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Will I be able to manage it until death? Will it be hard?
I agree attitude is everything. And a go bag is a must for sure. Lots of wipes and chuck pads. I found I can use a chuck pad to wipe away the big part of the mess before using wipes and it makes it much easier cleaning up in pubic restrooms. At home the shower and hand held head are the easiest for me. But knowing where the restrooms are and what they are like is important. Its funny because where ever I go a new place I always check out the restroom first. even if I don't need to go. I think all IC people learn those habits pretty fast. I am glad to hear it doesn't slow you down.Zeke said:It’s been my experience that Tundra1975 is correct about the learning curve regarding the best diaper for you. For me it has been cloth contour diapers supplemented with MegaMax and Abena M4’s when I’m away from home for an extended period. Incontinence, both urinary and fecal, hasn’t caused a great deal of inconvenience in my life largely due to me not being employed or having a GI track ailment. If I had IBS, or some other disease that would make my IC unpredictable and painful I sure that I would feel differently, but mine is due to a spinal injury aggravated by a seizure so it causes me no pain or discomfort. Even the few times that my fecal IC surprises me it really doesn’t cause me that much difficulty in my current situation. Keeping a good attitude does seem to make things much less unpleasant and realizing that others have it far worse than I do also helps with my attitude. Hope that you find an acceptable way to deal with your condition.
A go bag and adequate planning are definite essentials as is the hand held shower attachment. The last item makes cleanup in the shower so much easier that it’s one item that I wish I could take with me. I’m fortunate in that I don’t have to leave home for very long very often so I don’t have to change and clean up in public facilities very often.Diaperman95 said:I agree attitude is everything. And a go bag is a must for sure. Lots of wipes and chuck pads. I found I can use a chuck pad to wipe away the big part of the mess before using wipes and it makes it much easier cleaning up in pubic restrooms. At home the shower and hand held head are the easiest for me. But knowing where the restrooms are and what they are like is important. Its funny because where ever I go a new place I always check out the restroom first. even if I don't need to go. I think all IC people learn those habits pretty fast. I am glad to hear it doesn't slow you down.
some solid advise spoken.hoimi said:Adaptation to your daily life, which is taking control of your lack of control.
The easiest change is high quality, plastic backed diapers. This will give you a literal barrier to obvious accidents in public, and will cut down on laundry (and ruining clothes by introducing difficult to remove smells). This will not stop the actual loss of control. You will still need to find a place to clean up and there could be sounds and smells that you cannot avoid. In another thread, we were chatting about visual cues that we were having an accident, and this is something that most, if not all, of us have. People may notice you going flush, squatting slightly, or giving grunts, even if you don't mean to. Be prepared with a reply if something happens. (When my husband shudders, he says that a 'possum ran over his grave.' As much as it squicks me out, it does shut me up.)
The big one to stop accidents from happening is to learn why they are happening, and adjust your diet and lifestyle to adapt. Enemas ensure a nearly empty colon, which makes it near impossible for accidents. There are little disposable ones that you can use that are pre-lubricated and super convenient. You can also get Enema bags, that are big rubber bags, with tubing that you can attach. Use warm (not cold or hot) water to flush out everything chilling in your low guts. Be careful, by keeping your bag and tubing clean and dry, and make sure you know what you add (if anything) to the water.
If you have IBS, learn your triggers. Cut out certain foods that lead to increased spasms, gas, or bloating. If you have diarrhea after eating Taco Bell, either decide that there shall be no more Taco Tuesdays, or evaluate what is in your meal, and watch for similar symptoms from food containing the same ingredients. (I physically cannot digest Iceberg Lettuce, and I will say that, were I to eat any, it would tear through my body to get out as soon as possible.)
Incontinence shouldn't be fatal. For some people, it is an incident on their worst day. For others, it is their every day. We can do all the right things, and one bad shrimp or bout of Norovirus, can make our bodies lose control. Others don't want to have their lives revolve around their colon, but diseases and injuries can give people a new normal.
It is appropriate to feel strongly about what is happening with your body. Society expects us to be in control of everything in our lives. This is where it is most important to take control of your lack of control. If it is going to be a new constant, grieve and mourn the things that were taken from you, and retake your life.
I wish you luck!
Freaking McDonalds could take away any ones bowel control. I use to help a friend of mine a lot and he had part of his colon removed due to cancer and then I have my issues and ever time I help him he feeds me them double cheese burgers and a half hour later we are stopping to find us a restroom. I am just glad he understood my pain. Just never understood why he did it to him self every day.TeddyUrsadorable said:While I'm not feral incontinent, I have trained myself to poop once a day. I have an electric bidet with an enema function, so I can clean myself out good in the morning. I rarely have to go again that day. Sometimes again in the evening, or if I have diarrhea from McDonalds lol.
That was all said perfect. I also love this site and feel like just joining the conversations makes me realize I am not alone. I even visited with my doc again about my bowels just the other day. I have also shared with some long term friends that never knew. nor suspected. But I never in almost 30 years have felt so normal for having theses issues. Thank you for the share. I am glad this is good therapy for more than me.checkingoutall said:You have been given some great advise here. The quality of life you want to live due to having bowel incontinence is really up to you. It's up to you, what foods you eat, an enema regement to keep cleaned out, what diapers to wear, things to keep with you when you go out and so much more. How badly do you want to keep having a quality of life, going out and about, enjoy the things you use to do? I suggest you take all these great advise and work out what really works best for you. It's sites like this that has really helped me to accept that diapers are just underwear that have to be changed more often and that it's so much easier changing a diaper than your clothes all the time.