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For those who became incontinent, what was your path of discovery to see what works best for you?
Tried depend pull ups yikes isn’t lovely seeing your sofa soaked? Switched to depend diapers, then added plastic pants, now Bambino Bellisimo v2, no leaks!slimjiminy said:For those who became incontinent, what was your path of discovery to see what works best for you?
Six years ago I started with guards then moved onto Tena Comfort pads until a catastrophic leak in front of strangers when the pad emerged from the bottom of my trouser leg. Moved onto pull ups then two years ago I was referred to the Continence Advisory Service at the hospital and now wear a pubic pressure urinal in the morning, a Tena Flex Maxi and plastic pants in the afternoon and a Tena Ultima nappy and plastic pants at night together with a large absorbent bed pad.slimjiminy said:For those who became incontinent, what was your path of discovery to see what works best for you?
we have very similar symptoms, mine caused by an enlarged prostate and type 2 diabetes. A real game changer was when a nurse from the hospital came home and fitted an absorbent washable bed pad to my bed and now there are no more worried about leaks from my nappy.hbic60 said:Jus copied out of my former introduction post:
Since now about a year I'm facing a combined dribble- and urge incontinence. Of course I've been at the doctor with this, but organically everything is OK. We both agreed that - as long as I feel comfortable with my current situation, what I do, and as long as I do not feel a need to grab deeper into causes of my incontinence, I could also leave it as it is and accept it as an age-related issue, which I share in his experience with about 15-20% of my age group 60+. Also knowing, that the pills I have to take daily against high blood pressure which also led to a heart attack two years ago (repaired with a stent) having an effect to my continence and which my doc for no reason wants to change as my blood pressure and heartbeat is absolutely perfect now I decided as long as m condition stays as it is now to leave it as it is.
As long as I can remember I always had situations which caused a sudden pee urge. I t was never a big deal, simply hold in a few seconds, then the urge went away and everything was fine. About a half year ago it started that it was not so easy any more to hold in - a few drops, sometimes a little more came out before I could "catch" it. So, I started to use the toilet more often, and - very bad as I know now - reduced my liquid intake, which reduced the symptoms quite well. Anyway, a few weeks later I noticed that sometimes my pants - and jeans - were slightly damp or even wet. I took me a few days until I recognized that sometimes - not every day and not every time - I dribbled pee without noticing anything.
At that time during some hot late spring days, my wife asked my why the hell I did drink nearly nothing during the day and if I knew what I do with my body doing that - and I recognized that I was doing terribly wrong. So I took a heart and told her about my continence issues openly. She reacted very empathic and understanding, and - besides of course of a doctors visit - we agreed to handle the situation openly together. So I bought my first pack of Tena Pants and, now protected, started immediately to enhance my liquid intake back to a normal level. Unfortunately this also enhanced my urge continence, but I had no problem to accept this as I felt so much better now being well hydrated again.
The following time I started to try out different kinds and brands of protection. First the Pants were absolutely OK for me - comfortable no matter if dry or wet, and easy use of toilet if I had one available. But the capacity if no toilet available is not high and for changing to remove first your trousers, maybe even the shoes, underpants and then change the Tena and everything back again is not very practicable. So I switched to the Tena Flex system, which can be changed easIly and quick during the day if necessary and have a higher capacity combined with an easy use of toilet.
In the nights a different problem occurred. From bad childhood experiences I’m panicking for a wet bed. So in my Tena Pants I was sleeping quite bad and the slightest urge of pee caused me to wake up and make it to the toilet. This happened 5-6 times a night and I roughly never came to a deep sleep. So I decided to give „real“ diapers a try. First night I started sleeping better (knowing that a diaper does not leak so easy), but the getting up with the urge, still half sleeping going to the toilet, fiddling with the tapes while I already couldn’t hold any more was not the game changer. So - if the diaper anyway gets wet - why to get out of the bed at all? In the next nights I trained myself that if the urge came simply to roll on my back and let it flow. Meanwhile I don’t really wake fully up any more and after wetting within a few seconds I’m back to sleep.
So, now I’m comfortable with my situation and fully accept it. During the day I go through two Tena Flex Maxi, use still to the toilet if applicable and if not those have the capacity to take the wetting(s) without any problem. With appropriate clothing nobody can see anything that I’m wearing and I can live my normal life with all activities without any limitation. For the night I use one Tena Proskin Pant Maxi, which is also very comfortable and can handle all my nighty output without any leaking.
For the day use I switched a few months ago to the Attends Flex (10). In my opinion much, much softer (no matter if dry or wet) compared to Tena, and, although thinner, the capacity without leaking is higher!