hbic60 said:
Being IC it's usual to choose your protection as thick as needed and as thin as possible - according to the situation. Means at night, when discreetness is not a need at all but absorption counts, I wear a relatively noticeable Seni Quatro under my sleeping pants.During the day, usually a Tena Slip Maxi or, if I'm out actively walking/hiking or bicycling, or I need something absolutely discreet and invisible, a Tena Flex Plus. Anyway, wearing no skin tight jeans but a little more loose, nobody else will notice. If I'm unsure, I just ask my wife, she will tell me honestly!
On the other hand, I prefer being more on the "safe side" instead of wearing too thin (or too long) and leaking...
I completely agree with this! I love the way you phrased it, too.
Though its funny because it illustrates the differences in what we (IC's in general, not just me and you) consider to be noticeable/obvious! I love Seni Quattros, they're fantastic, but I consider them to be
super discreet! At least for a good, high quality diaper! Obviously they're no Megamax or something like that, but for the reliability you get, I think they're close to invisible!
As an aside, I have been really "enjoying" the Megamax Airlock Lites. Same discreetness, quality, and cloth backing as the Quattros, but less tendency to stretch and have tab failures compared to the Quattros.
But to answer the general question, I wonder if "obvious" is a matter of comfort and experience in diapers. Because when I was first wearing diapers, I thought even the crappy, paper thin CVS/Walgreens diapers were SUPER obvious. Now, I know I think I am comfortably discreet in a Megamax, as long as I take some proper precautions and don't wear in situations those precautions are impossible.
I'll never be intentionally obvious, like wearing a full Megamax out in tight basketball shorts, but I'm also not nearly as worried about my shirt riding up or a slight bulge anymore. I do my best to avoid it, but I don't go crazy worrying about it, either.