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I did do it a few times, but only when I had real pullups on for bed. I mostly wore cloth training pants during the day. I was always afraid my mom would somehow know.
Yeah. I wouldn't shame my kids either. I truly believe all kids learn at their own pace and some can't learn at all. If I ever have an incontinent child, I would accept them whole heartfelt. It's just the intentional side that I would place some restrictions on. It's just knowing whether or not it is intentional.sinceiwassmall said:I was the nicest dad in the world about real accidents. I didn’t want my kids to have any of the shame about their bodies and perfectly normal growing up and bodily functions I had as a kid.
Yeah. I see. That's probably for the best. It would be a lot harder to accept my child using in public though. It's not that I wouldn't accept the child, but more that I worry about their social experience. If the child really wanted it though, I may have to work something out. I would encourage them to keep their usage to their private time though.MiloTheKitten said:well they did kind of step back an accept it not much they could do, they did give me a rule about it. when I pee I had to tell them that way I could be escorted to the public restroom and get a change.
well what would you do if they were intent to wet themselves whenever they needed to pee?Weatheronthe8s said:Yeah. I wouldn't shame my kids either. I truly believe all kids learn at their own pace and some can't learn at all. If I ever have an incontinent child, I would accept them whole heartfelt. It's just the intentional side that I would place some restrictions on. It's just knowing whether or not it is intentional.
Yeah. I see. That's probably for the best. It would be a lot harder to accept my child using in public though. It's not that I wouldn't accept the child, but more that I worry about their social experience. If the child really wanted it though, I may have to work something out. I would encourage them to keep their usage to their private time though.
No the whole mentality of "You're a big boy now and shouldn't need to wear diapers" was in my head so I decided against it plus my parents would have gotten madMiloTheKitten said:did you?
I’m guessing you’re not a parent yet, @MiloTheKitten. This just isn’t a possibility or option in real life. No sane functioning parent could or would be part of that. It doesn’t happen.MiloTheKitten said:well what would you do if they were intent to wet themselves whenever they needed to pee?
Yeah. Exactly. I'm not a parent, but this would have to be an absolute last resort. The most I'd ever feel okay allowing is private time, but even that's stretching it a little. I really don't want a child to have to deal with the humiliation in public.sinceiwassmall said:I’m guessing you’re not a parent yet, @MiloTheKitten. This just isn’t a possibility or option in real life. No sane functioning parent could or would be part of that. It doesn’t happen.
not yet i'm not but sometimes a parent has to accept things about their child its not like a parent can control what their kid does, if they keep chosing to wet themself what can a parent do except give them either a diaper or pull-up and hope they stopsinceiwassmall said:I’m guessing you’re not a parent yet, @MiloTheKitten. This just isn’t a possibility or option in real life. No sane functioning parent could or would be part of that. It doesn’t happen.
well my parents never made it public. I never really ran about as a 7 year old in just a pull-up at the park or anything like thatWeatheronthe8s said:Yeah. Exactly. I'm not a parent, but this would have to be an absolute last resort. The most I'd ever feel okay allowing is private time, but even that's stretching it a little. I really don't want a child to have to deal with the humiliation in public.
Diapers can stick out of your pants though. That's the issue. If it sticks out, then the child can instantly be shamed. I would accept my child's fascinations with open arms, but I need them to understand also that some things aren't really suited for public. It would be different if they were incontinent. Even I try to be careful where I wear diapers as an adult. I've only done it a few times and have to check that the diaper isn't too obvious. Plus I'd be extra careful at like a park or something due to more constant bending and things. I would work to teach the child the need to keep their diapers more of a personal thing rather than a public obvious thing. There's a reason many ABDLs don't generally do it in public.MiloTheKitten said:well my parents never made it public. I never really ran about as a 7 year old in just a pull-up at the park or anything like that
unfortunately as a kid I never cared if I wet myself in public or notWeatheronthe8s said:Diapers can stick out of your pants though. That's the issue. If it sticks out, then the child can instantly be shamed. I would accept my child's fascinations with open arms, but I need them to understand also that some things aren't really suited for public. It would be different if they were incontinent. Even I try to be careful where I wear diapers as an adult. I've only done it a few times and have to check that the diaper isn't too obvious. Plus I'd be extra careful at like a park or something due to more constant bending and things. I would work to teach the child the need to keep their diapers more of a personal thing rather than a public obvious thing. There's a reason many ABDLs don't generally do it in public.
thats what my parents did in the start but it failed for monthsKrankyPants said:If I had a kid and they kept deliberately peeing in their pullups I'd ask them why and if they just say because they wanted to, I'd eliminate all diapers unless they wet the bed or are in a situation where it may be impossible to find a bathroom in time. There may be a lot of wet shoes and pants, but I think if there smart enough to make that choice they're responsible enough to take a potty break or deal with embarassment. I'd help them realize consequences of their action because I want the best for them.
Yeah. That's why I would've tried to help you understand the best I could've. I understand the need to allow a child to explore who they are, including all of their fascinations. However, I believe it should be kept to private time for the child alone. I think I would've been better off if I was allowed to comfortably explore my diaper fascination (and gender) as a child. I sadly didn't though and was left desperate for many years as well as stressed thinking I was a horrible person. I believe in private exploration for children for a reason. It's to help them learn who they truly are.MiloTheKitten said:unfortunately as a kid I never cared if I wet myself in public or not
well my parents tried everything I was pretty much addicted to wetting myself and it made that hard lol they tried everything they could think ofWeatheronthe8s said:Yeah. That's why I would've tried to help you understand the best I could've. I understand the need to allow a child to explore who they are, including all of their fascinations. However, I believe it should be kept to private time for the child alone. I think I would've been better off if I was allowed to comfortably explore my diaper fascination (and gender) as a child. I sadly didn't though and was left desperate for many years as well as stressed thinking I was a horrible person. I believe in private exploration for children for a reason. It's to help them learn who they truly are.
Yeah. I wouldn't know what to do then.MiloTheKitten said:well my parents tried everything I was pretty much addicted to wetting myself and it made that hard lol they tried everything they could think of
for me it wasn't really a sexual thing or anything like that.Weatheronthe8s said:Yeah. I wouldn't know what to do then.
Also, something like gender I would treat differently to a degree. I would allow a child to explore that publicly if they felt truly confident in their private exploration. That is a very important part of one's identity. Diapers are different because of how they are generally used. I would let the child explore it in private as I do see understanding all parts of yourself as an important part of child development, but just not in public. That is left to certain issues.
when did you start wetting, and when did you have to stop, and how often did you wet?Lyric said:Yes, that was my experience as well. There was certainly nothing sexual about wearing diapers when I was young, but it did become sexual by the time I was 11 or 12. By 14, my mom was clearly aware wearing diapers and wetting them had become a sexual outlet fo me. She talked to me about erections, why I became aroused when she diapered me an d how most people, boys and girls masturbated as well as adults. At some point she knew I played with myself under my diapers and assured me it was normal. She had the same conversations with my sister.this was all very helpful and healthy as I got older and started to combine diaper wearing with sexual experiences.
bidl said:Was a bedwetter until 17, normally had 5 plus wet nights a week but if I did wake up dry I would always wet it before getting changed
I was seldom dry at night until my late teens and wasn't reliably dry at night until my early 20's during my teens I often wet the bed deliberately. I wet my pants most days until I was nearly 11 years old often deliberately.bidl said:Was a bedwetter until 17, normally had 5 plus wet nights a week but if I did wake up dry I would always wet it before getting changed