Hi I'm just wondering when is it the time to tell your other half your an abdl. Iv been going out with my other half 3 months now and every day we seem to closer and we have no secrets between us at. Should I wait a few years or less
BachBrahms said:The other thing I have found is the more at ease with it I am, the more at ease with it she is. If I am panicking or totally embarrassed, then so is she. If I am relaxed about it, then so is she. I try to be discreet most of the time. I tell her that the relationship is open; she can always offer feedback on my diaper wearing, but I will not force the subject.
BachBrahms said:I would tell your SO certainly before there is a ring involved. Here's what I told my (then) girlfriend (now) wife. I invited her over for a special breakfast one morning. I asked her to think of all the things she loves about me. I told her this is a part of who I have been since I was a child. She doesn't have to indulge me, but she needs to know this is part of who I am. All the parts of me she already loves will still always be there. Without this part of me, though, I wouldn't be the person she loves, and there's no way to change that or make it go away. I told her she had the opportunity to leave if she didn't like it. She chose to stay. I offered her the website http://understanding.infantilism.org for her reference. She took the time to explore it.
The other thing I have found is the more at ease with it I am, the more at ease with it she is. If I am panicking or totally embarrassed, then so is she. If I am relaxed about it, then so is she. I try to be discreet most of the time. I tell her that the relationship is open; she can always offer feedback on my diaper wearing, but I will not force the subject.
BachBrahms said:I would tell your SO certainly before there is a ring involved. Here's what I told my (then) girlfriend (now) wife. I invited her over for a special breakfast one morning. I asked her to think of all the things she loves about me. I told her this is a part of who I have been since I was a child. She doesn't have to indulge me, but she needs to know this is part of who I am. All the parts of me she already loves will still always be there. Without this part of me, though, I wouldn't be the person she loves, and there's no way to change that or make it go away. I told her she had the opportunity to leave if she didn't like it. She chose to stay. I offered her the website http://understanding.infantilism.org for her reference. She took the time to explore it.
The other thing I have found is the more at ease with it I am, the more at ease with it she is. If I am panicking or totally embarrassed, then so is she. If I am relaxed about it, then so is she. I try to be discreet most of the time. I tell her that the relationship is open; she can always offer feedback on my diaper wearing, but I will not force the subject.
AshleyTcd said:Hi I'm just wondering when is it the time to tell your other half your an abdl. Iv been going out with my other half 3 months now and every day we seem to closer and we have no secrets between us at. Should I wait a few years or less
BachBrahms said:I would tell your SO certainly before there is a ring involved. Here's what I told my (then) girlfriend (now) wife. I invited her over for a special breakfast one morning. I asked her to think of all the things she loves about me. I told her this is a part of who I have been since I was a child. She doesn't have to indulge me, but she needs to know this is part of who I am. All the parts of me she already loves will still always be there. Without this part of me, though, I wouldn't be the person she loves, and there's no way to change that or make it go away. I told her she had the opportunity to leave if she didn't like it. She chose to stay. I offered her the website http://understanding.infantilism.org for her reference. She took the time to explore it.
The other thing I have found is the more at ease with it I am, the more at ease with it she is. If I am panicking or totally embarrassed, then so is she. If I am relaxed about it, then so is she. I try to be discreet most of the time. I tell her that the relationship is open; she can always offer feedback on my diaper wearing, but I will not force the subject.