PTSDSurvivor413 said:
Hey there! I ended up changing at 6. Just feeling really raw and tired. I just went to layin bed and noticed my indicator had partially changed. It is either I have no control and it voids whenever or there might be a faint notice and I just forget it happening
I should still continue on this path right? I kind of thought about taking a break tomorrow and trying underwear again. I found some when folding laundry. Not sure if that’s coming from the day I had, fear of wearing, scared I’m developing a weird fetish or feel guilty and body is doing whatever it wants. Thoughts?
You definitely need to continue with this path. Please get rid of the remnant underwear before you hurt yourself. If you've been having kidney pain, that's serious, and an indication that you really, really need to be serious about this, and keep doing whatever it takes to keep yourself voiding in a healthy way. Your emotional trauma from cruel people is going to make you seek to get away from the diapers, but you really do need them. You're not saying anything that would indicate that you're developing a fetish; quite the opposite.
You're in a very unusual situation, and I can sense the frustration. You physically have the muscular ability to hold your urine, and, with a huge dose of reinforcement from rude people, your mind says that if you can hold it, you should. The huge problem with that thought process is that your ability to sense bladder fullness is functionally nonexistent, and you also have problems releasing your bladder on cue. This results in retention to extreme pressure levels, which definitely can damage your kidneys, and also causes you pain in other places, which could also be damaged by the strain and pressure. Kidneys are a lot harder to replace than diapers. Keep that thought in mind.
At this point, even though some of the muscles still work, there is enough nerve dysfunction and trauma response that, for practical purposes, you do have no bladder control. This may or may not change with time. Without being able to sense fullness and then release your urine on cue, which is not one, but two separate issues, you must wear a diaper that you can trust in order to protect your overall health. Since cruel people took away your ability to manage your bladder normally, you must allow your body to just do what it knows it needs to do to keep you healthy. Every time you try to do something else, you cause yourself injuries.
There is no shame in reclaiming what wellness you can after surviving an assault which damaged you on so many levels. The people who are rude to you have no understanding of what was done to you, and their opinions are of no value. You must protect what's left of your health. I fully agree with what you said on your profile: "If I can conquer the fear of diapers and shame, I’ll be thriving!" You will conquer it, and you will thrive.