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Raven801

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I'm urinary IC and I'm in diapers and it hasn't been easy for me particularly at first but I've gotten used to it and accept it as It's better than the alternative I also have severe IBS and well that leads to times where wetting is the least of my issues but from time to time it lends to some interesting situations as I have noticed I'm much less opposed to using my diaper in a not so accident fashion... For instance I was at a meeting with a hip specialist this afternoon when out of nowhere I really needed a BM as I was sitting there talking to this lady I was tempted to run for a bathroom but as we were pretty much wrapping up I figured I could hold it. Well 5 minutes later I'm on the elevator heading to the main floor and figured I'd hit the restroom on my way out. As luck would have it the stalls where occupied. At this point I figured I'd probably make it home and if not oh well. As I made my way to the doors I realized just how uncomfortable I was ..and in a moment of thought I decided why be uncomfortable and I just let go without really thinking it through. The relief was practically instant and I didn't even feel ashamed as I finished exiting the office with a loaded diaper. I got in my car and left as I was driving away my wife called means wanted to go out to eat..I realized I forgot my backpack and had no wipes or changes but she was very insistent so I figured I'd just go to lunch with her as I was.
Lunch went of unexpectedly well and it wasn't till we hugged as I was leaving she made a little remark that reminded me of my situation. She said she appreciated me going to lunch with her as she was sorry my stomach was obviously not doing well and that I should get my butt home and take care of that.
I decided to be honest and told her that it wasn't really my IbS that had created my current situation and that it was a busy bathroom and my discomfort that ultimately led to my messy bottom. She looked at me a little oddly Snickered and said well you have to deal with wearing them I guess using them on purpose for comfort is fair enough and she said I guess that's what there for and smiled and told me she would see me later. So I guess I'm not sure what all this means but I'm ok using them on purpose for relief or comfort and It appears my wife don't care..... just processing I suppose
 
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I'm really happy for you! It sounds like you have an amazing wife and loving partner, you are super fortunate!

I have found myself in a similar situation before, realizing it would just be simpler, easier, and more sensical to use my diaper for a BM (I have IBS too), and for me it really was a breakthrough with my comfort level with it all.

I know it can really not be easy to adapt life around IC and diapers, but the more acceptance and embracing we do, I have found the more matter of fact, below ever really lamenting, it becomes. And of course, as far as medical conditions go, as you discovered, it has some pretty handy "benefits." I have had jobs that keep me away from anywhere with bathrooms a few times, and diapers there are the utmost blessing, especially if you can't focus through discomfort, like me.

Anyway, Congrats on taking a chance and pushing your comfort zone!
 
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Your wife does sound amazing! Do not run her off. Lol.
That said I understand the IC issues and I have never really pooped myself on purpose so to speak. Now I do get really bad pains and I get to the point it hurts so bad I have no choice but to let it go. So I do under but No way in hell I would go to lunch in public knowing I was dirty. I get out of it as soon as I can and I avoid everyone I can when dirty. Unless you are taking a internal deodorant, than that is not real nice to people around you. I understand when you can’t hold it and shit literally happens. But I still try to be respectful to people around me. They should not have to suffer while I eat. Of course I could never set in my own waste and eat super either. Also as a person who is bladder incontinent and often bowel incontinent. I never leave home without a go bag at least in my car if not on my person either.
 
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Raven801 said:
I'm urinary IC and I'm in diapers and it hasn't been easy for me particularly at first but I've gotten used to it and accept it as It's better than the alternative I also have severe IBS and well that leads to times where wetting is the least of my issues but from time to time it lends to some interesting situations as I have noticed I'm much less opposed to using my diaper in a not so accident fashion... For instance I was at a meeting with a hip specialist this afternoon when out of nowhere I really needed a BM as I was sitting there talking to this lady I was tempted to run for a bathroom but as we were pretty much wrapping up I figured I could hold it. Well 5 minutes later I'm on the elevator heading to the main floor and figured I'd hit the restroom on my way out. As luck would have it the stalls where occupied. At this point I figured I'd probably make it home and if not oh well. As I made my way to the doors I realized just how uncomfortable I was ..and in a moment of thought I decided why be uncomfortable and I just let go without really thinking it through. The relief was practically instant and I didn't even feel ashamed as I finished exiting the office with a loaded diaper. I got in my car and left as I was driving away my wife called means wanted to go out to eat..I realized I forgot my backpack and had no wipes or changes but she was very insistent so I figured I'd just go to lunch with her as I was.
Lunch went of unexpectedly well and it wasn't till we hugged as I was leaving she made a little remark that reminded me of my situation. She said she appreciated me going to lunch with her as she was sorry my stomach was obviously not doing well and that I should get my butt home and take care of that.
I decided to be honest and told her that it wasn't really my IbS that had created my current situation and that it was a busy bathroom and my discomfort that ultimately led to my messy bottom. She looked at me a little oddly Snickered and said well you have to deal with wearing them I guess using them on purpose for comfort is fair enough and she said I guess that's what there for and smiled and told me she would see me later. So I guess I'm not sure what all this means but I'm ok using them on purpose for relief or comfort and It appears my wife don't care..... just processing I suppose
Part of the reason for wearing them is situations like this, namely the not being able to get to a toilet for whatever reason in time.
 
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I've gone back and forth on how I feel about "letting" myself mess. Unless I'm working out in a thin Depend or something, I'm always prepared for it, since it's always been so unpredictable. Once I stopped avoiding messy diapers at all costs it seemed to start happening alot more often though.
 
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@Raven801 , I mess my nappies as I’m either at work and parked away from any type of toilet or I vary from hard constipation to got to go now due to coeliacs (like I had in October , started as hard then lire flood gates being opened )
If at home I wear I wear a pinned cloth nappy and a LKS sleeper at night so not easy to get out of quick
Normal poop clean up don’t phase me ,but if I have episode that smell does
I’m not looking forward to the day I can’t control bowels 😩
 
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parcelboy2 said:
If at home I wear I wear a pinned cloth nappy and a LKS sleeper at night so not easy to get out of quick
You mean the Little Keeper Sleeper? Why? They're meant for people who can't keep their nappies on, such as toddlers and some people with learning disabilities.
 
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HumanFly said:
You mean the Little Keeper Sleeper? Why? They're meant for people who can't keep their nappies on, such as toddlers and some people with learning disabilities.
Yep they’re great for holding up a cloth diaper
 
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Bowel movement's use to be embarrassing when they happened in public but they are happening more frequently so I now longer worry about it I just head to the bathroom and clean up . Ive never deliberately had one in public but s few times while at home when our bathroom was in use and I just had to go. As long as,it all stays contained in my diaper its a non issue as most times I just cant control ir stop it from happening so I nolonger stress about it.
 
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Yes it awesome to have to have a very accepting partner ... We are always looking out for each other !!
 
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I did this a few times. I hate when IBS hits and my whole abdomen is in pain with the cramps. If I know I’m not in a five minute reach from a toilet, I don’t fight. I refuse to be in pain and suffer just to most probably mess myself anyway a bit later.
 
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Ahh full on leaks to half moons.
Yeah its embarrassing at times but who cares. People either like you or they don't.
 
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HumanFly said:
You mean the Little Keeper Sleeper? Why? They're meant for people who can't keep their nappies on, such as toddlers and some people with learning disabilities.
I must say I find it odd to be worried about not making it to the restroom, and then to wear clothing that is hard to remove to make it harder to get to the restroom! That is a little contradictive to make that statement.
 
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