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I do think acceptance is easier for folks when it is related to incontinence (rather than AB/DL amusement). I would include bedwetting in this because if IC happens while you sleep, it is out of your control.
If at one extreme someone says to their date "Oh, by the way, I'm into ABDL... Be my mommy?", I think the normal response will be repulsion, which shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone.
If on the other hand you present it as "I hope it doesn't offend you but I have to tell you that I'm incontinent... I manage it the best I can.". That response is likely to be different. They might still be repulsed in the end, but it conveys a very different impression of who you are.
The other thing is how you present yourself to the world. If you let your diaper hang out so that everyone can see that you wear diapers, or talk about it too openly, then the date gets to thinking, that she doesn't want that kind of embarrassment in front of her friends and family.
There are so many ways that dating can go off the rails in this. As someone else in this thread said, you have to view all of this through your date's eyes.
If at one extreme someone says to their date "Oh, by the way, I'm into ABDL... Be my mommy?", I think the normal response will be repulsion, which shouldn't come as a surprise to anyone.
If on the other hand you present it as "I hope it doesn't offend you but I have to tell you that I'm incontinent... I manage it the best I can.". That response is likely to be different. They might still be repulsed in the end, but it conveys a very different impression of who you are.
The other thing is how you present yourself to the world. If you let your diaper hang out so that everyone can see that you wear diapers, or talk about it too openly, then the date gets to thinking, that she doesn't want that kind of embarrassment in front of her friends and family.
There are so many ways that dating can go off the rails in this. As someone else in this thread said, you have to view all of this through your date's eyes.