gouletkyle
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All my close friends know about my issues. I carry a diaper bag and have changed at there placed many times so made sure they all knew for a while.
I am totally with @greatlake5 and @Ellyn here. My wife knows, three really close friends, and a coworker that accidentally received a letter from my doctor. I suspect a lot of other people know or suspect but no one's ever said anything and I try not to worry about it. I was lucky enough to be done with college before it got really bad. It's a medical thing and I don't want people to treat me differently (for better or worse) because of it.greatlake5 said:Aside of my family, my partner, and a few really close friends, I don't think there're too many who might know. Obviously when I was in school there were a bunch of fellow students that knew. I try to not think about other people who might suspect. Most IC people, especially when you've been for some time, others have to know. I don't fly the IC flag. It's personal. I'd prefer to not discus my medical issues with people I don't know.
Sorry for replying to my own comment (haha) but I forgot to include my dentist. She knows because the last time I went for an appointment, it was quite early in the morning, and her exam room was honestly surprisingly quiet - absolutely pin drop silent - and the "crinkle" sound that I usually don't notice at all in any public place stood out like a sore thumb. So much so, I sort of had to acknowledge it because she always asks health questions, so I made a joke about getting old and it being "just one of those things" and not due to any serious issues.HalMidLife said:My mother, my best friend and his wife know, but that's it, at least as far as I know. Turns out my best friend's wife also has bladder issues and uses pull ups, so we have that in common
Sometimes, especially with ex-wife/ex-husband or ex-friends, if they are trying to harm the original IC person, protect yourself. It's difficult to get a law suit about this type of personal information. But certainly if it's in an ongoing divorce suit, a judge should be aware of this type of extortion. At some point your lawyer could set a law suit for damages. It's been done. At the worst, the extortionist will have to pay their own lawyer.Raven801 said:All my friends know....my ex made sure everyone knew....,..most of them really didn't care.... luckily
And I though I was the only one LoL ...many years ago when I bought my first dry suit I was contemplating a p valve but was struggling to put a hole in such an expensive purchase yet alone my used dry suit had a leak because of a bad valve installation, and someone I was diving with took me aside and said don't risk it just wear a diaper...I thought she was joking but quickly found out among the female divers that was common ish. I was actually shocked but years later my IC got much worse and long story short I have introduced many dry suit users to premium briefs lolNothingtoseehere said:Most of mine do by now. I'm not shy about my incontinence and needing diapers full time. I've had oab since I was a teenager and went 24-7 just before the pandemic started. Having my friends know has been super helpful. Especially if I have a bad day and need to vent.
I also teach scuba and there's a lot of diaper usage among the other instructors for dry suit diving.
Fun story from yesterday. We were doing openwater checkouts and after I got out of the water I went to put a fresh diaper on and didn't have any diapers in the car. I was cleaning the SUV last week and completely forgot to put my diaper bag back in my SUV. Luckily I was able to get get a diaper from one of my closet friends. It was unfortunately a crappy store brand, but enough to get me home.
I've also become the dry suit diaper expert at our shop. So many people getting frustrated at store brands until I pass them some higher quality NS diapers. It's kind of fun being able to use my incontinence and diapers skills to help out my friends.
I'd "normally" agree with this 100% and actually this is how I lived my life up until, well, I couldn't. Literally! When you go from NEVER SITTING STILL (self employed over educated professional auto/truck/equipment/marine technician (I prefer mechanic, but whatever) that was 50-60 hours/week at my garage. Add in a min 2 nights/week doing "side work" *work that I couldn't take on at my shop as I couldn't afford to tie up a bay for a day or more....LARGE jobs* but as many as 20-25 hours in the winter. I lifted weights for 150 minutes every other night pretty much from the age of 12 through just before turning 34. I fished in over a dozen bass tournaments, coached football & wrestling, had a great family life with 2 very young sons as well as did all of the around the house work, yard work etc.daylight said:Introvert - -Extrovert.
I have people talk to me about what they are going through, and I'm sympathetic and an active listener, I don't normally divulge my medical issues other than higher level categorization and associated limits. I get it, talking about it helps to normalize and work through the emotions. Some topics are just awkward.
There are forums to help with group therapy for incontinence. It is not a badge I care to display in public.