Today at work I couldn't bare anymore the pad that one again leaked a bit on me and rubbed my tights. So I decided to leave as early as possible from work and ask for help the close-by medical store.
The team is very kind and they are knowing me for a while now
One lady (the boss) took the time to talk to me and discuss my issues. I was nearly crying when I arrived so she nicely took me to a private patient meeting-office for privacy. She ask me to describe my symptoms how I manage my incontinence. The issue with my current protections (leaks, confort, how many I use, skin health).
She seems to know her incontinence products. Even mentioned her incontinence problems after she gave birth (still has little issues two years later).
Said that if most of my bladder goes in my protections when outside of home, I shouldn't wear pads. That even thicker pads won't do the job since they shift, move, chafe and are less discrete than well adjusted pull ups... That I should keep the small pads for when at home or occasionally outside when discretion is required.
Also she discouraged me to wear full diapers even at night because it prevent me to use the toilets on time. For my self esteem also. She suggested other pull ups from Hartmann that should keep me comfortable and dry through the night. Molicare Mobile 10 (S). Do you know them? She gave me samples.
Also gave me another of the same brand (6 S), less absorbant for the day to see if I feel better with them in term of comfort, absorbancy and leaks around legs cuffs.
Everything went quite well with an open discussion. But I didn't had the courage to speak about the smell issue that I might have
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Then at the end, when I woke up in the small office, she asked me if I need the attached toilets to freshen up before leaving. The had already a "day" sample in hands. At first I didn't understand because I changed just before leaving the office less than one hour ago and didn't feel especially wet (except maybe some spurts). Also didn't do any fidgeting. Then I mechanically checked my crotch and my seat for a wet patch. No leak. Then when I looked up at her and said No, I realised that she was also looking down at my seat for a leak. She seems not to understand why I said no and that I should not hesitate. That she really didn't mind if I use their toilets and I don't have to stay like that.
So I tried to explain that I just didn't want to use their private bathroom since I didn't really feel the need to pee. That's when she interrupted me and explained that it's not exactly what she was thinking and that I might feel the need to replace the protection
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Then I immediately became all red. She was being nice but it was so difficult to explain that I was barely wet and changed not so long ago but it might be my smell anyway through my jean short
. Also embarrassed, she admitted that the pee smell made her think that I couldn't change for a while before coming in her store... That to be honest, could tell about the odour shortly after I arrived. But she tried to reassure me by telling me that other clients with incontinence also smells sometimes. Not an easy part of incontinence to deal with.
When I calmed down, she gave me some advice (not as a doctor but she wanted to help): more water, less sugar, always clean somehow between changes, more changes and barrier cream (at least during night time and in the morning before leaving the house).
That's some already known knowledge to me. But maybe I forgot to apply since I didn't fully realised how much I could smell.