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Hi Everyone, I've seen a few posts here where people shared they hired their own caregiver. I had some questions on how best to go about this and any wise advice and or pros/cons with the experience.
I imagine I would need to draft an email template that I can send to local caregivers through sites that offer their services? I have started on a draft and would be happy to post it for comments/proof-reading, if i pursue.
My questions are:
1). Is this illegal in any way (i.e. to request babysitting/caregiver services for myself as an AB)? I would be upfront in my initial email what the circumstances are, and this would be 100% non-sexual and consensual for both parties.
2). Have there been any really negative replies? or threats of reporting?
3). How many people do you tend to contact before getting a positive response?
4). Or is it usually quite accepting and you have multiple responses?
5). Are older (50+), middle aged (35-50), or younger (25-35) women more/less receptive? or different ethnicities?
6). Do you tend to ask nannies, babysitters (I imagine they would be the least responsive), or old age care nurses?
7). Once you have found someone, does it take multiple visits before both parties feel comfortable?
8). Do they take care of you like a geriatric adult or like a toddler?
9). Do they need a lot of instruction at first, or do you give them a list of ways to act and their responsibilities?
10). Do you feel their genuine in caring for you? or are they distant? or does this come with time?
11). How many caregivers quit after the first trial run?
12). Do you find you need to pay them a premium over what they are asking for a typical wage?
13). Do they take the job seriously? or do they cancel often knowing it is not a "need"?
14). Do they do a good job at making you feel cared for and your little age?
15) Aside from Diaper changes. Are they cool with baby baths, and constant diaper checks, bottle feeding?
16). Any typical hard limits, like no poopy diapers, no going outside in public, no cuddling?
17). Is there a typical duration? like 4hrs, 8hrs, longer/shorter?
(obviously every caregiver will be different, just wanting to temper my own expectations)
I'll probably have more questions, but that's all i can think of for now. I would really like to pursue this, but only want to if I am not coming across as a total freak/perv (even though I guess I am) and there is a realistic chance of success.
Obviously a mommy would be preferred, but I'm not naive enough to expect that. I just want to be my little self with someone around who knows and cares. So I can really let go and feel little with no adulting (at least for a few hours).
Thanks for reading and especially thanks for replying
I imagine I would need to draft an email template that I can send to local caregivers through sites that offer their services? I have started on a draft and would be happy to post it for comments/proof-reading, if i pursue.
My questions are:
1). Is this illegal in any way (i.e. to request babysitting/caregiver services for myself as an AB)? I would be upfront in my initial email what the circumstances are, and this would be 100% non-sexual and consensual for both parties.
2). Have there been any really negative replies? or threats of reporting?
3). How many people do you tend to contact before getting a positive response?
4). Or is it usually quite accepting and you have multiple responses?
5). Are older (50+), middle aged (35-50), or younger (25-35) women more/less receptive? or different ethnicities?
6). Do you tend to ask nannies, babysitters (I imagine they would be the least responsive), or old age care nurses?
7). Once you have found someone, does it take multiple visits before both parties feel comfortable?
8). Do they take care of you like a geriatric adult or like a toddler?
9). Do they need a lot of instruction at first, or do you give them a list of ways to act and their responsibilities?
10). Do you feel their genuine in caring for you? or are they distant? or does this come with time?
11). How many caregivers quit after the first trial run?
12). Do you find you need to pay them a premium over what they are asking for a typical wage?
13). Do they take the job seriously? or do they cancel often knowing it is not a "need"?
14). Do they do a good job at making you feel cared for and your little age?
15) Aside from Diaper changes. Are they cool with baby baths, and constant diaper checks, bottle feeding?
16). Any typical hard limits, like no poopy diapers, no going outside in public, no cuddling?
17). Is there a typical duration? like 4hrs, 8hrs, longer/shorter?
(obviously every caregiver will be different, just wanting to temper my own expectations)
I'll probably have more questions, but that's all i can think of for now. I would really like to pursue this, but only want to if I am not coming across as a total freak/perv (even though I guess I am) and there is a realistic chance of success.
Obviously a mommy would be preferred, but I'm not naive enough to expect that. I just want to be my little self with someone around who knows and cares. So I can really let go and feel little with no adulting (at least for a few hours).
Thanks for reading and especially thanks for replying