It's like the vanilla world is reeling against this wave of reality: gender dysphoria, non-heterosexuality, neurodivergency, other phenomena. And it's not just the right or the left...it's
everyone. It's like they're reacting from overload, too much to process on top of what they already bear on a daily basis. I guess it's just part of the generational process; each generation gets stilted in the values of its own time and a new generation emerges & takes its place, with their own signature values which challenges the older, carved-in-stone values...and they, in-turn, will be challenged & displaced by the generation after them.
The more I've been compelled, over time, to accept the things about me that are not only atypical of my own generation but seemingly
any current generation, the more it seems I have no generation to call my own. Technically, I was born a 2nd-year Generation X but it seems I have been both spat out by my peers and self-removed from them. I have both autism and this insatiable urge to be in diapers & baby clothes, as well as other baby things. On top of that, I am detached from my own biological gender because of the social expectations forced upon me because I look male and/or I have male genitalia. And because my neurodivergence can neither comprehend nor embrace what society says I "must" be because of my "bag". And so now, I have no gender identity. I can live with that. But I can endure neither the ignorance nor ammunition of any current generation because my "bag" has no essence of Flavor du Jour. I'm set aside because my colors don't fit anyone's rainbow.
And that includes the rainbow of what I thought I could call a daughter & her husband (
he is no longer a son-in-law due to his violence). But that's how it must be because they have kids. I'm too old to have any features & faults of my own. I'm expected to be old enough to have "learned & moved on". Even my dad thinks autism is a crock, and denies all our glaring, shared experiences with my life of undiagnosed autism and its frustrations. He was just glad that once I was gone, so was the problem. Someone else's problem now. Even now, our phone convos are brief.
it's like someone pulled my passport. I say that in context of a W.H. Auden poem called "Refugee Blues", especially the line...
The consul banged the table and said,
"If you've got no passport you're officially dead!":
But we are still alive, my dear, but we are still alive.
This poem is in the context of the Jewish Plight in 1933-1945 Europe. But there were also Slavs, Poles, Romanis and other 'non-Aryan' European races which, then, like the Jews, were slated for annihilation to make room for the growing, 'superior' Aryan race. Auden's depiction of the Jewish plight could be a modern analogy for the gender-dysphoric, neurodivergent and other 'lesser' groups of today. Time changes the contours of the context but we as a society on the whole never learn from the past enough to see it in the today. Thus the pitifulness of humanity. It will never be all-good...just, hopefully, "good enough".
So, yes, I do feel rather stateless right now. Even Hitler was stateless from 1925-1932...it's just a tragic shame he somehow forgot the Golden Rule. It would've not only avoided much of a war and 40-50 million dead by his hands alone...it would've made the world a little better. But he chose his destiny...and those of millions of others. And the game continues...in a different time & place, with unique rules (
which, like before, somehow get either ignored or forgotten)...and not so much bodies as there are walking wounded.
But in the end, it's all the same, isn't it?