Hi
@Kitty13 ,
welcome here on adisc.
Its cool that you are in a well being marriage. But i know, that there are sometimes unfilled needs in that spectrum. And you doing well not to push your husband.
The problem is, that sometimes spouses couldnt fullfill evrything. And they dont have to. But what is very important, is that you for yourself accept your needs and care for them in first order.
The problem is, that for some needs, you need to have a bigger one, who cares. And if this one should be your husband you need much of serenity, time and talking. But step by step.
Sometimes its good, to take self care of things. I. E. is he fine with you being diapered in bed? Than do it from time to time. Do some little stuff for yourself.
Most of us experience in a marriage, that some aspects and needs are going to meet by our spouses. But it costs lots of time and calming down. Sometimes also indulging brings other problems and dynamics, you have to be aware. One of them is, that your spouse feels unhappy with your lifestyle, because of feeling nr. 2 or lesser in your life. Also unhappyness comes with couldnt meet your needs.
On the other way, we for our self have to know and get to know, what this needs are. Get in diapers? You can do it. Buy abdl stuff? Why not. Having abdl friends? This site is perfect for that. Having littlespace? Think about little thinks you can do in your life, like painting, hearing stories,...
There is so much to say about this topic. But there us only one thing you could do: your path and journey. And marriage is evrytime a adventure in this journey. We all should take attention to stay in contact, talk and feel the live again with our spouses. Time doesnt stand still. And perhaps at someday he is more involved, then you think.
At all, get in contact here and read others in their posts and blogs. There will be so msny who are in the same boat .
Iam looking forward to read you. Have a good start at adisc. BTW iam married and my wife gives me little little presents from time to time after 8 years being together. But she isnt fully in charge, but i can discuss with her and diaper up openly.