Review: The ABDLMatch Scam

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Let me start off by saying yes: I am an idiot! Especially a professional computer nerd like me. I did this about a week before I created an account on ADISC. We all know, desperate feelings can lead to dumb mistake. :oops:

Alas my misadventure is my shared experience with all you fine folks. Like it is with many of us here I am just very lonely. So I go browsing around looking for different ABDL dating or community sites. The site that caught my eye first was ABDLMatch. Well that sounds perfect! So I create an account with a cool name and dummy e-mail account. Immediately I start getting messages from bots. Profile pics that were just too good to be true. My first reply to any message is "Hello! How are you?!". A bot reply is usually off topic or nonsense. Just having bots should have been warning signs but nope. o_O

Next, an actual person started responding to me. Someone from my area! So I have this one credit card just for these types of things. It has a very low limit and it can be easily paid off or cancelled if needed, which I did... eventually. I paid for the "Gold Level" access for three months. That was, I think like $60. I don't really remember but it didn't really matter at the time. Three months was long enough to try it out. After that, the bots stopped. Another person from my area started messaging me. It is right around this time I joined ADISC. I started posting and very quickly I got some very wise advise from Mooo. "It's a scam."

"Buy the ticket! Ride the ride!" - Hunter S. Thompson

The conversation with both of them went on throughout the three months. The responses were very regular. Offset by one day, each person responded in three days. I say person because it could have been anything on the other side. Although I don't think an Orange-haired Orangutan could type that well. (Thanks Bill!) I took the friendly approach. What hobbies? What music? Movies? TV? I asked them both, the exact same questions at the same time. The replies were different but still short and with no excitement at all. After a month of back and forth, the first asked "What would you like me to do to you?!" I'm thinking to myself, "Did I just call a phone sex hotline?" I replied back, "How about we get a drink and we can talk about it in person? I know a lot of great places in the city." She claimed security and being shy. I replied back, "You pick the place and bring a friend that can shadow you at the bar while we get a table." I knew for a while it was a scam but when I am staring down a clown, I honk the nose and stomp the foot! You also have to remember that these message are every three day so it took some time to get to a final "Let me think about it." She didn't want to brush me off because then they might not see another payment from me and that would be poor marketing. I plied the same date question to the second person. After a few messages, it was on to "What would you do to me if we went on a date?" I am a hopeless romantic at heart so I was like, "A couple of white roses. A bottle of wine. A plate of fancy seafood. Maybe I will smack you bum to check for a squishy diaper. You'll just have to cum and find out!" The reply was shear avoidance, "So you like seafood. What kind of seafood?" Next was the geography tests. How long have you lived here? What are your favorite places in the city? Do you live in the city or are you in the suburbs? The first one, to my surprised was actually familiar with many of the neighborhood in the city and many out of the way places. They must have done a lot of homework. The second one was starting to get annoyed. She just listed off a few famous landmarks and the messages started tapering off from three days to five days and then they stopped. The first person stayed around until three months expired. She seemed friendly for someone working a scam.

Anyway, I stopped using the account, ditched the temp e-mail address and cancelled the credit card. I have been enjoying the summer with some friends and just started getting back to ADISC. It's really too bad. They had some very compelling pics on their profiles! :love:
 
honestly, i dunno what else you were expecting. average guys stand no chance at online dating
 
I have had similar experiences with even the most reputable sounding sites. It has not cost me any thing but I have realized that the girls? On the other side haven't been real. I think I haven't been fooled more because I am not very good with technology and so I have to really more on life experiences rather than being brighter than other people . I think that the brainier you are the easier you are to full sometimes.
 
PapaBear001 said:
Let me start off by saying yes: I am an idiot! Especially a professional computer nerd like me. I did this about a week before I created an account on ADISC. We all know, desperate feelings can lead to dumb mistake. :oops:

Alas my misadventure is my shared experience with all you fine folks. Like it is with many of us here I am just very lonely. So I go browsing around looking for different ABDL dating or community sites. The site that caught my eye first was ABDLMatch. Well that sounds perfect! So I create an account with a cool name and dummy e-mail account. Immediately I start getting messages from bots. Profile pics that were just too good to be true. My first reply to any message is "Hello! How are you?!". A bot reply is usually off topic or nonsense. Just having bots should have been warning signs but nope. o_O

Next, an actual person started responding to me. Someone from my area! So I have this one credit card just for these types of things. It has a very low limit and it can be easily paid off or cancelled if needed, which I did... eventually. I paid for the "Gold Level" access for three months. That was, I think like $60. I don't really remember but it didn't really matter at the time. Three months was long enough to try it out. After that, the bots stopped. Another person from my area started messaging me. It is right around this time I joined ADISC. I started posting and very quickly I got some very wise advise from Mooo. "It's a scam."

