How do people react when you tell them/they discover you are ABDL?

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My mom discovered my diapers and gay porn all in a single day, and then made the appointment for me to see a psychiatrist at a big residential mental facility, so that didn't go well at all.

Years later my wife discovered my Amazon diaper order and she was very understanding. It was the event that pushed me to join this site, looking for advise. She has been very supportive, buying me plushies, sippy cups, footed jamies, onsies and Baby Pants training pants. I'll be diapered in bed tonight.....hurray!

I also told my best friend from college and he was supportive as well. He's an amazing and unusual person so I knew I could tell him.
 
I guess I'm sort of the black sheep of the family. (Extended) I first came out as Transgendered they accepted me and life went on. I then got to a point where I did some research and found out that my diaper wearing was called ABDL. So I printed some info and had a sit down with some family members and dropped that bomb on them. Everything is great everyone knows, or at least they knew. Whether they still think I'm doing it or not is another story. So mom took it pretty good. I was really worried but things are good. My boyfriend took it pretty hard because it was so foreign to him. But we worked through it and he is much better with it because he now understands what it is to me and how I deal with it I try to be discrete and yet playful. So I tried really hard to make it a nice environment for him. So I'm lucky to have the family I have, and I hope more people get lucky positive responses when they tell people they love.
There will always be that person you would love to tell but don't think you should. I would say don't do it. I told a close friend and I ruined our friendship. Not everyone can deal with things, so pick your times and who you tell carefully.
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Honestly most people tend to find it pretty obvious about me. I don't hide my more childish interests, collecting picture books and dolls and the like. So people tend to go, "well, that makes sense" and that's pretty much it. Hehe.
 
My close friends know and think it's cute, bf knows and is really supportive. :)
 
I've told three people, including one ex. Two of the three reacted positively; I don't think the other person really "got" it, but she certainly didn't react negatively. In time I'll tell my current partner; I think she'll be positive, too, but I'm still working up the courage to have "that" conversation.
 
No one knows as far as I can tell. To me, its just something personal and none of people's business whether or not I wear crinkly underpants. I haven't had a ton of intimate relationships, but those that I have had, I never told. I suppose if I ended up having a very long term relationship, it would end up coming up at some point and I would have to say.
 
For the 2 people who've found out (my parents) it was mostly shock and a little anger. After doing their own research, the eased up and just told me to be clean with it. They're totally comfortable with it, so they say. That said, I have no plans/intentions to ever wear around them, mostly because I'd be uncomfortable with it.
 
I haven't told anyone. I gauge the temperature if you will by things people around me say. My mother is typically accepting in her own way of most things, and probably would be even more so where I am concerned.

However, there have been plenty indications it would be a difficult thing to get over. Just recently I thought about perhaps, not necessarily discussing it, but letting my guard down at least... and coincidentally there was some thing on TV... a commercial maybe? I don't know, but there was a guy dressed as a baby on it, and she immediately commented on how disgusting that was.

So... :)

Most people I know are quite socially conservative. Homosexuality acceptance isn't that low around people I associate with. Transgender? Haha no. Furries? Oh hell no. I highly doubt ABDL would go over well with most of them.

That being said, I don't actually have a direct desire to tell anyone. I'm not seeking acceptance... or validation... or a discussion... I don't have a particular desire to wear around anyone. My motivations are purely around my irritation at hiding things. I don't want to have to worry if I left a pacifier next to my chair... or someone finding a baby bottle in my cupboard... etc when they come over. I live alone, so I have a difficult time identifying all the problematic items that may be in clear sight, because they don't stick out to me anymore. I don't want to have to come up with excuses why I can't meet someone somewhere, because I'd have to go home and change into underwear. Etc. It's exhausting, and I already am not strongly motivated to socialize as it is.
 
I feel like i can't tell anybody due to my career and the negative associations that come with it. Im an early years teacher so i feel like people would take it the wrong way :(
 
I've thought about the reaction my parents would have if I told them. They're very accepting and I know that they would never be mad or angry at me, even though I would expect them to be confused and maybe worried in the beginning because they don't know what it is.

I think my father would be totally ok with it and my mother too. But I know that she would starting worrying about me spending money on diapers, she would see it as a waste of money, and how bad for the environment they are, which, let's be honest, they are. But I know them and I know I could tell them and they would be supportive.
 
I've had nothing but positive responses from the people I've told. Only seven of my friends know, and each has been totally cool with it. My close-knit group of friends in real life casually jokes amongst ourselves about our fetishes, and I have reason to believe that I'll be receiving a crudely Photoshopped image of my face on a baby soon enough. It's all in good fun. One of them is actually my ex-boyfriend, and I got him into it when we were together. Although the we broke up, we've recently gotten back on good terms. I'm not sure if he's still interested or not, but I guess it isn't any of my business.
That said, telling my family is almost out of the question. I have no idea how they would react, if they would be fine with it or if they would try to send me to some kind of psychologist. I'd rather not deal with the latter, so in the dark the parents stay.
 
I was pressured in high school to tell my fetish, and that ended up getting me some Depends while I was a sophomore.
 
My best friend knows about my abdl tendencies and is 100 percent supportive. She actually mentions it more often than I do. She has actually bought me a few plushies, and any time she sees something that she thinks I would like that would let me indulge in my little side, she mentions it to me. I think that's a rare occurrence, though.
I would generally advise against letting the general public know, because it can create problems in your social life. It's best to keep it private for the most part.
 
well i told my parents and got a decent reaction my father dont want to talk about it i think he is not ok with it but knows there is nothing he can do so he is just ignoring it

my mom is fine and she just kinda dont talk about it unless i bring it up to her like hey i am getting this dont open a package addressed to me and she just understands
 
For me, I've discovered it truly depends on who that person is AND their personality before I ever even say anything. Sometimes it comes across supportive other times skeptical.
 
I have actually faced a lot of psychological general messed up-edness as a result of never having mentioned my ABDL side and I'd always wondered if every relationship I've been part of has had a time bomb affixed to it, as in it would go off if the secret were to ever get out. I've told a few respected fellow men in my life so far (best friend, spiritual mentor, sophomore roommate, good friend, therapist, junior roommate) and each relationship has actually been bettered. I've felt like I'm not lying to them when I'm interacting with them.

Because I had let my ABDLness become my identity, I'd never felt like I was presenting the true Sheik to people around me. (Unsurprisingly, I love the song "Reflection" from Mulan) My reflection was someone I knew but I was so deeply ashamed of being ABDL. Still not sure how I feel about being ABDL, but I also don't worry as much because it is not really a part of my identity.

So I'd say ABDL should be mentioned to someone at some point, before it consumes too much of a person's identity. Nobody should have to walk alone in this.
 
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How do people react when you tell them/they discover you are ABDL?
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I'll let you know the first time it happens ;)
 
I've been wanting to tell my roommates but it just keeps coming back to that one phrase of do they really need to know beyond the fact i wear diapers.
 
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