eastcoastdl
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So, I've read about a lot of people who have partners that range from enjoying, to accepting, to intolerant, as well as couples where one or both are in fact IC, and the reception there ranges from lovingly accepting to the cold shoulder (of themselves or others), but I have a weird combo of most of these recently...
A short background on me, when I first started having IC symptoms my wife was (and continues to be) very supportive of me, and even encouraged me to use protection. It was tough in the beginning, and I wasn't into the whole DL/kinky side (yet), but she told me about how she had bladder problems when she was young and consoled me, even wanted to watch me change sometimes (which made me feel uncomfortable at the time). Slowly I warmed to the DL side and let her know this, progressively more and more.
When we'll go camping (which is maybe once or twice a year), I'll put her in a diaper so she doesn't have to worry about finding a toilet during the night. Rarely does she end up needing them overnight, but she'll sometimes keep them on an even use them occasionally. She even messed a Rearz Princess Pink diaper once when she had an upset stomach on the ride home afterward, despite me telling her it wasn't gonna be pleasant and offering to find a gas station to stop at, so she has no problem wearing and using them (and no problem with ABDL designs even) for pragmatic reasons, but is not so warm on the kinky part of it. She used to DJ at some nightclubs that would occasionally have fetish nights and has many times brought up seeing an "old crusty guy wearing nothing but a diaper", and how "gross" it was, so there's an image I have to work against there to bring the words "diaper" and "sexy" together there (and haven't successfully yet).
On top of all of this, and really the reason I'm making this post, is that she's starting to have some IC issues of her own now. Frequently if you've had problems when younger, they'll likely come back later, and that may be the case. She has pretty bad stress IC now, it used to be only when she'd cough a lot, but now happens more often with more situations, and on rare occasion without any stress triggers. She won't drink water because it makes her pee 4-5 times in an hour, and I had her ask the doc on her yearly checkup, but the doc said "does this happen more when you drink alcohol, if so that's normal", which yeah that's true, and I know 30-40% of women experience some form of IC, but she's gotten so dehydrated before I almost had to bring her to the emergency room a few times. Her leakage could all be contained by using pads and doesn't even require pullups at this point (although if she was properly hydrated, that may not be the case), but she's wet the bed a couple times and has had problems finding a pair of jeans to wear in the morning because they all smell like pee, but outright refuses to wear any protection and I won't push the issue.
I really don't know what to do. I'm particularly conflicted as, yes, I'd like to get kinky with diapers with her, but moreso I want her to not dehydrate herself to a dangerous level, and to manage a medical condition better. The problem lies in that there's no way to separate the two messages, and someone in our community implanting a rather negative image earlier on makes it a very tough sell. This is made even murkier by her acceptance of even full-on thick printed ABDL diapers for other reasons. I presume it has to do with not accepting you have a problem, but even then, is that so hard to accept when your husband has the same problem?
I seek out the sage wisdom of others here, what are your opinions?
A short background on me, when I first started having IC symptoms my wife was (and continues to be) very supportive of me, and even encouraged me to use protection. It was tough in the beginning, and I wasn't into the whole DL/kinky side (yet), but she told me about how she had bladder problems when she was young and consoled me, even wanted to watch me change sometimes (which made me feel uncomfortable at the time). Slowly I warmed to the DL side and let her know this, progressively more and more.
When we'll go camping (which is maybe once or twice a year), I'll put her in a diaper so she doesn't have to worry about finding a toilet during the night. Rarely does she end up needing them overnight, but she'll sometimes keep them on an even use them occasionally. She even messed a Rearz Princess Pink diaper once when she had an upset stomach on the ride home afterward, despite me telling her it wasn't gonna be pleasant and offering to find a gas station to stop at, so she has no problem wearing and using them (and no problem with ABDL designs even) for pragmatic reasons, but is not so warm on the kinky part of it. She used to DJ at some nightclubs that would occasionally have fetish nights and has many times brought up seeing an "old crusty guy wearing nothing but a diaper", and how "gross" it was, so there's an image I have to work against there to bring the words "diaper" and "sexy" together there (and haven't successfully yet).
On top of all of this, and really the reason I'm making this post, is that she's starting to have some IC issues of her own now. Frequently if you've had problems when younger, they'll likely come back later, and that may be the case. She has pretty bad stress IC now, it used to be only when she'd cough a lot, but now happens more often with more situations, and on rare occasion without any stress triggers. She won't drink water because it makes her pee 4-5 times in an hour, and I had her ask the doc on her yearly checkup, but the doc said "does this happen more when you drink alcohol, if so that's normal", which yeah that's true, and I know 30-40% of women experience some form of IC, but she's gotten so dehydrated before I almost had to bring her to the emergency room a few times. Her leakage could all be contained by using pads and doesn't even require pullups at this point (although if she was properly hydrated, that may not be the case), but she's wet the bed a couple times and has had problems finding a pair of jeans to wear in the morning because they all smell like pee, but outright refuses to wear any protection and I won't push the issue.
I really don't know what to do. I'm particularly conflicted as, yes, I'd like to get kinky with diapers with her, but moreso I want her to not dehydrate herself to a dangerous level, and to manage a medical condition better. The problem lies in that there's no way to separate the two messages, and someone in our community implanting a rather negative image earlier on makes it a very tough sell. This is made even murkier by her acceptance of even full-on thick printed ABDL diapers for other reasons. I presume it has to do with not accepting you have a problem, but even then, is that so hard to accept when your husband has the same problem?
I seek out the sage wisdom of others here, what are your opinions?