Stop being a diaper lover

[Tomtomthedl]

Just to answer the title as plainly as I can. No thank you

 

[sissygirlpink]

Hi,

It’s always there, whether I purge, close it off or decide to try and be big.

The only thing that happens is the need returns and a pressure builds until I get some more.

I’ll liken it to any addiction like alcohol, smoking or drugs. The draw is very powerful and it is almost impossible without help.

There is the next problem which is probably a bigger barrier than with alcohol, smoking or drugs. Who wants to put their hands up to being a nappy or diaper lover in open forum.

On your own, I think you are wasting your time and will just end up in the purge and binge cycle. Believe me, I know.

Jenny. xx

 

[Hemix]

I remember the last time I tried to quit from AB/DL stuff. Back then, I used to watch porn, mostly amateur videos, and mess my underwear filled with toilet paper.

I wasn't happy with some aspects of my life, and when depression hit me hard, I saw pathetic that I would end up alone just relying on it.

I took the determination to quit, but my unhappiness wasn't going away and I got even more disgusted. I thought about why should I be so hard with myself, I had nobody, so I didn't have to please anyone.

I was tired of that cycle of loneliness and abstinence, I was tired of correctness bullshit and waiting for nothing, so I focused on make something I wouldn't normally do, to break the mold.

That led me to the final binge phase and how I ended up wearing nappies. Now, it's impossible for me to go back

 

[SpAzpieSweeTot]

I’m not trying to judge anybody or say you have to, but if it’s possible to quit drinking, smoking, drugs or any bad habit, shouldn’t it be possible to quit wearing diapers?

Except it isn't a bad habit, and what isn't broken, doesn't need fixing. I don't have the words to explain what the difference is between this, and an addiction, but the professionals who do care enough about us to actually know anyf%$*ingthing, all seem to agree, it isn't one. Doctor Rhoda, in particular, talked about how she always has to tell some partner in a tizzy, that this and addiction are different. I can imagine that gets annoying.

The one time I have heard of this happening, the man who quit had an accepting, and participating, wife.

 

[daxst50]

I’ve tried but it never goes away. Just go with the flow these days n not feel any guilt. It’s just me and no harm whatsoever.

 

[DinoFrant]

No thank you. I don´t ever want to stop being a DL. Took me too long to finally accept myself. Also many thousands of dollars in therapy. And being utterly miserable throughout my twenties. Diapers are underwear and not toxic synthetic substances that poison my body, so there´s no comparison with addictions. Stop trying to force similes. There aren´t. Instead, enjoy the comfy soft padding of your diapees.

 

[Travis9800]

I've done it, (Haven't bough any diapers sine Nov 2020 now Whoohoo!) but that is because I work in a sector where I am exposed to the affects of our Climate Crisis. I know people will hate hearing this, but for me personally I could not justify contributing to destroying my kids future just to satisfy my addiction that was a result of childhood trauma in the first place. I feel much better being in control & have since found less environmentally damaging ways of suppressing these urges.

 

[DinoFrant]

& have since found less environmentally damaging ways of suppressing these urges.

You do have a point here... could you elaborate, please? Which alternatives have you found?

 

[Deleted member 28729]

I've done it, (Haven't bough any diapers sine Nov 2020 now Whoohoo!) but that is because I work in a sector where I am exposed to the affects of our Climate Crisis. I know people will hate hearing this, but for me personally I could not justify contributing to destroying my kids future just to satisfy my addiction that was a result of childhood trauma in the first place. I feel much better being in control & have since found less environmentally damaging ways of suppressing these urges.

If you don’t mind me asking, if you have given up diapers for good, why are you still here? Not trying to be a jerk. I’m legitimately curious as to why you would still want to be a part of the online community if you don’t participate anymore.

 

[Travis9800]

You do have a point here... could you elaborate, please? Which alternatives have you found?

You are too kind & I commend you ability to think beyond discomfort.

1. I started with baby steps (npi) by researching addiction - Gabor Maté has many videos on you tube which were an emotional watch for me but he is very gentle & kind. Understanding what the causes are is a major breakthrough for me. There were many tears!

2. Then, I gradually reduced the amount I was wearing - like any addiction; weaning off to once a week, once a fortnight, once a month became hard at which point I had to change my strategy.

3. In order to be liberated from something you must become self aware of it. This gives you a form of control. So instead of just completely avoiding it, I would take time out to address the urges. We live in the Technical age! So I would read/write abdl literature, frequent videos, draw art, keep a single pack of pampers for the smell etc. - to trigger the exact same conclusion of before. Serotonin, Dopamine, Oxytocin, and endorphins. (Orgasm)

4. Now that I have a way to relieve the tension, a way to comprehend why I have a pre-disposition, & a method to reduce my carbon footprint - I feel a lot happier in the long run, & patterns emerge where by I am able to obtain the same mind-melting pleasures but without the guilt, confusion & self-loathing rhetorical questions of "Why am I so messed up?"

