Metoo said:As far as your Mom opening your mail, I wouldn't have been surprised if the same thing happened to me. I made it a point to keep all my stuff hidden. Even then she found it. When it happened, she told me she moved my boxes down in the basement. I had my things hidden in some model boxes. When I got downstairs to check them, my stuff was gone. EEK! I could tell there were questions and concerns she wanted to ask me about, but I think she didn't know how to approach the whole topic. I was so freaked out that I sure as heck wasn't going to bring it up.She never said a word. Then or ever. The implication was that she wasn't too cool with it.
Just curious, does your Dad live with you also? If so is there a concern about that? I still wonder how much my Dad knew. Mom and Dad shared everything so I have to think he knew. Nothing was ever said by him either. He was somewhat of a tough guy and wasn't afraid to let you know that you stepped out of line as a budding "man".
In an odd sort of way, I still wonder if my parents resolved the whole thing and accepted this part of me. They never treated me differently after Mom found my stuff. So all I can do is wonder. I'd really like to know how much it bothered them or after all these years they came to accept it. if it bothered them I really don't want to open old wounds and don't think anything would be gained by it. Other than putting to rest the guilt that still eats at me sometimes 45 years later. Any thoughts out there?
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