Thanks for such great and really useful, applicable advice. It is much appreciated! Now I just need to work up the guts to tell my spouse. . . I almost did while we were both relaxing on the front porch a couple of nights ago. Beer in hand, we were enjoying the fantastic weather. I had that liquid courage pumping through my veins and I could feel it right there, about a 1/4" away from the tip of my tongue. But then I reigned it back because we had family (my family) coming over for Memorial Day. I decided descretion is the better part of valor and I didn't want that conversation rolling around his head with my mother sitting next to him!
And I go to a 3-day Professional Development workshop in just a few weeks by myself, in another town. I figure I can buy something more than Depends pull-ups I made an excuse to buy and get to know myself a little more before I can defend against a claim that "It's just a phase" or some ridiculous accusation like that.
Thanks again for all the helpful information! You all are amazing.