buridan
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You are entitled to make your own decisions about what you wear. Other ABDLs are entitled to make their own decisions about what they wear.MrPurple said:ABDL is a fetish, it’s not the same as being gay or having gender dysphoria. It doesn’t matter if it is sexual or not. It is a fetish.
So that means you keep it “in the bedroom” or an appropriate space. You do not go on an exhibition spree with it.
There is a history of people using clothing and accessories to signal sexual interests (not just sexual orientation) without being sexually explicit. Usually there is plausible deniability. If a man went out in the Castro or Greenwich Village in the 1970s with a yellow handkerchief in his right back pocket, he was probably signaling a very specific interest. But sometimes a handkerchief is just a handkerchief.
If a symbol becomes known as an ABDL symbol, wearing it in public brings some risk of being recognized as ABDL by people who aren't part of our community. Personally, I don't want to risk identifying myself as ABDL to random people on the street (though I am quite comfortable identifying myself as ABDL to people in kink-oriented spaces that are not specifically for ABDLs, e.g. leather bars). Other people have different attitudes toward their own privacy, and that's okay.