Many shall detest what I am saying here because the mere thought of fighting something many of us have used as a crutch for so many years offers a threat to our identities, & the pleasures which come with it. That is not why am I here. They have gone through enough already & don't need more guilt. It is not a conscious choice any of us made - but a coping mechanism for childhood trauma. (Trauma is not what happens to you, Trauma is what happens inside you. No one is educated how to bring up children & so there is a lot of trauma out there)

There is a viable way to reduce the impact our community has on the environment, a way to improve mental health so the fallout of reduction isn't a painful transition, & a way to even increase the intensities of the physical & sensual pleasures involved which I was not expecting! I am more creative, productive, have more time & money for my pursuits & interests, my yearning sex drive has kinda shocked my partner lol (The other night we quite literally could not even wash the dishes without making love lol so just did both at the same time!!) And instead of wearing, at night we just sleep naked now ha ha! She just said one night that there is no point putting on things she knows I am bound to take off!

--------Gets emotional from here-----------

It really hit me just what I had achieved when one morning when we woke up - completely naked, snuggled up to one another, utterly vulnerable & intimate. In amoungst my obsessions with regressing & addictions to seeking pleasure in old habits (which my partner never complained about & even participated in on occasion) I may have inadvertently been prohibiting & rejecting her needs & my own. I woke up SO happy that I cried harder than ever before. She thought that I was sobbing - from missing diapers.. which.. broke my heart.. I have to level with you. But when I told her that it was because I missed out on years of enjoying HER.. - She started to cry also.

I felt like such a fool. There's thousands of replicas of Diapers out there. Basically all the same. Cold and sterile. But there's only one of us. One of you. Totally unique. I cannot explain it. Absence makes the heart grow fonder I know, but it's like the space & time that ABDL took up in me is now being replaced with new stuff & I am finally able to move on. I am studying STEM again in my own time, exercising, I am much more comfortable trying new things like different food, world cinema with subs, new games without guns in them lol And working on sustainable solutions whilst not feeling like I am being counter-productive behind closed doors.. is liberating I must say!

TL;DR I still get those urges of course. But instead of snapping out of it once they are satiated in a pool of my own urine & feces - ashamed & victimized by my own mental disorder; sneaking the evidence off hoping no one shall discover the ramifications of my unabated addictions.. I can instead focus these efforts via passions in directions I am only just beginning to explore. And in ways which doesn't aid the pollution of our beloved planet - which I owe & love so much. This was my choice. I will leave you to make yours when you are ready.

P.S. I am going to get a lot of hate for this probably & it is very personal much of this so will run & hide for now! See ya x

 

[Travis9800]

If you don’t mind me asking, if you have given up diapers for good, why are you still here? Not trying to be a jerk. I’m legitimately curious as to why you would still want to be a part of the online community if you don’t participate anymore.

Wow. I guess this traitor is not welcome around here anymore! How thoughtful of you!

 

[Deleted member 28729]

Wow. I guess this traitor is not welcome around here anymore! How thoughtful of you!

That’s not what I’m saying at all. I’m asking an actual question. If you have successfully weaned yourself from the abdl community, why would you still want to come to a website aimed at the community? Like why would a recovering alcoholic go to a bar? I’m not saying you aren’t welcomed here. I’m just saying I would think it would be easier to abstain from a prior “addiction” if you don’t surround yourself with it.

 

[LePew]

For what it’s worth, I’m finding the content of this thread to be really toxic and I’m just so glad that I don’t share these toxic views on ABDL.

 

[Travis9800]

For what it’s worth, I’m finding the content of this thread to be really toxic and I’m just so glad that I don’t share these toxic views on ABDL.

Are you calling me personally Toxic? Because someone asked me a question, I responded as detailed, honest, & comprehensive as I could. No need to name call or accuse me of Toxicity just because I do not happen to be a 100% replica of your perfect self! This is a forum where people can share their experiences. If my experiences offend you, there is nothing I can do. Sorry. Take care.

 

[LePew]

Are you calling me personally Toxic? Because someone asked me a question, I responded as detailed, honest, & comprehensive as I could. No need to name call or accuse me of Toxicity just because I do not happen to be a 100% replica of your perfect self! This is a forum where people can share their experiences. If my experiences offend you, there is nothing I can do. Sorry. Take care.

