I wear and wet my diaper at work, a professional setting (I have a Ph.D.) with casual dress and I am reasonably sure that no one knows I am wearing a diaper, let alone a wet diaper. If people know or at least suspect I have on a diaper, I am definitely not treated any differently. Sure there is a diaper bulge after I wet a few times, but my untucked shirt, sweater or sport coat conceals my wet diaper. Actually, the bulge is most noticeable when I am sitting. I also take precautions to make sure that I smell fresh and clean even after being wet for 8 hours by putting 2-4 drops of baby powder scented oil in my diaper before I diaper up. Just use your favorite search engine for "scented oils." There are many different scents but baby powder scent makes more SENSE than any others available. Another important variable is to know the nexus between wetting frequency, volume, and diaper capacity. A wet spot on the back of light colored pants from a press-out leak would more than likely disclose to others that you have a wet diaper needing to be changed. "Know thyself...know thy diapers."