IF I ever encountered someone dressed like this, I'm pretty certain I could "persuade" them to NEVER pull a completely uncalled for STUNT like this EVER again!~
This is just WRONG on so many levels that it's a tragedy! You KNOW this post has been shared and reposted thousands of times already which paints a picture not only for the AB/DL folks here but also for those of us who don't have much of a choice other than to be wearing "protection" full time.
I've been wearing fulltime for close to 2 years now though I STILL didn't tell my PCP(s) until earlier this year as I was PRAYING it was just an "oddity" being caused by my badly damaged lower spine. I have a VA PCP & a NON-VA PCP who, along with my WORLD CLASS Rheumatologist that I STILL make a 200 mile round trip to see 5-6x/year (more when not feeling well outside of chronic pain) as he's worth every cent even though the Rheumy I have in the VA (by video appts only but....) ALSO seems to be top notch! For a LONG TIMER I couldn't find a Rheumy worthy of wiping my butt, and now I have 2 that are truly incredible!
But back to me and wearing. Initially, I would change outfits over and over again until I found something that made it next to IMPOSSIBLE that anyone would be able to tell I was wearing a diaper. Today I do indeed still inspect myself in front of the massive mirror in my bathroom. I look head on, both sides and try to see as much of the back as possible. Outside of the summer it is SIMPLISTIC as I have a half dozen onesie type "shirts" that fit me though I do wear another shirt over them as I am NOT happy with my misshapen body so I try to not wear shirts that are "form fitting" preferring loose and longer than necessary shirts. This past summer I was wearing Betterdry DAY under boxer underwear, shorts and a T shirt and then one day I screwed up and was out of the skinny Betterdry diapers and had to go out with a Megamax. I was convinced (again) that people would instantly know. So I stopped over my neighbor's house two doors down (one of my closest personal friends who is well aware of all of my issues) and I wound up doing emergency repairs on one of his pieces of equipment as it wouldn't run right and he had to start a time sensitive contract for the State the next morning. When I was about finished a few hours and a couple of beers later I thought it would look like I was wearing a balloon so I asked him and he honestly thought I was NOT wearing a diaper as my shorts completely covered up any bulges and the bulk of the Megamax. I once again have Betterdry Day (LLMedico, 10% additional discount for vets, police/firemen - women and others, on top of a rewards program which "pays you" as you buy and you can choose to use it as a discount on your next order or do what I do and wait until I can get a case or two for free! Trust me....FREE is awesome!) but when I'm going to be away from home for more than 3-4 hours with it being summer, I'm not carrying my backpack with spare clothing (thankfully I have never needed but I still carry it as you KNOW what happens the instant I decide I can get away with a smaller pack that only holds a diaper or two, some wipes and ointment! I'll have a catastrophic leak and no clothes to change into! SO say I'm going to diagnose a car at someone else's shop or dealership OR I'm going to *MAYBE* work on my Monte Carlo but more likely will put another 4-6 (more when feeling as well as I am gong to!) on a Corvette "restomod" I'm buildings with one of my best friends for a customer. The one we've been working on since last fall is *ALMOST* done. I have the GM 6.2L LT small block in it along with a 6 speed manual trans, the suspension has been upgraded though the factory brake system needs no improvement. All of the wiring is complete and all that I have left to do is to wet-sand/buff and then apply a "gold plated" (OUTRAGEOUSLY X-PENSIVE!) ceramic coating the customer insists on (over $750 in "supplies" for what is in essence a smaller car!) while my partner/friend still has to finish up the NIGHTMARE custom stainless steel exhaust as well as finish a couple of miniscule connections under the dash as I don't d dash work, period! My back is already beyond F***** so anything requiring lying on your back in a car with zero room to access the underside of the dash is NOT something I'm willing to do at just about any price!
My point of adding in some of the experiences I have had wearing a pair of shorts (I have ALL of my shorts tailored as I DESPISE "shorts" that go down to the knees or close to it! I don't wear "Daisy Duke" shorts by any means, but I will not wear LONG shorts. I feel they very much defeat the purpose of wearing a pair of shorts! I've worked with maybe 8-10 other people when dressed like this while in a Megamax for 4, 6 or more hours and not once did anyone even hint they had an idea what I am wearing. While all of my Dr's & nurses who have cared for me while spending over 700 days hospitalized (since Jan 2004) along with EVERYONE in my family AND ALL of my close, personal friends full well know of the majority or more likely all of my issues, I don't advertise this to those who are not close, personal friends. I even had 2 events this year when speaking to a customer about what they wanted done to their "toy" (car, truck, boat...anything with an engine pretty much!) with a wing of the Megamax sticking out, above my waistband and I'm not talking about by a little bit! NO ONE noticed, except my friend that I build cars with. I'm positive that IF I was wearing a white diaper whoever I was speaking with would likely be able to recognize I'm wearing but with the blue ones, I doubt anyone (outside of those familiar with the Blue or Black NORTHSHORE diapers) would ever even equate whatever they thought they saw with a diaper. Besides, I'm not one of these "ultra sensitive" types and I will speak freely about my issues with anyone who asks questions etc. I found I am pretty much the "adult diaper GURU" of sorts amongst my family & friends as I'm quite surprised just how common incontinence issues are amongst a wide swath of people. Sure, many are older or even elderly but one of my absolute best friends (same guy I build cars/trucks with) suffered a sever closed head injury and if you knew him 10 years ago you likely wouldn't believe this is the same guy as he lost at least 50-60lbs of muscle (he was built quite well and in his prime was 6'3" @ 235 with a LOT of muscle. He also looks older than he is, has innumerable medical problems no one has answers for as he has required both shoulder replacements, 1 complete knee replacement and a LOT of work on the other which he knows WILL NEED to be replaced in the not too distant future. He's still one of the best mechanic/technicians I've ever worked with but like me is NOWHERE NEAR what he was physically not all that long ago. He has been suffering with bowel leakage issues mainly when asleep but it's progressing as he has to be aware when he is not feeling well and his back is "out" as he leaks. He says it's relatively minor but he was wearing Depend Men's underwear and waking up to needing to wash all of the bedding despite minimal leakage. It's not like he has a "fully loaded" diaper...just liquid and not a ton of it. He is working with a gastroenterologist though this is his 4th one who doesn't have an answer because he doesn't have IBS or Crohn's or anything else that would account for this particular problem. I had to try for over a year to get him to wear a tape on diaper but I did finally succeed and he's much happier as there are no more "shitty sheets". His wife is THRILLED as she's not waking up in a messy bed. Like pretty much anyone else who encounters an issue like this later in life, out of the blue, wearing a diaper is "TABOO"! He gets away with the Tranquility ATN or Smartcore (same diaper, one is PE one has a cloth like outer shell) as he goofed when ordering once and bought 3 cases of the cloth like one. They work well enough while asleep and they're not "horrible" during the day (when he's wearing as he will NOT wear when he feels well enough to work) though he's about out of them and I already forwarded him the exact item he needs to order including the correct size for him which is M although due to how much body mass he has lost he's not all that far from being able to use a small.
OK...I wrote *ANOTHER* of my famous (or are they infamous? You tell me.) "BOOKS" to tell a story.
The "Cliff Notes" version would simply state to NEVER do ANYTHING like this as the ONLY thing you're going to accomplish is another in list that is already WAYYY TOO LONG that only serves to reinforce the stigma against those who wear diapers out of a medical need or simply because they want to . The "WHY" makes zero difference to me but the "HOW" most certainly does. The "HOW" this particular guy wore is 100% UNACCEPTABLE!!!!
CptKirk