I would not single a person out with personal attacks. That would go against forum rules.

 

[jay22250]

I usually find my binge and purge cycle matches my stress/depression levels. If I wear while stressed or depressed it helps resolve or reduce the stress or depression. Anyone else have this?

For sure. I wore before I married, but while married, had no urge. After a divorce, it was a missed comfort.

 

[Travis9800]

I would not single a person out with personal attacks. That would go against forum rules.

That’s not what I’m saying at all. I’m asking an actual question. If you have successfully weaned yourself from the abdl community, why would you still want to come to a website aimed at the community? Like why would a recovering alcoholic go to a bar? I’m not saying you aren’t welcomed here. I’m just saying I would think it would be easier to abstain from a prior “addiction” if you don’t surround yourself with it.

I clarified this in my previous comment but I shall reiterate for the purpose of your inquisition. I am still ABDL, but have amended the behavior due to affects I see single-use plastics is having on their environment due to the work am in. I've got to the point where my needs are less important to me than the needs of the many.

I am still participating in abdl artwork, literature, & have good friends in the Reddit abdl sub/r who are doing the same. Nothing unusual! It is ultimately my decision to stop purchasing certain products I do not need for incontinence purposes that I have learned to live without - regardless of how much I am bullied, berated with rhetorical questions, called "Toxic", or compared to alcoholics - which is kinda messed up btw, seeing that kills 3 million people a year according to the WHO (World Health Organization). A desperate angle to justify a callous "How dare you come back here" question in the first place.

(Bars serve food, Coffee, soft drinks etc. & offer social benefits - not just alcohol. Avoiding something is not the same as learning to say 'no' to it. Running from an addiction is not the same as confronting it.)

Maybe instead you could offer me a bit of support? Congratulate me? I'm proud of reducing this particular coping mechanism for the reasons stated. I am much happier for it.

 

[LePew]

I clarified this in my previous comment but I shall reiterate for the purpose of your inquisition. I am still ABDL, but have amended the behavior due to affects I see single-use plastics is having on their environment due to the work am in. I've got to the point where my needs are less important to me than the needs of the many.

Single-use plastics are a real problem. The solution to disposable diaper's environmental impact is obviously reusable cloth diapers or just not wearing diapers. However if you're ABDL and get pleasure, comfort, and satisfaction from using diapers then the obvious solution to fulfilling your desires without adding to the growing pollution and waste disposal problem is wearing cloth diapers - it's really that simple. No internal phycological turmoil needed.

There is something about your posts that strike me as manic and generally energized in a very abnormal way. I would really suggest seeing a mental health professional. Not just for your love/hate relationship with ABDL; but also just a general outreach to a professional to see where that goes.

 

[BabyBluePup]

I, unfortunately, can't. Especially since it's been a part of me since I was 5 (or even younger, I don't exactly remember). It sucks because it's somewhat connected to my sexuality, even though it doesn't really define it per se. The problem with me accepting my diaper fetish is that it made me who I really am in real life (and on the Internet). I struggled so hard to fit in for years, especially since I was in middle school. I didn't really think anybody would accept me, so I tried to be edgy and hang around a bunch of assholes who treated me like shit in the end. I wish I could just tell my therapist with how I feel about my diaper fetish without making her think I'm a pedophile, since I don't think a lot of people really understand so much about adult babies/diaper lovers/babyfurs/diaper fetishists in general. Every day, I get worried that it might eventually get banned from other communities because some people absolutely despise me for that. I don't even know what's supposed to be my life after college since I've been so worked up for making a fake personality for 7 years now. I don't feel like I have a true passion other than wanting to be a baby again, aside from a few other things that I do in my freetime.

 

[HomeAlone]

I’m not trying to judge anybody or say you have to, but if it’s possible to quit drinking, smoking, drugs or any bad habit, shouldn’t it be possible to quit wearing diapers?

That's what I've heard other places. It's basically an addiction of sorts and if you want to really stop, you'd have to do the same sorts if things. People have done it, but they don't hang out around here once they do. It would be like a recovering alcoholic going to a bar.

It also probably depends on why a person wears (what they get out of it). If it's a sexual association, it will be very hard to stop. If it's primarily an emotional reason, and one addresses the emotional issues and fulfilling them in other ways, maybe not as much of a burden?

I'm just not going to try to stop and I'm not going to ever purge because I don't want to stop. It feels good for lots of reasons and I'm not hurting anyone. The urge to wear seems to come in waves; I'll go a couple of weeks or longer without caring or thinking about it, then one day really want to wet myself. That's when I break out either the training pants for a nice pee car ride in my clothes, or a big fat diaper to fill up on my day off.