"Buy the ticket! Ride the ride!" - Hunter S. Thompson

The conversation with both of them went on throughout the three months. The responses were very regular. Offset by one day, each person responded in three days. I say person because it could have been anything on the other side. Although I don't think an Orange-haired Orangutan could type that well. (Thanks Bill!) I took the friendly approach. What hobbies? What music? Movies? TV? I asked them both, the exact same questions at the same time. The replies were different but still short and with no excitement at all. After a month of back and forth, the first asked "What would you like me to do to you?!" I'm thinking to myself, "Did I just call a phone sex hotline?" I replied back, "How about we get a drink and we can talk about it in person? I know a lot of great places in the city." She claimed security and being shy. I replied back, "You pick the place and bring a friend that can shadow you at the bar while we get a table." I knew for a while it was a scam but when I am staring down a clown, I honk the nose and stomp the foot! You also have to remember that these message are every three day so it took some time to get to a final "Let me think about it." She didn't want to brush me off because then they might not see another payment from me and that would be poor marketing. I plied the same date question to the second person. After a few messages, it was on to "What would you do to me if we went on a date?" I am a hopeless romantic at heart so I was like, "A couple of white roses. A bottle of wine. A plate of fancy seafood. Maybe I will smack you bum to check for a squishy diaper. You'll just have to cum and find out!" The reply was shear avoidance, "So you like seafood. What kind of seafood?" Next was the geography tests. How long have you lived here? What are your favorite places in the city? Do you live in the city or are you in the suburbs? The first one, to my surprised was actually familiar with many of the neighborhood in the city and many out of the way places. They must have done a lot of homework. The second one was starting to get annoyed. She just listed off a few famous landmarks and the messages started tapering off from three days to five days and then they stopped. The first person stayed around until three months expired. She seemed friendly for someone working a scam.

Anyway, I stopped using the account, ditched the temp e-mail address and cancelled the credit card. I have been enjoying the summer with some friends and just started getting back to ADISC. It's really too bad. They had some very compelling pics on their profiles! :love:
ya the ABDLmatch is a joke I tried it few times but never got any responses then I tired to go on again one day but it wouldn't let me log bck into my account needless to say I'm still looking for a good ABDL website to use that isnt a scam site
 
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MissAmy said:
honestly, i dunno what else you were expecting. average guys stand no chance at online dating
Not true, it’s just that there aren’t that many good dating sites. The bigger thing is that it’s hard to find a dating site that isn’t likely to be a scam or a miserable implementation of a dating site.
 
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Maybe we need to start one?
 
Justo said:
Maybe we need to start one?
Diaper Dating Service ... you must be 'padded' to sign up ;)
 
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Everything about it screams "Scam!"

There used to be Kwink, before it got a reputation for ghosting and later shut down.

There was ABDLTown, even before that, but it transitioned from being open to everyone to being L.G.B.T. Then, it shut down.

Some still exist but with barely any activity.

Daddydom and Babygirl kept getting hacked, was glitchy and no longer exists.

Fetlife is said to have everything but a lot of it makes even other D.L.s cringe.
 
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Fetlife is said to have everything but a lot of it makes even other D.L.s cringe.
FetLife can be cringy. I've got one good ABDL penpal who I chat with over there just about daily, and I stop by the local groups to see about munches and whatnot, but otherwise... It's pretty much a jungle of amateur porn and cat-calling. I go in, take care of stuff, and get out.
 
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Justo said:
Maybe we need to start one?
I don't think creating a site with 500 males to just 1 female ratio is a good business decision.
AEsahaettr said:
The problem is that there probably is no such thing as a good ABDL dating website. Vanilla dating websites are already useless for most men, and those have a theoretical gender ratio of about 1:1 in the pool of possible users. Any ABDL dating website is going to have the same problem before you account for the fact that our community has a markedly disproportionate skew in gender ratio.

If you're a woman attracted to men, then existing dating apps are sufficient. So long as you're patient and willing to wade through an ocean of bad matches, you're likely to find a good partner as a matter of sheer statistics. If you're a man attracted to women, your chances of finding an ABDL partner are extraordinarily slim no matter how and where you're looking. I maintain that you're much more likely to find fulfillment looking for a girlfriend who's open-minded and willing to experiment and can enjoy a sexual practice vicariously (ie, she gets turned on by you getting turned on). In my experience, a non-insignificant number of ABDL women actually got into the practice because of a partner. Our own Tallulah was one such person, though it's been years since she was active here.

If you must have an ABDL partner to be happy, r/ABDLPersonals on Reddit is likely the best chance you have IMO to find someone. The fact Reddit has such a wide userbase makes it incredibly easy for someone to make an alt account and create a personal ad for free with no hoops to jump through. I also think it's unlikely for a dedicated stand-alone ABDL dating app to be as successful as r/ABDLPersonals since we're just too niche of a community.
Even reddit is very slim. It's always funny seeing males trash other M4F posts just because the jealousy of that user finding someone over them.

