Calico
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Slomo said:Very well put Calico. Another positive rep I'd give- if I could.
Why can't you?
Slomo said:Very well put Calico. Another positive rep I'd give- if I could.
Calico said:Why can't you?
SweetPrincess said:Excuse me!?
Firstly I wasn't actually referring to you. In my response I was speaking in general terms "you". You just happened to respond right before I posted mine with a similar response of "in my own home". So don't take it so personally.
To answer your question. No, no-one does know. But I make very little effort now to hide it. Should they stumble across it (such as just opening my closest they'll find it) I'll just tell them the truth. Also the fact I like to wear nappies doesn't generally come up in most conversations so I see no reason to bring it up. The same way you wouldn't bring up something specific like "I like avocados" unless someone asked you.
Again if you read my reply you would of known I already answered the second part of your question about "I don't share my sex life with my son also." I wasn't speaking on the fetish part. Like I said and I will re-state again "I myself many times wear to bed at night and use it in a non sexual way. I wake up, change and go about my day.".
Another example is the same way someone might like to drink beer to relax I like to wear nappies to de-stress. There you go another valid non-sexual explanation for nappy wearing. Why is saying publicly to people you like to drink beer and get drunk to de-stress acceptable and nappy wearing not?
I love challenging social norms. That was the point of my previous post. Not to score points, or to say "you're doing it wrong". I love playing devil's advocate. Notice how I also said at the end this: "That I believe is the truth of the matter. You are free to do what you wish but I see no valid reason here to hide and lie about who I am."
Notice how I said "I", I wasn't attacking you or anyone.
One last thing don't tell me I shouldn't respond because I've not yet had kids. I am 21 and I was that kid you're talking about not too long ago buddy, so I think I have some say considering I didn't think nappy wearing was that bad when I was in preschool, I actually wanted to wear them lol.
littlemoosey said:Points taken. When you have children, let me know how and when you tell them, and how it works out. Perhaps that will change my mind. I will not change the worlds perception of AB/DL because I told my son who is growing into a young adult that I have an affinity for the AB world. How does on the one hand saying, "I am teaching you to grow up to be a man; and on the other...don't mind me while I put on some diapers and regress to a child." come across? These are diametrically opposed messages, and not one I will deliver to my son any time soon. He will have to reach adult hood before that will ever happen.
I did not tell you that you should not respond. I was pointing to the fact that the original poster asked for opinions from those that actually have children. You are certainly welcome to give your opinion, although the opinion of a 21 year old still in school regarding the dynamics of a family and raising children ring hollow. Like I said, when you have kids, please let us know the day you announce this to them. Good luck.
srmousse said:I'm not going to say anything about pros and cons of sharing or not sharing. What I am going to say, and with all respect, hypothesizing about raising a child and making decisions about what and how you would handle these kinds of situations is 100% different then once you actually have a little baby in your arms. Everything changes, everything you thought you knew you then realize was nothing. It may seem like what I'm saying is ridiculous, there was I time I would have thought it was too... Then I had one, then two, then three little babies. And you don't know, you can't know what you don't know, until it is you and your baby in your arms.
littlemoosey said:One question. Does everyone you know, know that you wear diapers. If not why not?
Based on that answer you will then know why children are too young to process this information. I don't share my sex life with my son also.
When/if you have kids, you get to make your own decisions. In the mean time until you go down that road, don't try to tell someone that has already been down that road what the road looks like.
The OP was looking for advice from those of us that have children.
littlemoosey said:PERFECTLY STATED, thank you.
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SweetPrincess,I apologize that my post came off as...aggressive. As you said, yours happened to come on the heels of my post and I thought that your comments..."toxic" etc were directed at me, and other parents like me that have decided that this is not for their children.
We will have to agree to disagree. But the kind off acceptance that you are looking for, that we all are looking for will not happen in my life time. Perhaps it will for you, I hope that it does then you will not have to make this kind of a decision.
In the mean time, I stand behind what I have said, and am happy with the way we handle things here. Do I wish I could be more open in my own house, absolutely but that will not happen for a very very long time.
Slomo said:And as we have both said, being a DL is not sexual.
Tungsten said:There you go again, stating your opinions as universal truths.
Slomo said:Nice try at railroading me though. Too bad you just failed.
Tungsten said:Traveling on or constructing railroads?
Ohhh....you mean the other definition. Isn’t it crazy that words can have multiple defintions and meanings, and not just the ones that justify your opinions?