Too “Young” for Diapers

[foxkits]

Yeah, fun fact -- "Charles Ingalls" (Played by the great Michael Landon BTW) had bedwetting issues when he was young. So, if the doc was like him, they would have more compassion!

He made a movie about his childhood bed wetting.
His mother hanging his wet sheets out his bedroom window every day he wet. He had to run home every day to pull them inside the house before the kids walking home saw them. She did it to embarrass him

 

[foxkits]

I knew that.

It was the subject of this biographical made-for-television film called The Loneliest Runner, back in 1976, I believe.

Yup that's the movie I remember it myself.

 

[BabyAby123]

Yeah, it sucks. I hear those words often. “Too young for diapers, too young for joint pain, too young to be tired all of the time”. It gets really annoying and frustrating because I didn’t choose any of this when it began at 20. Now I’m 25 and I still hear it. Another thing that boils my blood is when I get dismissed for medical problems because of my age. “You should just get out more, you aren’t trying hard enough, other people your age do so and so”.

 

[CptKirk]

Believe me, I heard the exact same shit when I first got deathly ill. People would take one look at me and tell me I was "just being lazy". GOD if I could had changed places with them for 5 seconds they never would say something so offensive!

 

[ShinyMichael]

Mum always found specialists that were well aware of my needs. Helps when she's n the business herself. Cut through a lot of that as I was growing up.
It's unavoidable sometimes but I usually shut it down with something along the lines of. thanks but its been a long time and I'm happier with this solution"

 

[ShinyMichael]

I will add she got more push-back for the plastic pants than the diapers. She always told them I was just calmer in them and better contained. Some side eye of course but no bother to her. They usually back off if there a hint its a psychological issue as along as you are being polite.

 

[fredy552]

I'm 77. But I returned to 24/7 diapers more than 23 years ago. I don't get noticed very often and I rarely get a comment. These days I don't often get a second look, either. I believe we become less visible as we age.

My doctor believes sincerely that medications and other treatments could lessen if not "cure" my incontinence. He does, however, accept my decision to manage my incontinence with diapers. We have a good professional relationship. My doctor knows his job is to diagnose and present treatment options rather than to "tell me what to do."

I agree with you I told my Doctor I was going to manage my Incontinence at 1st it was Pull-Ups and only occasionally and within six months my management was Diapers and Plastic Pants. He is sending me here and there to figure out why I am Incontinenant (Different Testing). My Incontinence started after having COVID really bad and agreed to be a ginny pig for some of the testing. Is that what screwed my boy??

 

[fredy552]

Well, I agree you should be honest with your Doctor. My old Doctor I had for many years Retired and the practice had some New Doctors they me a List. I looked at the list like I was looking at a Box of cereal. How the hell do I know if Dr. John or Dr. Jane is a good fit for me and my wife? I said to my departing Doctor that he knew these new people and their backgrounds so said Dr. Jon I said OK. Now the caveat I saw this guy 1 time before COVID. So he does not me from Adam or Eve. When I got out of the hospital for COVID he saw me a few weeks after I got home I told him about some of the issues (except the incontinence I was embarrassed and figured it would go away. Along with the issues in my legs. Now fast forward from Nov. of 2020 to Oct of this year I admitted all including the incontinence and diaper use to manage. I stated I was not going to a Urologist as I have read through several blogs not just this group that after lots of testing and expense 98% to 99% of you have stated they cannot find anything wrong and want you to take this pill or something other things. My Doctor is sending me for more testing. I will say this he listens to us meaning me and my wife. I at 1st hid my incontinence from her as I was embarrassed. Once again blogs like this one and others out there have helped my psyche. Thank all you people for talking about your issues and wearing diapers to fix yourselves instead of drugs and some the other crap they want us to do.

 

[Rob110]

Its been 9 years for me and my urologist still recommends meds every time I see him I keep telling him I am fine with wearing diapers to manage my IC issues then he says ok see you next year. I really think they get kick backs from the drug companies

 

[uknappygirl]

I can understand your frustration at these comments. I would think that they mean that there are other options that could help but I get that it probably didn't come across that way. I'm lucky that I've found an understanding doctor who I get along with and see very regularly and so I'm very open about wearing nappies and the symptoms of my incontinence. Not all the healthcare professionals I've met are so understanding or relatable and that does sometimes cause problems. I hope that it all goes better for you.