ballyhooser
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Old topic but here goes. Once I actually realized no one really cares about our 24/7 need for diapers or if you’re just a bedwetter in need. We have mostly a self imposed fear that we won’t be accepted by the world around us. Obvious almost all other forms of physical disabilities are simply accepted. Why do we live reluctantly hiding from this one? That’s a rhetorical question, of course, since I came from that secluded area of life also.
Do you want to live a worry free life, or not? That’s your choice. I had the benefit of having been embarrassingly exposed in college. I was a transfer student my first year but had developed a circle of friends that all lived on campus. They strongly encouraged me to join them so second year I thought I would. Of course I always thought with the right challenge I could will my body to stop wetting the bed every night. I knew I could handle my daytime leaking issues so I’d be ok there. The very first week in my dorm I was in my friends room next to mine and we were smoking, getting high, and drinking beer. I was sitting on my friends bed and just laid back. I fell asleep and woke up maybe 20 minutes later as all five of them were laughing hysterically as I had soaked my pants, and his bed. The look on my face told the story and my friend (well they were all friends) but the bed I soaked said hey man don’t worry about it. Another one said yeah don’t worry “puddles”.
Anyway next day I met all of them at our usual lunch table and as I approached one of them said hi there puddles! I simply said hi back and had the immediate sense these were friends and this issue wasn’t any big deal to them. From then on that was my nickname and anytime someone new would ask “why puddles?” One of my friends would matter of factly reply, “because he wets the bed”. Very maturely and in a dismissing and disarming tone that almost everyone reacted with a well ok response. My friends truly had my back.
As time went on I always remember those friends of mine that has always helped me with the perspective, other people really don’t care!
Do you want to live a worry free life, or not? That’s your choice. I had the benefit of having been embarrassingly exposed in college. I was a transfer student my first year but had developed a circle of friends that all lived on campus. They strongly encouraged me to join them so second year I thought I would. Of course I always thought with the right challenge I could will my body to stop wetting the bed every night. I knew I could handle my daytime leaking issues so I’d be ok there. The very first week in my dorm I was in my friends room next to mine and we were smoking, getting high, and drinking beer. I was sitting on my friends bed and just laid back. I fell asleep and woke up maybe 20 minutes later as all five of them were laughing hysterically as I had soaked my pants, and his bed. The look on my face told the story and my friend (well they were all friends) but the bed I soaked said hey man don’t worry about it. Another one said yeah don’t worry “puddles”.
Anyway next day I met all of them at our usual lunch table and as I approached one of them said hi there puddles! I simply said hi back and had the immediate sense these were friends and this issue wasn’t any big deal to them. From then on that was my nickname and anytime someone new would ask “why puddles?” One of my friends would matter of factly reply, “because he wets the bed”. Very maturely and in a dismissing and disarming tone that almost everyone reacted with a well ok response. My friends truly had my back.
As time went on I always remember those friends of mine that has always helped me with the perspective, other people really don’t care!