tried to gently introduce her to wearing plastic pants during the day (to help contain her smell) but she was having none of it and ive tried dropping sone really, really soft, humours hints but she was very frosty towards them. I dont want upset her by outright telling her that she smells and she needs to change more and clean up better. I certainly dont want to hurt her because i love her. . .
How do i have that discussion with her without hurting her???.
All ideas welcome. . .
As a result, we both wear adult tape on nappies. Our go to for a daily are tena maxi and ultima active fit. I switch about depending on how tight the clothing I wear, v.s how much absorbancy I need.
I wear mine with a booster and plastic pants vertially all the time. I wear baggy shorts/jeans and long t shirts mostly so I dont worry about bulk or crinkle. My only worry is people will smell me when im wet and I worry about leaks so I tend to go for heavy protection during the day. When I'm sleeping i wear heavy protection but I dont wear plastic pants to allow my skin to breathe and in bed, its not so much of a worry if i smell or leak a little.
My gf is kinda the opposite. She wears hers without a booster and plastic pants during the day, but wears a booster and plastic pants at night. My gf says she does it this way to help keep any leaks at bay during the night when she messes, but she likes her skin to breath during the day. She dosent like wearing heavy protection or plastic pants during the day as she worries people will hear her crinkle or see the bulk and put 2 & 2 together and realise she is wearing a nappy under her nice girly clothes.
Whilst i totally get her mentality and being incontinent myself, i understand why she wants to remain undiscovered and wear her nice clothes. When you look at her up the pub or when were out and about, you would have no idea she is wearing a nappy under her jeans. She is super discrete, but that comes with a cost, A cost i know she does not account for. . . Its the smell. She smells allot and I'm not sure how to broach the subject with her.
We've been together for 20 months and we are looking to move in together before the year is out. We are very close and like a pair of love struck puppy dogs. I love the bones of her and i feel we are just ment to be together. We have no inhibitions with eachother and totally accept eachothers nappies and incontinence. She knows I'm also a dl and thinks its cute that i like seeing her in nappies so were totally in the open and comfortable with eachother, however. .
She is a sensitive soul and has had a pretty tough time in life with her incontinence and her nappies so she is very, very sensitive around the subject.
From what my gf tells me from when she was younger, she wore disposable nappies and I think her parent's and grandma did a good job of keeping her nappies hidden from the world as best they could. They always brought her clothes that hid her nappies and were always very sensitive about her privacy when they changed her and stuff, and i dont think allot of people knew she wore nappies, including the school she went to. Her grandma used to take her home for lunch and would often change her then and take her back to school afterwards. She absolutely loved her mum and granma but I dont think they had allot of money and I think there was allot of alcohol involved when she was growing up in the 80s.
Although she was very loved and cared for, there were times when she was left to go play for hours. She was a bit of a tomboy and would be down the park or out on the estate as us kids did to entertain ourselves in the 80s. She was brought up to be a good girl but I think sometimes things were quite laxadaisy at home and she was a little ferrel but in a nice way.
She tells me she had a good childhood but from what I gather, I dont think she had many friends. She seems to think this was partly because I dont think she was changed as often as she could have been and recalls spending allot of time in dirty, wet nappies, causing her to smell. She did say that she wasnt too forthcoming either in letting her parents know she needed a change and recals not being to botherd by the sensation of being in a full nappy. I gather that this was because its all she has ever known so it's nothing new for her and she knew no different.
Fast forward to when she was 11 and started growning up a little, she was able to gain some bowel control and was mainly messing in her sleep with the help of timed medication and would only be changed in the morning by her parents. The rest of the wet nappies she had, she would change herself throught the day. She was consious at this age of not being the smelly kid anymore but admits to being lazy and often leaking through her nappies and smelling still. The smell that followed her was the cause of allot of ridicule and bullying so I'm lead to believe and that has definitely had a large part to play in shaping her into the woman she has become today and why she is so sensitive about her incontinence and her odour.
Fast forward to present day and here's where my problems lay. She thinks she does enough to combat the smell of her incontinence and she clearly dosent. Whilst I have no problems with her having an odour when were at home and in bed, I'm a little embaressed about her odour when were out together and as daft as it sounds, I'm embaressed for her when she is at work and stuff. Sometimes she comes home from work and i can smell her wet nappy through her jeans and its quite strong.
She will often wear a tena ultima for 6 or 7 hours and where she hasnt drank allot, she isnt hugely wet, so she dosent see the need to change and waste nappies but her pee is very strong and smelly. I've seen the colour of her nappy when she changes and sometimes and its very yellow. Sometimes when she opens her nappy to change it, it makes the room smell of her pee. The nappies, as we all know will sometimes get damp around the leg cuffs and that dampness starts to smell. Where she wont wear plastic pants, that smell permeates her clothes and it is starting to permeate on my sofa but like i say, she is totally nose blind and in her eyes, she thinks she dosent smell and does enough to stay clean.
The other week we were out together in a town doing some touristy sight seeing and she had a messy accident, filling her nappy completely. From what i could gather it was very large and totally unexpected. She did start to smell pretty quickly but we didnt take too long to find a place for her to change. When she came out of the disabled toilet, i was sure i could still smell her but we were out in the open air. It wasnt until we sat down in a cafe that i was totally sure she was still smelly. I can only assume she didnt quite get properly clean but she was totally unaware of her odour. When we got in the car together i had to open the window a touch.
Another thing she dosent realise is that her vagina smells of stale pee all the time. Even after a bath and shower, i can still smell her pee on there. Its like the pee smell is engrained into her libia but again, she dosent seem to smell it.
I've tried to gently introduce her to wearing plastic pants during the day (to help contain her smell) but she was having none of it and ive tried dropping sone really, really soft, humours hints but she was very frosty towards them. I dont want upset her by outright telling her that she smells and she needs to change more and clean up better. I certainly dont want to hurt her because i love her. . .
How do i have that discussion with her without hurting her???.
All ideas welcome. . .