I've found all my luck by converting people that I've met through traditionally dating apps. Regardless, I'm more focused on the qualities of a person compared to if they're ABDL or not. One of those you can work around....
 
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PapaBear001 said:
Let me start off by saying yes: I am an idiot! Especially a professional computer nerd like me. I did this about a week before I created an account on ADISC. We all know, desperate feelings can lead to dumb mistake. :oops:

Alas my misadventure is my shared experience with all you fine folks. Like it is with many of us here I am just very lonely. So I go browsing around looking for different ABDL dating or community sites. The site that caught my eye first was ABDLMatch. Well that sounds perfect! So I create an account with a cool name and dummy e-mail account. Immediately I start getting messages from bots. Profile pics that were just too good to be true. My first reply to any message is "Hello! How are you?!". A bot reply is usually off topic or nonsense. Just having bots should have been warning signs but nope. o_O

Next, an actual person started responding to me. Someone from my area! So I have this one credit card just for these types of things. It has a very low limit and it can be easily paid off or cancelled if needed, which I did... eventually. I paid for the "Gold Level" access for three months. That was, I think like $60. I don't really remember but it didn't really matter at the time. Three months was long enough to try it out. After that, the bots stopped. Another person from my area started messaging me. It is right around this time I joined ADISC. I started posting and very quickly I got some very wise advise from Mooo. "It's a scam."

"Buy the ticket! Ride the ride!" - Hunter S. Thompson

The conversation with both of them went on throughout the three months. The responses were very regular. Offset by one day, each person responded in three days. I say person because it could have been anything on the other side. Although I don't think an Orange-haired Orangutan could type that well. (Thanks Bill!) I took the friendly approach. What hobbies? What music? Movies? TV? I asked them both, the exact same questions at the same time. The replies were different but still short and with no excitement at all. After a month of back and forth, the first asked "What would you like me to do to you?!" I'm thinking to myself, "Did I just call a phone sex hotline?" I replied back, "How about we get a drink and we can talk about it in person? I know a lot of great places in the city." She claimed security and being shy. I replied back, "You pick the place and bring a friend that can shadow you at the bar while we get a table." I knew for a while it was a scam but when I am staring down a clown, I honk the nose and stomp the foot! You also have to remember that these message are every three day so it took some time to get to a final "Let me think about it." She didn't want to brush me off because then they might not see another payment from me and that would be poor marketing. I plied the same date question to the second person. After a few messages, it was on to "What would you do to me if we went on a date?" I am a hopeless romantic at heart so I was like, "A couple of white roses. A bottle of wine. A plate of fancy seafood. Maybe I will smack you bum to check for a squishy diaper. You'll just have to cum and find out!" The reply was shear avoidance, "So you like seafood. What kind of seafood?" Next was the geography tests. How long have you lived here? What are your favorite places in the city? Do you live in the city or are you in the suburbs? The first one, to my surprised was actually familiar with many of the neighborhood in the city and many out of the way places. They must have done a lot of homework. The second one was starting to get annoyed. She just listed off a few famous landmarks and the messages started tapering off from three days to five days and then they stopped. The first person stayed around until three months expired. She seemed friendly for someone working a scam.

Anyway, I stopped using the account, ditched the temp e-mail address and cancelled the credit card. I have been enjoying the summer with some friends and just started getting back to ADISC. It's really too bad. They had some very compelling pics on their profiles! :love:
Yeah I'm afraid I made the same mistake. I recognise many of the same tactics you describe. I've noticed that there's a number of too-good-to-be-true 'women' on there and they all joined about the same time this year (it was one of these profiles that contacted me). They all have the gall to say how honesty is super important to them. Mine used the pandemic as a reason to avoid meeting in person, so I guess they saw an opportunity there. I expect they are the same person who feeds this story to everyone else they're scamming too.

From what I've seen I think they are likely to be based in the USA (not in Britain as they claimed), since they often answered my messages at 3 or 4 in the morning on weekdays, while claiming they worked from home during normal office hours. Makes a lot more sense if they're several hours behind GMT and lying about it. They also slipped into US spellings quite often - when I queried this they said they were American but relocated to Britain for work. I wanted to believe it (I've always had a thing for American mommies!) so I pushed my doubts aside for another week or two. But when the excuse for not meeting shifted from social distancing to fears for their security - when I specifically asked for a public place of their choosing - I knew I was fooling myself. So I told them straight (though I wasn't rude).

The website itself is deceitful in another way too - they leave all profiles up without any indication of the last time anyone actually logged into them. It looks as though a lot of real people joined early on, around 2014, but then realised it was a scam and stopped coming back; sadly they are now part of the lure to entice fresh people to exploit. Legit-looking reccomendations for the site like this don't help - I read this before I joined and it convinced me to give it a go. https://besthookupwebsites.org/abdlmatch-review/
Don't make my mistake!
 
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