Too “Young” for Diapers

[Wetshisbed]

I found the doctor had no interest in how I was going to manage my incontinence. I was refered to the continence nurse for practical help. She wanted me to stay out of nappies as long as possible but accepted it was my decision.

 

[slimjiminy]

I have been astounded by urologists lack of practical understanding of IC management.

They'll never do this, but I believe that having medical students wear and use diapers for a month before they get their doctorate, would go a long way towards the "lack of practical understanding", and perhaps even an appreciation of the stigma factor. In other words, walking a mile in our own shoes. Especially urologists and those that treat the elderly.

But it will never happen. They would laugh the idea out of the room at the suggestion.

 

[Diaperman95]

Don't take it in a bad way. I doubt they meant it in one. As a person wearing diapers my entire adult life If I could just have a nickle for everytime. Every once in a while I will have a ER doc say something but most the time they look at my chart and know I have plenty of specialist. I do not know your age but most men do not experience it until their prostrate messes up and that is normally 50 or older and even then complete loss is not normal. I just explain to them I tried meds and a nerve stimulator and all the things they like us to try and I am content. But if you have not thought about it you need to try and see their point to a degree because Incontinence is a symptom not a disease and it can often be caused from more dangerous diseases. But that said doctors do need to realize Diapers really are not the end of the world and younger folks that can take care of their skin a cope with it should be allowed too. I have had a few rude Nurses and doctors over the years and it cant be helped when in the ER as some folks are just born a entitled asshole. But I can pick an choice my doctors when not in the ER. I never see a new doctor with out reading reviews and I will not go to one without some bedside manor unless he is just the absolute best in his field and no one else can help. I also speak up for myself to doctors with out being a ashole if I do not agree. After all he is working for you.

 

[lilshelly]

Ok so I will just put my 2 cents worth out there.
Aside from the comment of to young for diapers. The doctor is actually doing their job which is to question an in issue and then try to find out what that issue is. I didn't think anything of it because I have been wearing diapers to my PCP. I went to a urologist and they wanted to know why I was wearing diapers. I told them why. They want me to go for a urodynamics test which is fine. They offered me a script for something like Ozempic I turned it down I don't want to take more medication than I already do.
There are some things I have learned to ignore or let go. The doctor is just doing their job and that is to keep you healthy.

 

[BobbiSueEllen]

Ok so I will just put my 2 cents worth out there.
Aside from the comment of to young for diapers. The doctor is actually doing their job which is to question an in issue and then try to find out what that issue is. I didn't think anything of it because I have been wearing diapers to my PCP. I went to a urologist and they wanted to know why I was wearing diapers. I told them why. They want me to go for a urodynamics test which is fine. They offered me a script for something like Ozempic I turned it down I don't want to take more medication than I already do.
There are some things I have learned to ignore or let go. The doctor is just doing their job and that is to keep you healthy.

If you took Ozempic, you'd really need to be in diapers! They're finding out Ozempic has a tendency for fecal incontinence. Messy diapers...yuck!

 

[slimjiminy]

If you took Ozempic, you'd really need to be in diapers! They're finding out Ozempic has a tendency for fecal incontinence. Messy diapers...yuck!

I wasn't aware of that side-effect, but it makes sense now that I think about it. Here is a link to an article for that.

 

[Sidewinder]

Michael Landon, who played Charles Ingalls on "Little House," was a bedwetter until he was 12 years old. He had a very stressed childhood

I knew that.

It was the subject of this biographical made-for-television film called The Loneliest Runner, back in 1976, I believe.

 

[Dinotopian2002]

This reeks of medical gaslighting to me - and a lack of knowledge.

I won’t give details, but I’ve had a lot of it in the past.

These days, my doctors know of my diaper needs and, much like everywhere else, I’m diapered when I see a doctor.

Breathe Deep, Seek Peace
Dinotopian2002

 

[Sidewinder]

This reeks of medical gaslighting to me - and a lack of knowledge.

That's why as a general rule, I have extremely little, almost nonexistent trust in hospitals and doctors.

But as with any rule, there will almost invariably be exceptions, like one time when I was about 9 or 10, I accidentally tripped and sprained my wrist and had to have my forearm and hand in an ergonomic splint and wrapped in a tensor bandage.

 

[BobbiSueEllen]

There's a reason why it's called "practicing medicine".

 

[DreamerBenenedicte]

I believe that your doctor only wanted to show compassion. Probably was meaning that it is possible to help you with your health issues.

 

[daylight]

For the second time in about a year I had a doctor tell me I was “too young” for diapers. I don’t know why these comments frustrate me (snip).

Certain comments can hit a sensitive spot unbeknownst to the speaker. For instance, I have a few, ‘my child…’ whilst I am present. Wow, really, immaculate inception, all the credit is yours is it, better go tell the pope.

Language can be used in hurtful ways, but in this case, it may have been trying to be supportive and sympathetic to your struggle with incontinence. If you find yourself in the same situation try asking ‘I am curious, why do you say that?’

 

[BobbiSueEllen]

Certain comments can hit a sensitive spot unbeknownst to the speaker. For instance, I have a few, ‘my child…’ whilst I am present. Wow, really, immaculate inception, all the credit is yours is it, better go tell the pope.

I don't like it when people I don't know say stuff like that to me...or make physical contact with me. That kind of closeness requires trust and I don't know any of them.

Language can be used in hurtful ways, but in this case, it may have been trying to be supportive and sympathetic to your struggle with incontinence. If you find yourself in the same situation try asking ‘I am curious, why do you say that?’

That's one way of responding. I tend to say "Is that your opinion?" when their ambiguous talk sounds authoritative. When people start getting pushy or bossy, I turn and walk away. This is my life, not theirs.

 

[Napincolove]

No one is too young for Nappies, if you need them then you NEED them !

 

[daylight]

That's one way of responding. I tend to say "Is that your opinion?" when their ambiguous talk sounds authoritative. When people start getting pushy or bossy, I turn and walk away. This is my life, not theirs.

Similar. I've found if I ask them to explain their comment it helps to de-escalate any (micro-) aggressive remarks, and replying in like can at times amplify the response. Or shut it down. Guess it depends on what results you are looking for.

 

[Fleetwoodmac32192]

I'd rather wear and use pull-ups or diapers than have an accident without it or have medication with bad side effects. Having to center life around the toilet makes me feel like I'm missing out just so I'm looking the same as everyone else.

 

[UrgentWees]

I don’t get told that I’m too young to be in nappies, but I have been told I’m too old to be in them by a couple of nurses and one physiotherapist at different clinics I have attended over the years. I told all of them I would have made a mess in the waiting room or during my consult if I wasn’t wearing one, which was true, and stopped them from pressing further.

 

[CptKirk]

I think you’re most likely right but it’s so annoying. You’re definitely right about the fighting words!

But I guess the good news is, since this keeps happening, I should be able to report what age is exactly the age the medical community considers to be “ready” for diapers. Whenever I stop getting those comments must be the “Diaper age.” So far 34 is not it.

I was "looked at" weird by a number of nurses and 2 Dr's (not part of my medical team, specialists) as I was physically massive when I got sick 6 weeks before turning 34 and I wound up unable to stand/walk 7-8 months later. It wasn't until much of the definition I used to have in my arms/chest/neck/back/and especially my legs that I stopped hearing those kind of comments. I understand though as how many times do you see a relatively healthy looking (outside appearance) 34 year old male? You don't.

I don't believe there was ever any ill intent (except for the Dr. who's nose I shattered) directed at me. Personally I felt it was pity, which is not something I ever asked for from anyone!

Not much you can do about it though.

CptKirk

 

[CptKirk]

Michael Landon, who played Charles Ingalls on "Little House," was a bedwetter until he was 12 years old. He had a very stressed childhood

My oldest son was a bed wetter well past the age of 10 yet was a str8 A student, STUD football player and especially wrestler, ran every 5k in the Valley and was able to do hundreds of proper push-ups/sit-ups/day until i finally allowed him to start working out with weights when he was 12. All you can do is keep their confidence high and pay no mind to bedwetting as he did outgrow it, but I know he struggled with it for a long time. Fortunately for him we never made anything of it nor did his grandparents or anyone else. My brother began to make a comment until I placed him against the wall and let him know if he spoke one more disparaging word, we'd relive our youth as we used to beat the ever living shit out of each other 1-2x/day, damn near every day for at least a dozen years.

CptKirk

 

[Neroforte]

I'm 45 and wear anyway because I know my body need it, don't want to suffer at work for 12h fighting with incontinence